| rude emails that weakly attempt to spoil your POF experience
Posted: 3/30/2006 8:47:49 AM | i received this drivel in my inbox today, and i'm sure some will agree with him, and some will not. while i think it's more personal opinion and preferance, i am now over the heat of his right to be here being more important in his eyes, anyway...
yes, i know it's a dating site, yes i am addicted to forums and friends i have made here of both genders. i have no intention of leaving pof at this time because i am "clutter" to this one who at least had the balls to say so... but thought i'd share the few emails we volleyed to n fro:
him:
Not sure why you even come on this site anymore. I can only guess. There could be any of many reasons, but it just seems odd.
me:
why it would matter to you. especially as you have never taken your time to email me prior to now... so, "it" seems odd, or i seem odd? the latter is cerrtainly true, i am proud to be unique.
we met here, have friends here, and i love to write. i am home, sick the past two days, and received your note, which i have to admit somewhat smells of judgement. i am content here, and this makes you uncertain and/or bothers you why? i'd be interested in your response.
because i found someone, this automatically precludes me from communicating with my many female and male friends on pof? i take only interest in my man, in an intimate fashion.
other males are my friends, however. i also work in a very heavily male dominate environ,
ought i consider a change of workplace, as well? doubtful.
c'mon, be brave, do tell, please...
him:
There are many other vehicles to communicate on with your friends. You are clutter to me on a dating site that is all. Real simple.
me:
poor poor baby. contact a mod, or the big fish who made the rules. beware who you weakly attempt to insult...
him
I didnt try to insult you and I'm sorry you took it that way. I concisely told you what I thought. Beware of what? That you will clutter up my webpage? LOL
me
well, admittedly, i have never been referred to as "clutter" so, it's not exactly a compliment. i have retracted my claws and will let a forum decide, without, of course, releasing your identity in it. congratulations, your email has become one of my posts... shh, don't ya think if ya just BLOCKED me you wouldn't even hafta see my face cluttering up your screen?
this argument has been going long and hard, just different people, different amounts of tolerance and fairness and judgement i know...
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| rude emails that weakly attempt to spoil your POF experience
Posted: 3/30/2006 8:55:01 AM | I guess he doesn't know how to use the criteria options on the search page. He can easily not include people looking for non-relationshippy types, therefore he won't have the 'cluter' of people not looking to date anyone.
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Posted: 3/30/2006 9:05:01 AM | @ softEDGE
I think he's a lonely, lonely man and in spite of his protestations that you are 'clutter', he secretly enjoys your emails and loves having someone to talk to. After all, negative attention is still attention and for some people, it's all they've got.
BTW - you are NOT clutter. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2006 2:04:20 PM | .
Hi Clutter . . . . LOL
Just consider the source and ignore -- an out of sight, out of mind type thing. Really, though, I think some of these people are just funny. I mean, I seldom stir the pot to keep them going, but I do get a good laugh when they come back with outrageous retorts and make themselves look stupid. (saw one just this morning!)
Anyway, you write well and have interesting posts. If the guy doesn’t like them, there’s this little arrow button usually located at the upper left corner of most browser screens that will send him to something else to read almost instantly.
Edit: Yeah, ditto what GoodDay said.
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Posted: 3/30/2006 6:20:21 PM | thanks, lux, goodday n db for the kind words and ya'll reinforced my own idea of the shmuck.
somehow i doubt he knows his way round the forums at all.
so many are cam fixated, and if my pic clutters his screen, something tells me he's predatory and always scanning for new fresh prey. it must irritate the hell outta him to see my purple face, and especially so much in the past two days as i've been off work sick. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2006 6:25:45 PM | Aww..softEDGE..that was so mean..he obviously doesn't know what a great person you are
The worst one I got was today..someone I said ,politely to..I'm just here for the forums..his response was "Oh,well..your loss,then"
Don't quite think it was much of a loss. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2006 6:31:41 PM | thanks leafs! your idiot just was confused about WHOSE loss it actually WAS, eh?!
oh, last night an IM page opened up with "beautiful sexy eyes, great profile, now, do you really have what it take sto back it up?"
my one line response:
wtf ? is THAT? u might wanna actually read profiles next time;
THIS is how i back it up...
then closed the IM down.
as long as there are people, some will be those we understand and appreciate, and those we cannot or will not be able to no matter what. | |
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| rude emails that weakly attempt to spoil your POF experience
Posted: 3/30/2006 9:02:46 PM | I don't get a lot of rude emails per say... I finally got my first unsolicited hate email about a week ago... from some guy basically telling me that I'm at best a 3 out of 10, who'd want to have sex with me, my profile doesn't show my personality or actually say anything for the words it had in it...
I just quickly typed off a response of "this coming from a guy with no pic and a profile that says 'will fill out later'... uh huh..."
Mostly I get the idiots messaging me or mailing me for sex or sexual favours... those get told off and blocked REAL quick.... | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:35:29 AM | | Had one guy message me for a week or so then just before we were supposed to meet, out of the blue, he accused me of playing games. And told me to f*** o**. Okey dokey, so deleted messages and moved on. Then yesterday he messages me and asks if want to do something graphic. Replied "thought I was supposed to f.o.", he said well still do you want to. Said no, and he came back with " it's not like you have any other options". How incredibly rude. So told him "looks like you're the one without options, I have lots", then it disintegrated into rude and childish fat comments. So blocked and reported him. We'll see if he gets to stay or not, since was all on i.m. hard to say. But is he going to ruin the experience for me - not on your life. Ps. he initiated contact, lol. Guess some can't handle rejection, lol. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:45:31 AM | ^^^Openheart,
tsk tsk, you took the bait.
Guys like that are online because they are bored and you gave him his entertainment.
Remember he doesn't know you from Adam. He's a stranger. An online stranger to boot. Point being: Who gives a flying fig what some online stranger's uneducated opinion of you is? | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 1:14:48 PM | | Out of hundreds of emails, I have received one rude email, so rude emails are not a problem. Two or three guys have been slightly more persistent than I might wish, but if I don’t reply, after a couple of non-replies, they stop sending emails. More common are emails that I consider dumb—not rude. In effect, I don’t feel at all harassed by emails. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 3/31/2006 1:49:41 PM | I had this one guy make me so mad that I wanted to cancel. He totally lied about what his life was like on the profile. When I asked him to tell me more about himself, he contradicted everything he had written. I told him how much of a jerk he was, and he proceeded to say that he was on here to F*** people, I was ugly, he could buy me, he was just a cheater, etc.. I was so shocked. To top it all off, he accused me of harassing him after he said all this crap.  | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 2:07:53 PM | >Here's a good example: This pin-head wrote to me out of the blue (no previous contact)
>and said "Molested by your dad?" That was it...wow...I've seen rude, but that was the
>rudest. So we exchanged a few hate-mails and now this retard thinks I want to meet him!!
>Honest to god, he sent me his pic, started spilling his guts to me about his vulnerabilities
>and sensitivities, what makes him cry, and blah blah blah and...he thinks we are going to
>meet. Man o man! What I want to know is how did he get the straight jacket off and
>escape from the mental hospital.
>Oh there is another funny twist to the story, if you want to know....
And son that's how I met your father....  | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 5:22:29 PM | I just got one of those emails. Disgusted to the core, and deleted it right away.
"Hey Baby. I just got dumped from a 4 year relationship, and I'm, not looking for a relationship... I am just looking to hook up. Interested?"
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Posted: 3/31/2006 7:01:16 PM | I don't get many rude emails, but this one I got floored me.
My profile clearly states I am here for the forums.
I get this email from this man in his 50's and it says "you think us men are that stupid? You are not here for the forums, you are here for yourself"
WTF????
Did I ask for his opinion? I think not! It really ticked me off to be honest.
I sent him a one liner response something to the effect of what did I care what he thought anyway and the chicken sh*t didn't have the guts to even read it. LOL
Sad really. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:13:47 AM | | I have the same problem with rude e-mails. Mine is because I am an older white woman that prefers young black men. I get quite a few older white men that are real haters sending me e-mail. Some are down right evil. I think a person has a right to like whatever they like. If they dont like it why do they bother even sending me an e-mail. Maybe to much time on their hands or something. I feel sorry for them if all they have to do is send bigot letters to ppl. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 12:36:36 PM | Strangely enough, I had my first rude email last night. I have never seen this lady on the threads or forums and never chatted with her at any time. She made a rude comment about my liking solitude and said I was empty and that my province was full of emptiness. So I sent back a message and told her to look in the mirror and she would see emptiness! Then I blocked her.
Some people have nothing better to do then to insult other people and where they live? It's like...GET A LIFE PLEASE!! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 12:43:11 PM | Cheers, mandrake has been initiated!!  I just noticed I have quite the blocked user list...hehe. Added another proud member this week, in fact! And I thought I was a little sweetie... . I do have an opinion and a mind and know how to use it.
But spoil my experience here?? Too funny, never happen. Actually some are quite amusing. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 12:48:15 PM | glimmer...bucsgirl
thanks for the toast! I humbly accept your cheers! From a complete stranger though? like really? Wow, the nerve of some peoples children! I almost forgot about the block button. But I won't anymore.
I lost my virginity!! Damn! The one thing that attracted the ladies too! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 12:49:15 PM | Glimmer I dare to disagree!! I think the ones that get the rude emails ARE special!! We have dared to bring out the worst in someone. That is a special skill. Isn't it??
Please don't shatter my illusion, I may get emotional  . | |
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