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Posted: 1/18/2006 11:34:50 AM | @ molonel:
you're absolutely right. and i see quite clearly now that i took the wrong approach. i guess you can paint me the dreaming optomist that tries to think that people can be grown up and friendly. i almost always try that approach first.
my new mantra: "i AM the hammer...i AM the hammer...i AM the hammer" thanks molonel, for your good insight.  | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 12:21:44 PM | mind...I feel sorry for the man you get next J/K I tottaly respect your rights, and it does suck haveing a stalker.....atleast thats what Angelina Jolie says every time I sing her songs outside her window
Then the cops come....officer go-nad is such a c#ck block..... jeeze.
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Posted: 1/18/2006 3:14:24 PM | well isnt that nice to know. He's messaged me before...all the jerks seem to gravitate toward me i suppose... "hey there's a nice girl.....I wonder if she'll bite on my rod..." Please...if anyone's read my profile you can clearly see that I have stated I am not looking for a relationship, yet I get all these emails asking for dates.....prooving that they dont actually read it, they just see pictures. Real men aren't game players, the real men aren't on this site hunting for women like a sport. They are out there working and taking care of their families. Watch out too, however...the good "game players" will actually comment on your profile pretneding to have read when they really don't give a care. They just wanna jump in your pants....  | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 3:17:52 PM | Ashurek's reply is pretty good.
I don't think he was really playing you. I think he spent this year building up your image in his head. He fell for the person he thought you were / created for you. When reality finally slapped him upside the head, he lost interest. This isn't really too strange. We all build people up in our heads...Internet dating compounds it. I do think he went a little overboard...but who cares. Whats done is done. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 8:57:06 PM | @lunchbox6:
angelina jolie huh? well.....stalk big or go home. hehe! feel sorry for the next man i get? meh...don't bother. there may not be a next man. a friend, who recognizes me for the psycho magnet that i apparently am, recently asked me if i was sure i wasn't maybe batting for the wrong team. who knows...maybe she's onto something here. gee...next time you're over at angelina's, see if you can get me her number, wouldya?  | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 9:01:02 PM | @ cheekytiki:
i hear ya sista! dealt with my fair share of the like too. find that block button and work it girl! it's a good weapon of self defence in here. and then repeat after me....."i AM the hammer"
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Posted: 1/20/2006 12:24:24 PM | | I cant go within a 5 mile radious of her anymore....so now I have to sing with a bull horn....god I wish I could actually meet her tho....she is super fine...she could play me like a fiddle, I wouldnt mind. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 12:34:05 PM |
and then repeat after me....."i AM the hammer" ....right molonel?
Do not imagine striking the loser with your fist. Rather, imagine your fist passing through the loser toward a target on the other side. Remain calm, cool, serene. Let peace flow through you like water, while the violence does not stain your soul, but rather it goes through you without anger or pity.
You are the hammer. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 9:10:09 PM | @lunchbox6:
hmm....now what good fiddling song do you think she might be playing?
and trade the bull horn in for one of those wireless microphones...you'll sound much better. so, i guess the phone number is out then, eh? lol | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 9:14:14 PM | @ molonel:
ahhh....wax on, wax off, might be a good place to start practicing this, oh wise one? teach me oh great swammee of the love lorn tool box. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 10:17:22 PM | | mindinflight...sounds like a bad movie...and yet you ask for everyone's two cents and get defensive and pissed with their views...take the good with the bad...i know i get defensive too but it isn't personal...and i would have never let some guy i went out with once talk with my daughter....creepy guy.... | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 10:59:44 PM | We worked on my marriage for a long time, trying to make it work, he was just a male friend she said, I totally believed her. *TRUST* good luck!!! I really found out that she was having her cake and eating it too. I finally caught her and her male friend f**cking.
She played with me, and our children's minds, that is a shame. She is still playing the head games with the children and myself. Maybe it's a control issue? HMMM The head games are not what I want out here. I went threw it all ready, had enough, do not need it. Most of us out here are trying to find something special again, to have that feeling in our heart, and the pain to go away. Tell the truth, sometimes things in life do change, just tell the truth! Is that so wrong to do? Is it that hard of a thing? *Truth* YES, it may hurt.
But people like to push buttons, have their fun with you, why?, especially when your a honest, caring giving person, that likes to help others, like myself.
A gentleman is here, it's finding a true lady!!!
Can I ever get serious again with someone?
Wondering if they're real!!!
Time will tell.
YES I AM REAL!!! and it does hurt. 
Please No Head, Mind Or Any Other Games. Thank-you. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 11:16:56 PM | yeah that guy sounds a little.. I don't know, if you were giving him signs it sounds like a case of treat them mean keep them keen to be honest!! thats a positive way of looking at anyway, maybe he's got lots of growing up to do.
on the negative side - he could be nuts | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 3:29:32 AM | I met a guy off of here he contacted me first....so we began the back and forth instant mailing..we decided to meet for lunch..he asked me to set up a time and a place and we could go..I asked him to let me know about the time and place in the last e-mail....okay the day comes and no reply..I see where he has been on and read my last mail....so I mail him again and tell him I guess he changed his mind and told him to have a nice day. So he left me a reply back this morning saying he jst got my message from yesterday and apologized about that and said there was something wrong with his computer and a friend came over to fix it so he could not get his mail in time and said hope to hear from you soon????...what does he think I fell off the turnip truck? Question to everyone..when you see where the person has read the last mail you sent them how can they possibly lie about a broken computer....geez | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:24:17 PM | @ imanurse:
correction hun....i was asking a specific question. wether the guy is playing games or not and the fact that he is a little on the psycho side, was never a question in my mind, nor the minds of the people who know all the details of this story. although i'm not really "pissed" at these people, i am a little frustrated that unfortunately some people are taking it upon themselves to try to answer what i already know, without all of the details. these people that i am defending myself to are far more interested in making assumptions and jumping down my throat than paying attention to the question i posed in my original post. my question, was simply as to WHY people seem to need to be cruel and play these games. personal or not, i prefer to utilize my right to defend my point.
oh...and as for letting this guy talk to my daughter...i never have provided that allowance. he chose to wait until he knew that i was at work and she was at the home of our friend and he called her there. to say that i am livid about this would be an understatement! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:27:52 PM | @ heart-like-mine:
AMEN to the truth brotha!!! and any scumbags that would use a child as a pawn in their little games should be shot and pissed on, male or female. i harbour all the same questions and mistrust that you do now. it wasn't always this way, but one too many games has pushed me over the trust threshold. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:32:55 PM | @markontario:
nope...no signs. i was completely honest about not wanting to date the guy for the entire year. it wasn't until i finally relented and agreed to meet with him a second time (a year later), we spent a nice evening together among friends, he sent signals that evening that showed his interest was still there, so THEN...for the first time in a year...i rethought the situation and admitted to him that i may be interested. from there he went cold...and weird. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:40:33 PM | @hairdo41:
i hear ya sista! who will ever know why anyone would bother to lie when we all know the truth is right there, plain as the nose on your face. that's another thing this guy has been doing....says he's cold to me because he's got an ex girlfriend back in his life....but he's still on here fishing. i've seen him come online here at plentyoffish many times. to the best of my knowledge, he's NEVER bothered with the forums (unless he's recently started since all this has happened), so he can't use the old "i'm just in here for the forums" line. i also see that he's now read some emails i'd sent him (when we were still friendly) but he'd ignored until just recently. i guess it really IS useless to try to understand the crazy! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:51:10 PM |
so, finally i give in and tell him i'll do something casual and "non-datish" with him.
eep! Guys take that as relenting in another way (some of us are really weird like that. Blame Cro-Magnon Man and all his buddies, way back in the day when women were considered as little more than chattel).
and he even asks to speak WITH MY DAUGHTER on the telephone, including her in all the excitement too.
That would rate a solid "Hell no!"...
i've tried to talk to him since, but he's not reading my emails and he has blocked me from his msn.
Problem solved, I hope? | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 10:14:05 PM | | i'd leave him alone i've got no idea what's happening, but sounds like he's lost interest for whatever reason so leave him to do what he's got to do, is always best | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:10:01 AM | @PixelJockey and markontario:
yep, problem solved, several weeks ago. dropped him like a hot potato shortly after the night we met for the second time...the second i recognized the game he was playing. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:12:22 AM | "so, i meet a guy online. we spend hours chatting, both online and then graduating to phone calls. i'm upfront with the guy right from the get go, telling him that i'm going through some stuff and really not sure where i am with myself. i tell him i'm really not looking to date, but the guy is relentless, constantly bugging to go out. "
Had to stop right there "Mind in flight"
Because you're playing Games with him (and many other single men on here) by putting up an ad in the first place when you give the BS line of "I'm not looking to date right now
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Posted: 1/24/2006 2:42:52 PM | @hambone352:
WHOA!!! buddy...YOU need to take the little blue pill and then listen up. methinks we need to clear a few things up, since you OBVIOUSLY weren't courteous enough to have read through all my points before jumping down my throat like a raving lunatic!
FIRST, lets understand something. when i met this guy, it was NOT in here. there were NEVER any games. like i said, i was always perfectly clear to him about the fact that i wasn't going to date him. we met under the pretense of friendship only and i stuck with that throught the year that followed.
SECOND, i think it's far better to admit that i'm taking a break than to pretend to get involved and play little mind games with some unsuspecting victim. i've been that victim far too often and believe me, it's not fun. i have far more respect for the people that admit they might not be ready to be in a relationship, than those that take advantage of you and let you think you stand a chance and then break your heart after they're through manipulating you.
THIRD, i am likely one of the most honest people you'd ever meet. i've tried to portray my position to the very best of my ability within my profile. anything further than what is written in there is open to discussion with people i feel comfortable enough to converse with outside these forums. i am a long way from playing games and my "line", as you call it, is not "b.s.". it's absolutely and completely, where i stand on this issue.
FOURTH, last time i checked, this site was a free site for many people of many types to find other people who might share their interests. these interests (correct me if i'm wrong) are not strictly limited to "dating". i've seen many people in here looking for friends, activity partners, email/chat buddies, forum activity, flings, marriage, ltr, str, extramarital affairs, escorts while on business trips.....and the list goes on and on. while i do not condone all those things, my feeling, is "to each their own". it is my right to choose NOT to associate with the people looking for different things than myself. you hambone, would be good to follow suit.
FIFTH, you chose to come into a thread that i started (in which i asked a specific question). instead of sticking with the topic at hand and keeping the point of your comments to that, you chose to blatantly ignore most of what i had to say, and go off on a rant of your own, not really pertaining to the issue in this thread at all. might i suggest that the next time you feel like spewing a bunch of garbage and unecessarily trying to berate someone who has done nothing personally to you to deserve it, that you at least show enough courtesy to start your own damn thread. you're very rude!
AND FINALLY,
This crap irritates the hell out of me, when a woman like you contradicts herself. buddy, you have nothing to worry about, because aside from the fact that i don't contradict myself, a "woman like me" wouldn't give an inconsiderate man like you the time of day. so don't let me bug ya little man. | |
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