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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 4:48:45 PM | | Can a person fall in love with the e-mail stage. Yes. They can. My cusion did, and knew he was the one before they met, and now they are married. (Have been for a few years, and still going strong.) So yes, some can, but its rare. Normaly its people that are sure of who they are, and know what they want out of life. Thats the ones that end up married, and it works. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 4:55:45 PM | Anything is possible... and I think once there is a meeting of the mind and the heart, yes it's possible to fall in love before the bodies unite.
4 years ago, I met someone on the internet and we fell in love. He lived in Athens, Georgia. I live in Victoria, BC, Canada.
It didn't happen in an instant. A friendship developed through hundreds of emails, "from sharing wits to sharing souls", as he once wrote. There were many phone calls before one dared to confess "I'm falling in love with you." Many more followed, asking "How much of this is real?" before we met.
We agreed to meet with the understanding that there was no pressure to have sex, that if there was no physical chemistry, we'd enjoy the visit as friends. But the chemistry was there. Physically, he wasn't the type I would normally be drawn to, but we had such a strong emotional connection, the desire to be close physically was powerful.
Fortunately we were able to see each other on average 2 weeks/month. It lasted about 18 months. The challenges of a long distance relationship would require another thread... but I wanted to address the concept of falling in love with someone before meeting... I say yes, it is possible... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 4:56:29 PM |
I think a person can fall in love with the IDEA of what the other person could be like, but until you get to know the other person face to face, you really don't know who they are. Letters and forum posts can be thought out. The character of the person can be translated to anything they want it to be. But it's the little things that makes a person who they really are, and that almost never comes across before you meet face to face.
Absolutely perfect answer!
You're deluding yourself if you think you can love an email.
And LeafsLady is my best friend for the rest of the day! The rest of you standing in line to apply... better luck tomorrow.
I actually developed a pretty strong crush on a person after just e-mails and a few phone calls. So I know the idea exists. But, like I said before, I developed a crush on the idea of who this person is, not on the person himself (even though he's a great guy!). | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 5:08:13 PM | I think it is possible...........{Happened to me more then once}
But I always run into the same question........."Why do you love me, even though you haven't met me?"
And nothing I say ever is good enough for them.
So now if I ever feel that way to a girl.............I keep it to myself.
So I don't start off in a possible relationship with 1 strike against me. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 6:20:51 PM | | Ok, how is it that all you people are falling in lust with someone you've never seen, smelled or touched? Falling in love because a person is admirable, honourable, courageous, kind, etc I can understand, but lust? That's like saying you fell in lust with a porn star. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 6:33:40 PM | In the end, do we fall in love with a person, or our ideas about them? Or, are we just addicted to the chemicals that are released when we think of the person, or around them? I think it's all of the above and perhaps more on a spiritual plane.
I have experienced love for someone I have met online. Their personality does come through. It sucks though, it isn't as good as being with someone in person.
I don't disagree with Ironic btw. I may indeed just be desperate. But, desperation does not rule out wether or not one falls in love. It's like the saying, just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get me. Desperate people fall in love too. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 6:56:15 PM | | Its not a really good idea, and I also dont think it should really enter one's mind prior to at least talking with someone on the phone. But the truth is that there are many people who fall in love at a distance. It happens all the time. You fall in love with a person for who they are, not just what chemicals flow in person. Its important to be careful, but love can happen from talking with someone. Isnt that basically how it takes place in person?? Its the same thing except, doing that only based on the written word is just not smart. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 7:17:04 PM | ^^^^^^ Well whatsmynameagain..I am sure Sean would feel the same way....
Now as far as loving someone with out seeing them...Love is blind...you can think you love someone on line not seeing them.....but you can also spend years with someone and find out you never realy loved them...
I can see it from both angles...and if you fall in love with the thought of someone and the way they act and behave and think...is that wrong...feeling love no matter how you feel it can be wonderful....lot better than not feeling love it at all.. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:21:24 AM | it's too bad about all the doubters here, because I'm falling in love with all of you!!! LOL I guess we won't be starting a polyamorous long distance relationship, dang!
people fall in love with the IDEA of who the person is whether they meet online or in person. isn't that why men complain that their GF or wife wants to change them???
and yes, falling in love with someone online before meeting them is perhaps influenced by loneliness and desperation, but maybe one is also hopeful. i'd rather see a desperate person with hope than one who has given up on love. so anybody want to marry me, huh, please, come on, pretty please? | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:30:29 AM | | You cannot truly fall in love with someone before meeting them and taking the time to get to know them. If you do feel "love" prior to that, you are only in love with the thoughts you have about that person -- and most likely they are only fantasies. I have had to deal with a couple of female friends that have been seduced by their imaginations (and sadly, I have to admit to it once myself) Reality is so much sweeter. Do not waste time getting to know anyone who can't meet you in person. After that, it won't matter how you communicate -- and if the spark isn't there, you will be able to move on without the very real heartache of a broken imaginary relationship. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:50:50 AM | I'm of the opinion that falling in love takes time... and true love involves all facets of your lives... understanding all dimensions of the person you are falling for.
I'd have to agree with the people who say it's possible... I think there are people out there who give their heart easily, but is it a deep and abiding love? No... probably not. Will it change with the added element of a person's physical presence? Absolutely! It is also likely that as many people have mentioned, that the person falling in love is more in love with the idea of the person or the idea of being in love. There is far too much to a relationship to really conduct it over the internet alone. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 10:09:11 AM | | No, I don't think it's possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person. I know of people on here who say they are in love with someone they've never met. But until you meet that someone, you really don't know much about them. Yeah, they can say all the right things in e-mails and on the phone, but you really don't know anything about them yet. You don't know what their personal hygiene habits are. For all you know, maybe they only shower once a week, or they don't cut their toenails, or they have wads of dirt under their fingernails. They may have some little personal habit that drives you up the wall, but you'd never know that before meeting them in person. People delude themselves by assuming things about a person based on photographs that may not even look like the person, in person, or because of nice words spoken in e-mails. Basically, people are in love with the idea of being in love, and just pick a target to aim those feelings at. Fantasyland can be much easier to get than reality. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 10:32:39 AM | The woman I am currentlly seeing intimatelly I met on a Phone Chatlne,and we only talked on the phone for 2 freaking years before meeting.Now thats a long time to have a relatinship only on the phone.She Loves the hell out of me,but due to circumstances we will never be more than sex buddies.we have been together for 5 years now.Do Ilove her,I do not know,I do care deeply for her though.We do have a strong good friendship.
Cybersex No tat is not engough for me.
Online dating,never met anyone from just online,I think its bunk,but thats just my opion. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 10:57:34 AM | you can love the person you know
no matter how you know them
even if it turns out to be
someone you never knew they really were
i believe so
...hump day.. borring lol
got off sooner then planned
supposed to have an outdoor hockey game
today but it's already rained out *sob* | |
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