| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:02:41 AM | Sure, it's possible, but its still no guarantee that it's gonna work out once you meet in person.
The key is not to have unrealistic expectations. It might work out or it might not. There are many factors to make a relarionship succesful. Personality is a major factor, but looks and behaviour is another factor... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:18:15 AM | | NOPE! I don't think it's even possible to fall in love at first sight! I am not a believer of these things...it takes me a looooooon damn time to even consider whether I " love " the person or not and when things go on, I constantly wonder if I really do " love " them. I can honestly say that I have only loved once. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/20/2006 4:08:55 PM | I think really loving someone with all of your heart and soul is a choice and a committment. Many people think they are in love when they are in LUST..they find out it wasn't real when the newness wears off and they become bored. At this point, they may or may not choose to love and committ to each other. Love is an action. I don't believe it can happen unless the person is choosing it.People have different motives for the way they act. Some men/women take hostages...others are codependent, and even more are just plain lonely and/or bored. Lots of married men "fall in love"(they think) when it is just a way to get outr of a marriage that they don't even know they want out of. The affair is the action that precipitates this. Many women "fall in love" because they want someone to take care of them.I don't consider any of these to be true love relationships.
My interpretation of love is when you want the other person to grow to become his or her best....even if it means that they leave must you to achieve their goals and dreams.This kind of love is unselfish and expects/demands nothing in return. I think it's a rarity. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/20/2006 6:30:26 PM | Love, in the context we speak of here, has to be in person.
One can love a friend, and make good ones on the Internet.
Romantic love requires face to face to be real. People do fall in love all the time on the net, but mainly with a virtual person and not a real one. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/21/2006 10:55:51 AM | "Yes, it is. Happened to me. She was living in Australia. Chatted for about 8 months before meeting, both online and on the phone. We ended up moving across the world a few times and having a child. Split up a few years later. She lives a few blocks away now, we're friends and co-operate in raising our child. No regrets."
The quotes relates to Khuba Khan, not me. I must be too stupid to find the instructions on how to quote where the quoted section is highlighed in blue.
See I knew it was possible- Here Kubla Khan fell in love before meeting her and it lasted a few years. A few years is much more than the international average. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/21/2006 12:25:26 PM | Absolutely...as bizarre as my story will sound to some of you..I still say yes.
I have had an internet/phone relationship for 9 yrs. ok don't get me wrong we both see other ppl and have our own lives ...(I'm not that weird) but we def. love each other and we always will.
Every time we made plans to meet something would stop it I believe it was fate...
we actually decided not to meet so that just in case we didn't like each each other in person we would still be cool with each other....I know its crazy but it just seems to work for us...we always tell our friends we have this relationship b/c we know that someone would always be there for us. (Yes we actually have a couple of mutual friends)
BTW we are supposed to meet on our 10 year anniversary | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/21/2006 4:24:03 PM | | You can start falling in love with someone before you meet them. I have with a guy I met on pof. We've been chatting and seeing each other over our cams almost the whole time. We recently met and it was unreal. We just connected. Almost lost it all though because of a friend of him. He called me a gold digger and that I was just using the guy. I've never used anyone. I look for him everyday on the computer. If I don't hear from him I worry. We chat everyday. I'm lost with out him. I know it will be a tough relationship to keep together because he lives almost 2 hours from me but I guess all we can do is try. No one knows what the future holds, right. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/21/2006 4:35:44 PM | | You wouldn't even believe how much Angelina Jolie wants me. And yet we've not met. Of course you can. The emotion of love is conjured largely. Some undefined attraction that exists through some external stimulation. Be it words, or looks, or any number of elements. On some level we are all enamored of someone else. Meeting doesn't necessarily preclude that. I often consider what it would be like to meet some of my friends from here. I freely use the term love in mailing. It's because there is something about that person I deeply admire or am attracted to. I don't know about the bodies production of endorphins or phermones when the eventual meeting would occur but I'd venture that if you actually were that taken with someone it wouldn't be out of the realm of possibility to forego being giddy and all 13 like. Just an opinion. Dr.Pheel I aint' | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/23/2006 4:13:58 PM | I myself believe it is possible. When you spend time talking with the person... if they are being honest in the conversation... Yes it is. You get to know the person a whole lot better by talking to them then when you are blinded by their looks. I have spent a year talking to someone and I defenately have fallen "In Love".
Now, what happens when you meet the person, they may not exactly look like the person whom you thought it was, even if you did see them many times on webcam but it just doesnt matter anymore if their looks are what you thought they were, you are in love with the person and not in lust. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/25/2006 1:05:04 AM | YES!!
assuming i saw pic and talked on the phone. You know...the convo where u can talk about pointless stuff for hours on end they make u simle and ur on the phone for ever and dont realize it? yup that!!
Meeting them is a reinforcer. It makes it stronger.
Looks count so they need to at least be cute and if they are then it makes u fall for them even more!
Hey were all going to get old one day and whats left? May not be looks...
Something to ponder :) | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 2/3/2006 10:11:32 PM | | I have to agree with dionysyus in that you can spend alot of time talking.. emailing.. and when you finally get in the same room you can have a serious aversion to even the very smell of that person.. and how do I know? Been there done that ..... I loved his brain... it was his actual physical presence that annoyed me... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 2/3/2006 10:20:43 PM | holy crap i hear this all the time..but seriously people...how can you fall inlove without havin the emotional... physical contact with that person? online its just lust.
i talked to someone for quite sometime..i didnt feel love for him at all..i need to be attached to the person before feeling it. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 2/3/2006 10:35:27 PM | | A person can fall in love with someone simply by online contact. If you have had a painful, emotional past, a person turns reflective at every turn and begins to analyse each morsel of word that comes by message to them. If the right words are said gently . Ever so slowly a person can fall deeply in love and be badly hurt if things fade into nothingness...Sure it would be simple if everyone was created the same and everyone reacted the same to each situation but then I love the differences that are out there... You all rock. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 2/3/2006 10:52:02 PM | | seriously speaking it could or is possible ... say for example a person is very lonely and very susceptible to another person's charm and way of placing just the right words to charm and beguile the person... before the lonely one realizes it head over heels with the online words and trouble a brew... Lonely ladies and gents do exist out there. Some so lonely that they grasp at the incoming e-mail like it is a golden nugget... I am not saying that is the norm but it could be possible for someone to fall in love without ever meeting the other person. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 2/3/2006 11:04:05 PM | I'll speak for myself more then...lol.
Yeah U have to connect very strongly on a lot of levels AND at least hear their voice, often.
And it can be more powerful and meaningful because of the lack of pretence and physical contact......doesn't guarentee anything, but the question is, if it's possible. | |
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