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I've been dating a guy for a little over 4 weeks and there are a few "personal" things that he does that I find gross
Should I be offended by this???
I think you already answered your own question. While some women may not be bothered by it, you clearly are. If you think he'll somehow change or improve, I wouldn't count on it.
Sounds to me like you need to cut him loose and move on. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 9:06:05 PM | When you can hold in your urine in when you have to go real bad then you can tell him he can't fart in front of you. It's very hard not to fart, maybe he's drinking too much carbonated drinks or eating too much beans.
Almost every guy spits, you spit when you rinse after you brush your teeth what's the difference? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 9:33:03 PM | Wow. I'm not sure what to say....... I wasn't aware that farting was such cause for concern.
If these things are bugging you, then it is time to talk to him about it....if he's unwilling to change, and states that this is part of who he is, then move on. At least he was honest enough to reveal the real him instead of putting on a facade.
I wouldn't tell him that he HAS to change....just tell him that you feel disrespected, and see what he says. If you attack him with demands, he will likely shut down. :-D | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 9:56:11 PM | Yes it is normal. For those who are crude and vulgar.
Are you crude and vulgar?
If not, find someone who is in your class. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 3:56:04 AM | Well, on the up side, he is comfortable with you. Maybe he is used to being in a long term relationship, and has gotten to this point in the past with other women, so is extra comfortable getting to this point with people, and comfortable just being himself. Yes, it can be gross anyway. Just talk to him about it if you feel like you want to stick around. If you are really disgusted already (even in what should be the "infatuation" time), then perhaps your attraction to him isn't that strong to start with, or maybe you two are just not a match in this regard. I think it's pretty normal though - getting to the point of farting in each other's presence. Hasn't it happened with any other boyfriends you've had? And some people fart more than others, so maybe you've just been lucky in the past.
Different people draw the line at different places. I would bring it up if you're in it for the long haul though. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 8:37:47 AM | I just broke up with one like that. Not only was he gross like you described but his personal hygiene was disgusting. I might have been able to put up with the lack of manners but not showering or washing up before trying to hug and kiss me just grossed me out.  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 8:54:42 AM | I agree. This guy has no class.
My serious girlfriend of a few years ago and I dated for a year. I had a fart escape in her presence and I was mortified! (I'm usually an easygoing guy, but I was so smitten that I didn't want to come across as gross or gassy.) She was shocked but then laughed. It never happened again, though.
Anyway, a guy who spits and farts in front of you is no prize. He needs to learn how to act in front of a lady, and if he is convinced that there's nothing wrong with that, move on to someone with a bit more class. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 10:47:03 AM | Why are you asking strangers if you are offended by something. If its offensive to you then its offensive. You don't need peer pressure to know this guy is gross.
Again, we are not dating him; you are. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 12:07:06 PM | | Dear Cup, Yes dear it is normal, but don"t you want more class than that? You won't ever except it and you shouldn't, find someone else-----gross---- Doc | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 12:17:10 PM | | These may be normal body functions butthey are disgusting in front of others,I would suggest never kissing this person,since I would be afraid of what he puts in his mouth.Good luck girl..but that's just gross!! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 12:39:12 PM | | If he has had gas once or twice that is one thing but if he has no stop button ouyvey. I wonder what a "Bad Impression" would be? Yes we are all human but a little bit of tactful discretion would be in order. but not to worry they have a book out from Dale Carnege "How to win freinds and influence people". Whats up with all this anything goes junk the last time I looked there were still manners of etiquette for humans. If you have to ask you probably don't like it!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 2:00:40 PM | well not to me and im a male. its a bit crude. and that behavior is not shown til youve been together for much longer like a year or so....just means he wasnt riased with proper manners or never learned what he was taught....good luck | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:15:34 AM | | I think that maybe you might not be happy in some other areas also If his farting in front of you is bothering you. He is saying excuse me. He could have a medical problem with that and, is embarassed about it. Ask him | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 4:02:23 PM |  lol, this dude is gross...the farting is one thing...but spitting? picking zits? you should really say something to him and if he can't stop being a slob, then you have to let him go, there is not telling what other gross body functions and habits he will unveil once you all really get comfortable with each other... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 4:05:03 PM | | I think you should just tell him that that behavior is just really gross. Maybe he doesn't really understand that this is offensive to you...How can you expect him to know that you don't like it if you don't tell him? We can't read minds. | |
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