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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 11:27:08 AM | I can relate - I have been down in that pit of dispair - when it felt like there would never be a day again that life would seem worth living. But it does pass - as they say time heals all wounds.
And though you may feel angry and hurt - as these feeling pass - perhaps you will realize other things. She didn't do what she did to hurt you. Love isn't really about possessing someone - is it? Isn't a part of love hoping that the other is happy - where ever she may be? I'm not judging you - it is are instinct to want the one we love to be close. And even though things may have seemed to work out so badly - didn't she give you a gift? She may not be with you but through her you were able to experience love - get out of yourself and feel so strongly about another - to be in touch with your humanity at its most intense and profound level - to experence life at it's extremes! By connecting so strongly with another do you not become more in touch with who you are? It may be hard to see now but you will grow so much from this - she has given you something.
But right now - it all just seems to suck - totally natural as far as I can tell. A bottle of bourbon a couple packs of cigarettes and some blues CD's might help . The most important thing to remember I suppose is that - now matter how impossible it may seem - this too shall pass. When the experiences of life seem overwhelming I guess it's natural to want to retreat - to even die - but we're here to live it and live it all because what is the alternative - keep it together brother - keep your stick on the ice (as a good Canadian boy might say) | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 11:36:52 AM | | When you fell in love it was heart and soul. When she left you, she gave your heart and soul back to you.(It's there just look for it) Share them with some one else, else they be wasted. Lots of wonderful people out there wanting to share as much as you do. Be strong, she'll come along. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 11:51:57 AM | | Please hang in there. My boyfriend just dumped me this past weekend and believe me he was a loser. I came to this site to start dating again and saw your post it. Please dont do any thing rash. I feel the same way right now. I cant even look at pictures of other men, so I know how you feel. It hurts like crazy. lets keep in touch and help each other through this.Please take one day at a time. Although I know you dont want to wake up and face another day, just do it and see what the day brings. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:05:23 PM | Dude:
You kill yourself and you will live eternally with torture and pain. It's messed up thinking about that...get yourself help. There is some kind of crisis help line for things like that. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:15:59 PM | | oh my sweet young man , I was at that point in my life .I was married a long time loved him Id have died for him yep. when I found about his girl friend I just about did>> die honest ,but heres the great Part """ it took 2 yrs of my life to know it wasn;t any thing I did we just stoped loving and god once I realize I took back my control of my body and soul my life turned around so can yours .Time does heal all wounds !!!!!!really does and in time your life will change .I wish you the best xxxxxP.S !!!! yes your life may never be the same and she may have a place down deep but OH yes you can MOVE on I did god its nice to be free !!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:25:15 PM | Felt the pain but not as much to let go of life...NO WAY !!
It's so incredible to see so much love from these posts for you, people care and tell you what's best for you, so take it day by day and to keep yourself occupied...keep reading these posts. Hang in there, the best decision you can make for yourself.
Having said that, let me clear a few points :
1)The girl left you, to marry someone else soon = Not worth it, obviously she doesn't care, so why should you ?. If you want to see her, see her as a Monster, just hiding in there and now revealed to you.
2) Why would you waste your life that way.,.,..when she gets to have a blast, get married have kids. Let her Go, she's not worth it. Find a girl of your liking, give it time, everything shall be okay !!
3) Okay so she gets married, has kids....then....ummm life has it's struggles, so she'll have to face life just like you do.
See this as a positive to help build yourself, like someone already mentioned....one day you'll see this as an episode in your life rather than a dark moment. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:35:32 PM | | We are all a death in progress! Don't rush it. Some are more fortunate than others. You need to work on your self esteem. When your life has no meaning, without someone else, then you need on working to finding yourself. You should not be defined by whom you are with, you should be defined by whom you are. You need to work on finding interests and "bettering" yourself. If love is out there, it will find you. Love has no guarantees, so don't disappoint yourself in thinking it is forever and a cure all. Love always hurts, hopefully later than sooner! There is no way about it, so if you are weak, stay away from the powers of love. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:40:36 PM | | please please please listen to me. time will look after your broken heart believe me. I loved someone for many many years - he was the love of my life without a doubt. Unfortunately by the time we finally got to be together after 15 years of being apart he was in a very bad way and took his own life. The pain of that was something that took me years to deal with and in the beginning right after it happened I felt like you. However, people make their own choices and we cannot influence others or make them behave in the way we might want. I dont know you at all and haven't even looked at your profile. I don't know how old or young you are. None of that matters. All that matters is that you are an important valuable human being who deserves to be loved as we all do and who has important stuff to do in this world - I am sure there are others who love you be it your family, friends, whomever - and the good thing is you are on here saying how you feel. Please remember YOU MATTER. No one else. I truly truly hope you take some measures to look after yourself. I found the crisis line very helpful when I was at the bottom of the well. Time, patience with yourself, the belief that we are independent and worthwhile all on our own will come eventually I have no doubt. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:41:06 PM | WHen I was 14, my father killed himself b/c my mother was cheating on him. Now, I am 35, and I still suffer from it EVERY DAMN DAY!!! Think about your family, not HER!!! She doesnt deserve you! You deserve better. Everyday I think if my father would have only sought help, he would be alive and HAPPY now, playing with his grandkids, probably re-married to a wonderful woman, and laughing at the fact that my mother is married to a loser!!! This world is so damn big, don't let your heart get broken over one woman when there are billions more that are BETTER THAN HER!!!!!! Trust me, a few years from now you will be thanking God that she left you when she did!!! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 4:06:25 PM | | WOW I just read what you wrote. When my youngest was 10 I tried to take my life and did not succeed. Now the only man I know I have ever loved left me on December 19 to go back to his wife of almost 40 years. He tells me he still loves me but he is obligated to her. he tells me he does not love her like he loves me. We went away together this past week so he could get me out of his life as his wife told him to do. It was miserable. I had a bottle of pills with me I took several pills with some wine. I did not take enough when he realized my intentions he took my pills and flushed them. We were walking out in the desert of Death Valley he took me up along side a mountain I kept looking for the right place to just fall to my death. All I could see was if I fell I would only hurt myself seriously but not kill myself. He told me he knew what I was thinking and that is why he would not let me stray to far from him. I was angry I just wanted the pain to stop. When I attempted to take my like 6 years ago it was because I was held up at gun point and robbed by whom we believe is my first husband also my second husband was very non supportive of me during this time. Now I want the pain to stop and to me just taking these pills (I have plenty more so him dumping them will not stop me) would resolve all this pain. Yet I think of my children and granddaughter and I feel guilty that I even have these thoughts. I can not go to counseling as I do not have insurance. I have had 2 minor heart attacks since last July doctor says its stress. I at times just wish my heart would stop. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 4:31:22 PM | Hard,,, losing your love is a killer,, some women turn to ice cream and tissue,, but your a man,, the only one way to get over a women,, its to get under another one,, times a wasting my friend and life is short,, get back on your hosrse and ride ,,,,it work for me,,  | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 4:32:25 PM | Gezzzzzzzzzzzus...
Some of you people need help and it is not the kind you will find on here...
Learn to love yourself enough to go find the help you need whether it is counseling or therapy but get something done now...
Life is the most precious gift we will ever have
and gives us the chance to give life too
and nurture it through till the cycle repeats itself
Go now and get the help you need you will thank yourself
and you are worth it, we're all worth it... | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 5:14:57 PM | Dear At a Loss,
I,too, was extremely heartbroken after I thought I met the love of my life. I am not suicidal, but wanted, nonetheless to die, for life just seemed so bleak and empty. I was depressed, to put it mildly. This heartbreak led to this major depression I have been in for the last 6 months. (The term "major" is used to denote a period of time.)
I went into counseling, and am still in it. I saw a psychiatrist, who just prescribed meds. They were helpful. I have since contacted this guy, or rather he has contacted me, do not know if there is a possoibility fo a future with him,. but I am not waiting for him to find out. All of the sudden I am deluged by guys who want to date me.
I have been painfully lonely, but after a while it does get "better." We all have ups and downs in life. Its been like a roller-coaster, emotionally, at times. Who knows? I may find someone better than him! He, btw, is going to be married until he is 60. We are both 57. I am free, widow, he is not, though I never thought of him as being a married man. Whether or not I would trust him , in the event he wants to get back with me, remains to be seen. He knows this as well. He is very well aware of this.
Many years ago, I did attempt suicide. I was in a bad marriage, and hopelessly in love with my "ex." I was hospitalised, and it was as if "nothing happened." I didn't take enough drugs and/or alcohol. I did learn, however, no person is worth your life! No one! And how dare they make you feel that way!
I went on to find the love of my life, and a 21 year relationship and marriage that ended when he died almost 5 years ago. I will never find anyone like him, I am discouraged sometimes, but not defeated. I would not want to find another like him, exactly, but I look for a person with his good qualities.
I cried many tears, stil cry often, too often, am not completely "over" the guy who drove me crazy, but I will be OK! You have to believe in yourself, I do! You can do it! If I can, so can you! I am weak, but I am getting back up, and will emerge from this heartbreak a little older and a lot wiser! So will you!
I hope this is helpful to you! You are very much not alone! Its hard to "believe" when you think you are so down you can't get up! You will, give it time. I have to be of the opinion, this guy does not deserve me! I am a good, worthwhile person, hardly perfect, but good!So are you!
We are survivors! Right on! Please believe in yourself! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 5:32:14 PM | Oh sweety...I am so sorry that your so down about this. A breakup can be very hard when you love someone..
Trust me when I tell you that suicide is not the solution. Keep your chin high. You have so many other wonderful things to live for.
(((((((hugs))))))))) | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 5:48:09 PM | You are not going to commit suicide, you are here for a reason, maybe your story has helped someone else who was feeling just as desperate!!
Each woman you meet is a stepping stone, to finding the right one. I have felt your despair, your pain, that endless ache. You do rise above it, don't look at the big picture take each day and live in each hour. Just look ahead to the next hour, not the lifetime without Shannon. You will find strength in each hour, it will be progress you have made for yourself without feeling hopeless. When you see your whole life ahead without this person whom you fell inlove with, it does feel overwhelming. But taking tiny pieces of each day will bring you out of this depression. You are not alone, you need to surround yourself with people who love you, with family, with anyone who will listen. You already have so many people here that have encouraged you, and told you that it will be okay one day!!
You are stronger than this one heartache, this is just a speck of what is out there ready and waiting for you to take.
You are alive, you have purpose, your life is a gift, you will survive this, and you will have good days and some not so good days and that's okay, and very normal. Your pain will lessen, you will soon wonder who that man was that was so desperate and sad. No one can replace you, we need you.
Take Care.
Someone in Canada is thinking of you!! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 7:26:13 PM | | Ah, man.... I know how you feel... I had the same thing happen to me. Found out she was getting married to someone else. But, there is life afterwards. There's always room for a new beginning. Don't end things when there are possibilities for something else. I know that this is not what you want to hear, but you need to hear it. If she is getting married to someone else, she's not the love of your life. The real love of your life is waiting somewhere else for you to find her. So, when the time is ready, go... Find her, man... Find her and forget about the pain of the past. I feel your pain and my prayers go out to you. Take it easy in the mean time, k? | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 7:52:57 PM | Just checking on you still we have not heard anything from you!!! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:10:16 PM | SEXYMUMA:
That was awesome...well said!! ;-) | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:44:12 PM | Sorry don't know what to say , didn't read through the whole thread so I don't know how you're feeling now , just hoping that you are feeling a little better & happier  | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:46:11 PM | | i know how you feel i lost the love of my life 3 years ago and i have been looking for a new love for 2 years (not looking very hard) for most poeple that i have talk to they say i have been to pick and have no b-lls because i don't talk to other women. for me i don't want just any woman i want someone who will make me happy i would rather be alone then fighting all the time or thinking she is with someone else.so i will tell you this my friend look around don't take the frist thing that comes your way and nothing and i mean nothing is worth dieing for nothing. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/13/2006 9:11:09 PM | Talk to us.
E-mail me for a chat if you wish.
Sean | |
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| Wanting to die is not the answer!!!!!!
Posted: 2/13/2006 9:29:21 PM | Reading your post made me want to cry. I went through what you went through two years ago, and reading your post, brought back everything I felt about the woman I loved so much, in less than a second. I know how you feel, and it's not a good feeling. I know it's probably not much consolation, but I lost more than you did. I lost the love of my life, and my unborn baby girl. My ex left me when she 5 1/2 months pregnant with my daughter. She met someone new, and convinced him to sign his name on my kid's birth certificate. They married 2 months later. When I found out he signed his name on the birth certificate, and married her, I was devastated even worse than when she left me. My little girl will be 21 months old on the 19th of February and still to this day I have never seen her. Not even a picture. Unfortunately I don't have the money to go after her, and I can't get loans to pay for any legal action.
But whatever you do, don't let her leaving you ruin your life. There is a reason you two are not together. You may not know that reason, and you may not ever find out, but God has a good way of protecting everyone. My best advice for you is to spend about 3 or 4 months mourning. It's ok to cry, it's ok to be hurt, it's ok to not want to do anything. But after that 3 or 4 months is up, force yourself to go out, and meet new people, and have fun. Put your trust in God (if you are religious), spend time with friends, hang out around family, go do things you want to do that you've never done before. I spent 2 years being depressed, and it got me in a bad situation. Prolonged depression and sadness leads to bad things snowballing into even worse things.
If it's so bad that you are thinking about killing yourself, you need to find a psychologist and go talk your problems out. A Psychologist is one who talks to you, but doesn't give medicine. This really helped me get over my ex, and my depression. Avoid the Psychiatrist...they just want to pump you full of drugs that will make your problems go away. Talking your problems over with a professional will get to the root of the problem and help you put things behind you. Killing yourself over her is not going to make anything better. Permanent solutions to temporary problems will never solve anything. It does get better, but the healing process does take time. I've been single for 2 years, and I feel so much better that I went and talked to someone. If I hadn't, I would still be depressed, and sad, and unhappy. There is nothing wrong with talking to a professional, and there is no shame in it.
If you need someone to talk to, you can message me anytime, or leave an email in my POF email box. Good luck bro, I know things are rough, but it will get better.
Andrew | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/14/2006 5:28:27 AM | | Dude, no one is worth that amount of pain, except your kids. Even then, contemplating the end will only serve to realizing it. Look, my wife left me for a 16year old, and I spent a long time avoiding relationships with women. All it did was ensure that I'd spend alot more time alone. 12 years now. Save yourself the anguish and get back on the horse. Remember, to have is not always as satisfying as to want. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/14/2006 11:02:12 AM | Thanks!!!! From the heart, and hopefully he will read it too!!!
J | |
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