| I want to die
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:56:16 PM |
I can assure you, you dont wanna die... If you really wanted to die. You wouldnt be alive anymore. Face it..
That's a retarded thing to believe and unhelpful. Perhaps he's exploring this whole issue
and trying to come to terms with it...or....he only needs to talk about it. I totally understand where the dude is coming from although I could never kill myself. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/20/2006 2:36:29 PM | | Everything you wrote is so encouraging and so true. I hope ATALOSS takes your advice. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/20/2006 5:12:21 PM | Can't sugarcoat it, what you are going through right now is painful, deeply painful. But never, ever give up on life or finding true love. I'm not a religious person in the least, but I do feel life is a gift, a gift gone all too quickly and we all need to make the most of the time we have.
Sometimes we meet someone and we think that person is the one we were meant to spend the rest of our lives with....and then it doesn't work out. Not everyone even gets to experience that, and not everyone has the capacity to fall deeply in love. There isn't another Shannon out there, but that doesn't mean there isn't someone out there who you will meet and fall just as much in love with. Will it be exactly how you felt with Shannon? No, it will be different but it will most likely be with the person you were really meant to be with.
Keep communicating with people about how you are feeling and spend time with other people as much as you can. Don't withdraw when you are feeling down. Stay active and stay positive. Many of us have been where you are now and we got through it..with bumps and bruises but we got through it. And you are going to get through it, too. | |
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PDJW
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Joined: 2/11/2006
Msg: 154 | |
| I want to die
Posted: 2/20/2006 5:25:28 PM | I know what it feels like to want to be with someone who is not available anymore but don't confuse how you are feeling right now with your loss. I expect what you are feeling right now has more to do with how you feel about yourself not the end of the relationship. This was the straw!
I encourage you to seek help because your body is crying out to you to stop the pain. There are many ways to do this, but first you need to speak to a professional to find out what solution is best for you. I would suggest a crisis line (211) and seek a referral! Give yourself a chance. We are survivors by nature!
The pain will pass, I know this! | |
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PDJW
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Joined: 2/11/2006
Msg: 155 | |
| I want to die
Posted: 2/20/2006 5:29:08 PM | | Actually telling someone you want to die is away of seeking help. The feelings are real and yes he does not want to act on them but he wants someone to hear his pain and have it validated. Sadly more men than women are successful in commiting suicide, and all suicidal ideations need to be taken seriously. It's a cry for help! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/20/2006 5:49:51 PM | sorry to hear that but so many of us have been there and we are all living proof of what can happen but look at us were all here trying again to find the lov of our life.so come and join wipe the tear's away dont think about killing your self until u know why u want to over a girl come on there is some one else who as always love u and die for u. did u forget jesus he still love u and as a new plan for u .find him and u shall find the truth when I lost my lady after 13 yrs I did die but guess what im alive after a yr I feel great I cannt wait until this summer u bet im going to be looking at all them knock outs in then tan bodys.for the first time i dont have to wear shades or pretend to be looking at a pole I can really look OOO YEA CHEER UP | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 3:19:11 AM | the hell with the rest of everyone's comments ive been their i know how you feel hell ive been feeling this way for almost 2 yrs intill about last month when all this made sence .i will tell all in here my story and you will see .
i met this girl 4 yrs ago sweet as ever i knew when i met her that this could be the one. well to cut it short .
i was with her for 6 months and she broke it off to be with my best friend because she loved him consitered him to be her true love two dayz after he stole her viginity and told her that it was wrong and he loves her as a friend only .
then i was working i would get calls at my work from her say she was sorry and how he loves me wants to be with me so i ignored it i did it the bet i could i thought i could turn my back but once you are in love it can stay their .
well i ignored her for 4 months and with in thi 4 months she was at my door everyday laying on my steps at night calling like crazy .
finally i give her a chance because she thought it would work .
well she got a call for my best friends g/f saying thay split up so she cut it off with me after two weeks saying how she loves him yet again the same thing but diffrent i get a call from my neigbor say how he tapped that and how when he mentioned my name she cryed .
so she called me two mins later telling me that its working out with andrew and i told her that shes a lier and you ****ed russ she asked how i knew i told her he called me .
she was going nuts saying she was sorry and would not do it again .she didnt 2 yrs later a week before my birtday she breaks it off with me because im 15 miles away trying to support her since she was giveing her family the money i was giveing her for her rent to the appartment .then in december of last yr she wrote me e-mails about how she wants to be in my life again and how she loves me i was in wisconsin trying to live but i came back to mn and asked her and she said it was just a fase she was going though so i ignored it 2 weeks later shes almost out of my heart where i can live again .
im a computer tech ok so russ calls me up and tells me he needs some help with his pc (peice of crap )so i said ok i went to his house and 4 hours their and im about to go home but more problems show up so im trying to fix it .
speak of the  arrives i look and i try to ignore her but its like all that shit you try to forget hits you like a ****ing rock it hits you hard everything .
well shes trying to hug me and im walking away i turn my head i try to run and she hugs me .i droped everything i though i had left for her grew and ate me alive theirs more .
then she wanted to you know i looked at her told her if im not with you then thats not going to happen because i feel its wrong .
well it would continue intill may when she wanted me to fix her system so i told her since her family hates me for being me and leaveing to do the right thing that i will teach he how to fix the problem one week of cuddleing and then i was trying to make a disk for her and she was getting tired and she wanted to sleep but did not want to walk home so she asked to spend the night and she aid she wasgoing to sleep in my be i said fine but im sleeping on the couch .
well it was 4 am i could not see shit so i slept in my bed not realizeing that she wastheir o i was haveing a dream and then i woke up to the dream being real i stoped and she called me andrew not that andrew she looked at me and said she was in love with andrew her new b/f .....
well that killed me all well she admited it to my family but not him told him that we kissed thats it .i felt that was wrong of her so i aranged to tell him at my work i showed him the online evidence and he said thanks left asked her called her a lier and took her back .
ok im trying to let the heartache go but no use now i work at a movie theader (sorry i cant spell tonight )and im cleaning up their then her and her b/f are their so i ignore it and im fine intill the ****er pushed me into the medal dumpster from a distance i get up smileing giot in his face told him if i was not working it would be on buddy and i said now im goingto finish my work you know what normal people do for money to "support people ".
as im leaveing im going out for a smoke i get out the door i light up and then next min her skinny b/f trys pushing up against the door (the doors are locked i cant do nothing ) shes not around i wait intill i have half of my cig gone and im takeing it im at my point the cab gets their to bring me home i look at him grab his arm and the back of his head and thew his head thew the window out of self defence the cop seen it in the parking lot i got in my cab and went home woke up and got a call saying im fired i said fine take the window out of my first check in jan of this yr i get a call from my best riend aying how his home from iraq ok so he tryed talking to carrie after i split myself to my friend and it was like he was nothing to her so he desided that their was nothing for him to see back here so he went back to iraq 3 hours their got shot to death like he dreamed before he left ........
what ever she told him led to his demise i went to see him one last time with his friends around him and after it was all done she showed up with her b/f and all hell broke loose not with me though with everybody else so i know what you are feeling but really you cant be more hopeless-heartless then me im past the bottom you cant go any deeper then me that should have told you right their .the only thing i can tell you is dont wait try to look ahead she will or wont come back it all depends just dont let it end up how im at .
matthew | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 3:28:41 AM | Hang on. Things will get better I promise.
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 3:39:47 AM | This will pass.go to your doc..tell him get on some meds..for awhile it will help when you feel better,,stop taking them.this is only a moment in time,,it will pass like a bad cold..trust me..time does heal. Your too good to die, Theres a lady just for you somewere..maybe just a block away. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 4:35:04 AM | A little tough love here. An old song by a group called the "Spinners" say's it takes a fool to learn that love don't love nobody. Remember the good times and get over it. Suicide over a
spouse is lame. To put it blunt man up or stop wasting our time. I done had my feelings hurt a lot and my heart broken once.
We as men sometimes can't handle emotional shit. Flashbacks of her is probably killing your
ass. That's good let it out. Move on baby boy. Find a new mate and continue this journey called life.
Some women don't want a good man they want a dog. Get to know women more and this won't happen again trust me. That's just my opinion. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 10:56:23 AM | | thats the best advice anyone has given him... ill not bother putting mine down as you sed it all mate | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 11:11:36 AM | | Life goes on my dear so do not any women make you that way.No one is worth killing yourself for believe me Ive been there many times and Im still here.you need to surround your self with family and friends to keep your mind off this girl.DO you pray?It does work it has gotten me through rough spots in my life.Try meeting new women go on dates.Don t let your ex run your life or you are letting her win and that gives her power over you.This is my advice and I hope you take it.CArolanne | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 11:19:11 AM | | Of course you want to die (or, rather, don't want to live)...that's normal. Grief takes time to process. Self-absorption is a hallmark of depression....consider getting some medication or counseling...but most importantly, think of someone besides yourself. I can promise you there is a sick, lost, lonely, poor, frozen person (or cat or tree or dog) who needs you....if you can't heal your own heart, heal someone else's. It's the answer. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 11:26:53 AM | when you love someone with all that you are and they are taken from you for what ever reason whether it is for another lover or death or happenstance there is a reason for it.
There is a saying what does not kill you will make you stronger and I believe that hole heartedly. God puts people in our lives for a reason and maybe it was time for this person to go from your life to allow room for the right person that will make all your dreams and fantisies a reality. And if nothing else it will make you stronger and wiser and more prepared for what God has in store for you next!
GOOD LUCK!! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 11:30:01 AM | if All you ever cared about was being in love and loved back then you really need to take a look at the bigger picture.
If this is how you really feel, then its not love.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight is suffering but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres."
From what I read in your post, its not love you had but a selfish form of love.
If you really did love her, then you would be happy for her and not angry.
you have to find out who you really are before you can find true love.
its a hard lesson to learn yeah, but you'll get over it. I did... it took me 2 years and she recently got married and I'm happy for her because I still love her.
You need to love who you are first before somebody can really love you. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 11:32:44 AM | | Sometimes you have to walk away and not look back ever in order to maintain a comfortable, sane life | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 12:02:03 PM | | you lost your love and you want to die...iam dating a guy that lost his true love...she married someone else ...that was 16 years ago...she was the best and noone compares to her...NOW ME I MARRIED MY LOVE ..and he wasnt really that great as the years went by....he is now my ex husband....so since my bf lost her.he built up walls and he will not allow himself to love like that again...THAT IS SO SAD... and then there is you....you BOTH WANT WHAT YOU DID NOT GET....we always want what we didnt have....its ok to feel the pain cry if you have to..talk to friends about your loss...YOU NEED TO DO THINGS FOR YOURSELF NOW...may i add you also need to someday really look at her for what she is not....NOT FAITHFUL..NOT LOYAL...NOT TRUE BLUE...she may have been your love but somewhere along the relationship she was not fair not really there for you.....in time you need to see her for what she reallywas...not what you imaged her to be in your mind of minds...sorry but until you see her as just a girl and not a godess you will never get over her....give yourself time..leave a small place in your heart for her but....dont forget the pain she caused you...so cant be all that if she did that to you... | |
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Eartha
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Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 168 | |
| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 12:16:58 PM | I believe that the one person for you is someone who wants you as much as you want them, if they don't, you don't want them anyway, why would you? It's hard now, but it WILL get better, I promise you, I thought I could never feel that way again and now it's like it never happened and I don't think about him anymore. I think about how happy I am that I can find out what REAL love is!!
Hang on!!! | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/22/2006 3:04:49 PM | What doesnt kill you makes you stronger..
Lifes about living and learning. Learn from this, and realize there is always someone out there. .
It's just a matter of meeting them. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/25/2006 7:55:59 AM |
the hell with the rest of everyone's comments ive been their
No, actually, to hell with you.
If alll you learned from suffering is that your pain supercedes all others, you need a mind wipe. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/25/2006 5:57:51 PM | At a loss,
Is this a true statement? "Shannon I love you and miss you with all my heart. I wish things could have turned out differently. My life will never be the same ever." If so, how could you destroy it by considering such a deed? Have you not paid any attention to all that is said here regarding the loss of someone special? If you speak the truth, then you must continue to be the Man you are with determination and a goal. Would it not be a disappointment to Shannon to hear of such an awful deed? It is true that your life will not be the same but that does not have anything to do with fatality. Be strong for yourself and strong for her as well. You do not know when the time will come that she may need the strength only the two of you posses. Do not be so short sighted in thought or deed, rather be kind to the love you have for her and keep it close to your heart. No one can predict the future so don’t tempt fate, it is a foolish goal that has no end. Be the proud Man she knows for if it is within your heart, such Love resides, then would it not be hers as well? Think good things and do not despair. Do not be so foolish as to let go that which brings you such joy. Think of what it is, NOT what it seems. There are many who will offer their help, as you well know. So, do not think of these things or consider such an act unless you are truly willing to loose that which you claim to hold so dear. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/25/2006 6:12:17 PM | Has anyone actually seen any recent posts from this person lately?
Just concerned....... | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/25/2006 8:41:59 PM | | Maybe someone could send him an email. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/26/2006 6:57:39 AM | | Listen to me and listen closely. A man that I cared deepely about felt much the same as you. He was 37 and he blew his brains out Jan 3, 2006 while on the phone with me after hours of begging and pleading. I was over 800 miles away. He died only once but we left here die every single day. I beg of you, I implore you to please please consider the fact that if you take your life you also murder the people left here behind. Please call and get on some meds. An antidepressant and possibly some anti anxiety meds can make the world of difference in the way that you think sleep and feel. Please Please Please think of the people that it will effect forever. I care and wish to God that I could jump through this computer and get to you but I can not. Please get help and you can save the lifes of many around you. | |
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| I want to die
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:18:52 PM | | I sent him a message but it says "unread". | |
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