AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 51 | |
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| Independent woman seeks....
Posted: 1/20/2006 3:18:12 PM | awwww Al, you just made my heart feel a little funny
OP-You just gotta love an independent woman!..especially a beautiful, smart and classy one. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 3:22:31 PM | Well well well...this thread really got um...lets say...a bit outta control in my opinion. But thats what these are for , right.
Anyway, I like indepenent women for a couple reasons...
1- I want a woman that WANTS me, not one that NEEDS me....How can i feel special if i just happen to be the man around when this "needy" woman is looking for someone?...I like knowing that a woman is selective and not just latching on!
2- Independent women have social lives besides the one we would share together. Going out with the gals ect. And they arent the jealous type, because they have gotten my trust when they are out. So they can also trust me when im out.
3- Ive found that women that are independent also can communicate openly with me, because they know im comfortable with my masculinity and they dont have to worry about hurting or protecting that "fragile male ego".
So..I guess i will prolly get bashed for this...but...ill listen and respect everyones oppinion...I wont judge it!....Thanks All | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 54 | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 3:31:55 PM | I will always WANT a man... and there are most definitly things I NEED one for too! So in the end, I would hope it all balances out!!!  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 3:37:15 PM | | A103...Thats the idea..Balance.. not lopsided..and another thing..needy women take a lot of time to lets say...keep them the way they are! lol...i like not having to hear about every little issue that doesnt concern me. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 3:37:41 PM | Having used the the word 'independent' in my profile, thought I'd jump in...
Admittedly, I own a home, have a career, etc, blah blah. Am I bragging? No. This is not uncommon. It's ok to look around you and be grateful/proud with your accomplishments. This goes for both genders.
"Independent' encompasses more than a lack of need, it can be meant more as having a life; a good one. A life which includes a friends, family, travel, and hobbies. While it would be nice to one day share this with someone, being happy flying solo is ok too.
If the 'I' word turns some people away from a profile, would writing 'co-dependent damsel in distress seeks life' be more appealing? If so, perhaps a visit to www.plentyofcavemen.com is an option. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 57 | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 3:44:55 PM | Well Willy... I can be a little "needy" when it comes to fixing things around the house.. You really don't want to see me with a hammer or screwdriver (unless it's the drink) in my hands... thankfully the neighborhood husbands come running if they see me getting out my little "tool box".  | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 58 | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 3:49:34 PM | Ooh good grief, all of this tiff because of independence here! Do we really need to get down in the mud and question whether a man or woman is independent? It doesn't matter if one is independent or dependent, there will always be some soul out there that will be intimidated by what you have or don't have. Is that the person you want in your life?
An individual who is self sufficient, who has their own life and doesn't need someone to validate their self worth, their financial worth, is really the partner that you want in your life!
When I got divorced 18 years ago, I bought my own house with my own $$. You'd better believe the question would come up if I received the house in the divorce settlement. I think times are changing, women aren't always getting the house in the divorce settlement, especially the younger women. If a woman does get the house in the divorce settlement, for the bulk of us on this website that are middle class, I guarantee that house isn't paid off in full. Far too many women that do get the house in the divorce don't live in it very long, they can't afford the upkeep as well as the payments, so it gets sold or foreclose. I'm not the least bit afraid to tell a man or a woman that I've worked my ass to the bone for my house and other assets that I have.
Do I "need" a man to complete my life? Nope, but I want a man in my life! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:08:29 PM | | OK. I fess up, I'm one of those with the independant in my profile. When I first drove a truck, people almost broke their necks, they'd never seen it before! I was the first woman brakeman in CP's eastern region. I ran and fixed my own farm machinery, I can use a screwdriver, wrenches, chainsaw,welder, skill saw,table/radial arm saw, etc. If I am not sure about how to do something, I'll ask several people whom I know that are familiar with the subject. This used to drive my ex crazy. When something broke down when he was on the road, he'd say leave it, I'll fix it when I get home. Sounded great, but 90 % of the time it never happened. Why say it if you aren't going to do it. As in one of the previous posts, I want a man I can respect, one that looks on my abilities as assets, not threats. Hey, if I can do it, leaves more time for us to do other things together that we want to do. But unfortunately, society had tried to force us to all fit in a certain notch, and if we are different, it's a big deal. Any guys out there who stayed home and looked after the kids while the wife worked? Bet you can relate to this! And I guess maybe I'm warning you that I'm not the type to sit home with an apron on just waiting to serve you dinner every day. There could be days when I might do it with just an apron, lol, but I'm definitely not June Cleaver, and I'm not looking for Ward! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:30:34 PM | Tell it tchofclas and you too kaesue44! But i think AI03 kinda took control and calmed it down here..but i agree...independent isnt a bad word! Oh well.....
AI03....Im kinda a fixer guy myself...curious about ur toolbox!.. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 62 | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:36:13 PM | Hahaha... it's pretty pathetic Will, but it looked like something I could use? LOL, needless to say, I just have to get it out in the front and bang around making noise, or the back yard and I always get a "Whatcha doin over there" "Need a hand" ? I think it may have been a BBQ incident where I was trying to fix the propane tank and small explosion took place. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:37:23 PM |
See sometimes we have to "scream" independant or self - sufficient, because alot of men will simply "assume" the nice car, house and assets had to have been acquired through a divorce or an inheritance.
You forgot one, if not divorce or inheritance they "assume" Sugar Daddy.
It has become necessary to become self sufficient in today's society not only to take care of yourself but also your children, if you have any.
So, maybe if a woman is putting "independant" in her profile she has something to be proud of. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:44:36 PM | "So, maybe if a woman is putting "independant" in her profile she has something to be proud of."
Actually, the point of the post is to state that it is not something to be patting yourself on the back about. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:47:06 PM | [All I'm saying is that with each generation, a "strong and independant woman" is less rare, more common which is a good thing personally.]
You are ABSOLUTELY correct. I had intended to post much the same thing......now I won't need to. LOL | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:47:52 PM | | AI03...and i bet all them were so worried about ya! and i am sure you never tease them, or anything else that would rev their engines! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:49:21 PM | I understand that, and it is not on my profile.
but there are many different types of men,
some want women to be submissive
some want women to cook and clean
some want to make sure they are not financially supporting a woman because they are not capable of it.
by putting independant, she maybe saying that she is not looking for someone to support her financially, but someone to support her emotionally. And I would think they were looking for emotional support or they wouldn't be here. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:50:02 PM | | Yeah, posting that you're a 30 or 40 something independent woman, is the same thing as posting "Hey, I know how to breathe!" lol | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 4:59:11 PM | | Look in...very good point...and most of the time a woman says "independent" she is meaning she has live and supported herself and wants the respect that goes along with that. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 70 | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 5:06:36 PM | Yeah, posting that you're a 30 or 40 something independent woman, is the same thing as posting "Hey, I know how to breathe!" lol
Well had you asked me this question when I was 28, the answer would of been the same. Not my fault you're 11 years behind in your thread!
@Will.. MOI? TEASE? Not that I'm aware of? | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 5:10:59 PM | Yes, and being independent, does mean you have to get your own "toolbox".
Because alot of men still like that damsel in distress, and like to show you what to do with all your tools.
I have a toolbench. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 73 | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 5:31:05 PM | | I quite think they laugh at me Will, I do mow my own lawn and do gardening.. but I have a problem fixing things, I try.. just not my knack.. I think they are concerned for their own safety when my tool box comes out. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 5:52:43 PM | @A103
I need to borrow a "watchamacallit" and if you ever need a "thingamabob" let me know I just got a new one. You know the one with a square head. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 5:59:03 PM | Ok, Im outta here...so it was great..umm...Postin with you guys...hope to do it again! Peace | |
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