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Posted: 10/18/2007 5:37:21 AM | | I didnt take it as sarcasm, thanks. Once I got divorced and got done with doing everything for him and no time left for me I decided then and there that would be the last time, so I moved my kids and my household out to Az and started a new life with a new outlook | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 7:46:17 AM | | To ms ok your indendent and and you do find a man. Say you are working late and the onther half is not where you can reach him till he gets home bu you get busy and forget to call him, so your work keeps you thier 4 or 5 hrs pass your regular time and did not let mate know, so he ask where were you and you dont think you should have an answer. oh could have called you but as an independent women you would think he is checking up on you. Independentence is ok but dont throw in peoples face that is when they getupset or push it on them. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 2:07:33 PM | Agreed......and being independent has nothing to do with being childish, rude, or so self centered that you can not even think about being considerate.....
I am always looking for a woman that claims and is independent...... I seek what I think I am, and want others to do the same for me.
Just my opinion......   | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 3:56:50 PM | | The ones that are truly independent would never even consider having to claim it for themselves. In fact she would find it rather strange that someone felt they had to. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 5:52:01 PM |
The ones that are truly independent would never even consider having to claim it for themselves. In fact she would find it rather strange that someone felt they had to. GREAT post!
*handing you a gold star* | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 7:32:29 PM | Lets say you join a book club, and it is your first day ..
"Hi, my name is Sue. I would like to say I do NOT need any of your opinions on what the books means as I have been reading for 20 years!.. But I might WANT your opinion."
Or, if you join a friends site..
"Hi, I am very independent and definitely do not NEED a friend. I have been friendless for the past 10 years!"
Or if you go to money making business seminars "Hi, my name is Sue, I would like to let everyone know I do not NEED money in my life!"
Obviously, saying such things would make you look like a complete idiot. How many would actually take you seriously after making such silly statements? Would they think you are intelligent? Have lots of friends? Or have plenty of money? You would look like an insecure goof ball. However, when certain women join dating sites, and ARE looking for a mate, they feel it makes them look strong, and like a good catch.
In the end, it always gives me a good laugh to read someone declaring themselves a certain way without even being asked. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 5:18:12 AM |
Say you are working late and the onther half is not where you can reach him till he gets home
And this would be different than men getting caught at the office late HOW exactly ? You dont have a valid point here, sorry. A situation like that is called LIFE and an OOPS, nothing else. Me telling my boyfriend that I have to work late has nothing to do with him "checking up on me" if I had the time to call (or he had the time to call me) it would be called common courtesy. Got nothing to do with being independent. Since my career puts food on my table and pays my bills and no one else does it for me then my working late is my business. Now if we had specific plans and I was supposed to meet him somewhere and I was going to be late then that is a different story, if I couldnt reach him the first time I tried then I would simply turn to my pop up calendar on Outlook or my Blackberry and set a time to remind me to call him and let him know plans had changed. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 5:36:39 AM |
In the end, it always gives me a good laugh to read someone declaring themselves a certain way without even being asked. That is why it doesnt need to be said out loud, actions and living one's life is action enough. I never feel the need to declare myself as anything or define myself as such, it just comes out and shows in my normal course of everyday living.
Shoot, play time is over, I gotta get back to work next week, lol - oh well, the two months "vacation" has been nice but its time. At least I tele commute two days a week so its just me and my home office on those days, nice to not even get dressed to work. I can only do so much house cleaning and riding my bike. Well, the motorcycle seldom gets put away out here so its still there for the weekends. I get kind of funny looks if I would ride it to work and the CEO see his CFO riding up in her leathers, which isnt to say it hasnt happened a few times. 
Have great weekend all. | |
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| Independent woman seeks....
Posted: 10/19/2007 6:21:13 AM |
To ms ok your indendent and and you do find a man. Say you are working late and the onther half is not where you can reach him till he gets home bu you get busy and forget to call him, so your work keeps you thier 4 or 5 hrs pass your regular time and did not let mate know, so he ask where were you and you dont think you should have an answer. oh could have called you but as an independent women you would think he is checking up on you. Independentence is ok but dont throw in peoples face that is when they getupset or push it on them.
I am gonna take a crack at this and see if I can understand (it's a bit hard to decipher). If both of us are working our separate jobs, and we both end up working overtime, why would we need to check in with each other? Did we make plans to go somewhere or something? This is what voice mail's for. Assuming we don't live together, I don't see the problem here...? | |
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| Independent woman seeks....
Posted: 10/19/2007 6:22:24 AM | I prefer my women independent.
But I never a believe an independent woman when she gives me excuses why she cant find a man.
I know its because she keeps eating them! | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 5:48:37 PM | ^^^ Pass the salsa, please.
Msg 146: What is the glue that would make one guy want to stay with you long term? You don't need him, he doesn't need you. Are you basing everything on "love"? Do you think men love women like that? Or perhaps are men wired a bit differently to give love to women who state they do need them for love, support, companionship, etc. Are these the same guys who cry about getting the shaft when their long term relationship/marriage ends?
Msg 131: Until that happens, don't worry about stating it, as us men are not looking to give you money anyway. Or you can enlarge your vocabulary to be more specific, instead of using one overused word that is open to interpretation. Maybe you should be specific. Are you saying you want a woman who is emotionally dependent, but fiscally independent? Huh?
Msg 146: When you have a limited vocabulary, and use words like "independent", and "don't need a man", the man whom you are trying to attract does not understand what you mean, or why you feel the need to say that. You can illustrate the same thing, by saying something like "I need a man in my life for love, companionship, and intimacy" Instead of just saying "I don't need a man!.. I am independent!", and then the man has to guess as to what you mean. You are equating all your needs with the opposite sex to money, which is a turn off. Sounds like you want some selfish “perfect” mixture that suits you. Hmmm?
Msg146: Some women these days seem to seeking some selfish perfect mixture, in which they get love, but also are independent. Really? Paging Mr. Kettle … 
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Msg 146: the man whom you are trying to attract does not understand what you mean, or why you feel the need to say that. Plenty of men in this thread are attracted to women who proclaim their independence. i.e. It works, and has added benefit of repelling men who “don’t get it!” Just because you do not understand, does NOT mean men who are attracted to independent women do not understand. As a matter of fact, the likelihood that independent women would want to attract someone who does not appreciate the quality (such as yourself) is exceedingly miniscule (if not non-existent). | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 6:29:03 PM | | Is thier any chance that these women that are declaring thier independent are trying to sell them selves and have low self estem. It seams to me if i had to go around tell my self things is a person with low selfestem and not very sure of them selves. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 6:54:49 PM | anyoneoutthier exactly!!!!!!!!
Latia, we already discussed why men like independent women, where were you? | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 9:23:49 AM | | When a women puts in her ad that she is Independent, I read it as she does'nt have an agent or a pimp and all business is done directly to her and through her. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 9:34:53 AM | I get a little confused on this one.
I thought men like that quality in a woman. Seems like when I read a lot of profiles, that is what men are asking for, and that could be why women put it in their profiles. | |
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