| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/14/2007 5:17:12 AM | I have and will contact a guy that catches my attention for one reason or another however; my response rate is for total poo. But I'll keep sending the e-mails because the type of guy I want to be with would be thrilled that he got one from me.  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:43:21 PM | Never. I love it. In fact most of the women in my life that I have had relationships with I have stayed with because they have not been coy or shy in showing interest in me. I think I'm a little old for those kinda games. I dont want to hunt and chase and woo, thats how guys get a reputation as pushy or scare someone off. I'd like it to be mutual. Thats one of my main reqs for dating. I don't want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with me. I think is a very common trait for all guys, and even gals. Everyone wants to be desired. Also, that whole well lets just see where it goes thing can be boring and mixed signals come out of it. . Thats why people think an I don't know means no. Theres nothing wrong with telling someone you like them. I like you, you like me. Great! Lets date!
But that doesnt mean I will neccesarily respond back if I dont feel there is anything there. Just like everyone else on these sites. Again it has to be mutual. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/14/2007 7:20:22 PM | Ok my thoughts is: I like it when a woman makes the first contact. It knocks out all the work of me approaching her , becoming tongue tied and not a word comes out of my mouth correctly .....  It makes may day when it happens so I always welcome it.  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/17/2007 6:51:57 AM | Most guys that I've contacted don't even have the common courtesy to say "no thank you" or "I'm not interested". It takes ALOT of guts, as you know guys, to make the first contact. I have and still do make initial contact, but like somebody said way up there ^^^^ my inbox is total poo 
I guess that most guys think they can't be polite for fear of hurting her feelings C'MON in my opinion, if she's willing to make the first move, she's willing to accept the "no thank you" or "Im not interested"
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/17/2007 7:26:19 AM | We all know how it feels to make contact and get no response, or even worse, to not even take the time to read it and just delete it.......
I am overjoyed to have women contact me, and no matter who it is, or why, I respond to each and every one to let them know that I got it, read it and reply accordingly....
If all of you feel the rejection that many of us do when taking the chance to contact another, and get nothing back, then you should learn from that experience and promise yourself to not ever do that to another......
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/17/2007 8:15:22 PM | | It doesnt bother me at all. I prefer it actually. Im shy and not very confident and all that good stuff lol, so its hard for me to make first contact with a girl. Its easier online then in real life for me but well its still hard online. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/18/2007 5:38:38 AM | I think it is a little give and take ...I will contact women ...say hello, commment on profile
But if they want to contact me ... well thats okay too
Note to women who want to contact me ....laughs out loud...Im on the road 5 days a week so forgive me if i dont get back to u till sat or sunday. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/18/2007 5:57:25 AM | I also agree with C Deacon.
I always respond back to everybody that has spent the effort to send me something. I was brought up with that common courtesy. Seems like many are not. I understand that most that I contact are not looking for somebody just like me, ( I contact and hope a lot.) I don't think I'm anybodies number one choice, but it sure would be nice to get the polite rejection letters and let me know they are least good people that I contact. What would even be nicer is to find that one that is close enough and that would agree to a meeting and then we both can get off of here. It sad to think I've got to go overseas to find somebody that isn't so hung up on age. It's also sad to think that common courtesy isn't common. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/18/2007 11:05:45 AM | | I certainly enjoy when a woman makes the first contact. That has never been something that has bothered me. However after being married for years to a woman that really had no interest me it seems it is even something I crave now. I really do not know why a guy would mind. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 8/18/2007 3:15:41 PM | | most of the time, the men contact me, but if I see one in particular that I really like his profile, I will contact him. Haven't had any problems with them responding yet. If they didn't, oh well, their loss. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/17/2007 4:52:27 PM | | From where I see it. If the woman makes the first contact, I am relieved. It saves me from wasting my time chasing after a Lady that has no interest in me. In spite of all of the ego that men have had over the last 10,000 years we all know whom pulls the puppet strings. Most guy just wont admit it. You can chase al you want to and even catch if you are lucky but the decision is still hers........so to answer the initial question. No it does not turn me off. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:19:59 PM | I've made initial contact with a few guys on here. It's generally because something in their profile caught my attention, and if the guy mentions anything about wanting a thin/fit/blonde/whatever woman, I haven't even bothered. Still, I've gotten no response from anyone I've contacted first - it's all gone into the Read Deleted stack!
Needless to say, I've had much, much better luck with men who've contacted me first. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/18/2007 4:21:21 AM | In my profile I actually state that it is OK for girls to write first, and, guess what?
Some actually do!
I always respond to messages.
Pity that some of the women I write to cannot find the time for the same courtesy. My thanks to those that do.
I guess some get a lot more mail than I do. | |
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