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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/19/2007 6:26:34 PM | | Huh ? Am I reading that right ? "Is it a turn off ? " Hmm,let me think. Im single. I posted a profile that Im a single man seeking a woman. Im waiting for responses. Because that's the whole point of posting a personals ad. No miss,you're wrong. It's not a turn off. "Does it make the female appear pushy ? " No, that would never even cross my mind. A woman who initiates contact is a sign of courage/bravery to me. I feel that who ever saves anothers profile should do the initiating and the women who never intitate making contact,don't respond to questions a man has sent them or show little or no effort/participasion should be banned from these kinds of sites for wasting everyone's time. For example I sent a question or a message to a woman's profile. I'd ask; Hi,what's your name ? or ask something related to what they wrote in their ad;" I like painting...". So,I'd ask; What do you paint ? No response. You would think that some of the women acted their age or would be polite and actually answer a question like a 4 year old can demonstrate. | |
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marcob
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Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 353 | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:10:11 AM | I have made first contact - some just to compliment on their amusing profile or awesome photo. Some because something caught my eye and I was interested in learning more.
Sometimes I get a response. Sometimes I get disappointed. Sometimes I get delighted. Sometimes the response is just creepy. :)
As for responding to every email I receive? Forget it. I did that when I first started out, thanking the gent for his interest, but I was looking for something else, etc...you know a "nice no" only to receive (some) bitter, cruel emails in return with name calling, etc.
I understand that rejection sucks (everyone has been rejected) but we need to take it in stride.
I will continue to make first contacts - at the very least these gents deserve to know their profile struck someone's fancy! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:26:51 AM | Absolutely not. It shows that she has some interest in me and isn't too shy to tell me that.
As for responding to every email I receive? Forget it. I did that when I first started out, thanking the gent for his interest, but I was looking for something else, etc...you know a "nice no" only to receive (some) bitter, cruel emails in return with name calling, etc.
All you have to do is block or ignore a person after you turn him down. Would you stop dating just because of a few bad dates? Probably not. Same thing applies to emails. Also some people can get mad and be rude when you ignore or don't respond their emails or phone calls. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/23/2007 1:48:45 PM | | To me making first contact and taking initiative shows self confidence and strength of character. Those are two very big turn ON's for me. If that is who you are and that is what you do, then by all means go for it women! Like the old saying goes, actions speak much louder than words. If you say you are a strong woman, self confident woman, etc then show it. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:15:25 PM | | I think alot of men actually perfer the woman make the first contact...it definately gives them a safety net because they know we are interested and they didn't even have to do anything. :P | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:34:11 PM | | Not at all, try it, just dont be pushy if they font respond they have their own reasosns...., you just show interest to get to know someone, that is it, its even nice for the shy guys....so they do follow your contact and you never know! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/25/2007 1:51:17 PM | i have no problem sending first mail to anyone whos profile jumps out at me
and in the real world i have no problem on a night out going up to a man and starting conversation, although i havnt been able to manage this without a drink yet lol
new rule, its theres someone i like out in the real world im going to go for him, if he finds me forward then im more forward than him lol | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 9/26/2007 2:36:06 PM | no, its equal rights we are on here for a reason to find some one, its is a dating site
its polite to respond and be honest
like no thanks your a minger !! probably to blunt
thanks for the mail but i cant date scorpio's or leo's or capricorns etc  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 10/2/2007 6:02:41 PM | | I like an assertive woman that's willing to put herself out there and take initiative. Actually the submissive, reserved type is pretty annoying imo so yeah... assertion is a good thing. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 10/4/2007 4:36:37 PM | | OMG.....the internet is just an extention...allows you to reach out and meet people that you would not have the chance to meet otherwise. Would a man look down on you if you walked up and said hi at the supermarket? He might think to himself afterwards......Damn.....does it say that I like fat chicks on my forehead....??? or you just might be the one.....would he care then who said hi first.......? Only if you keep rubbing that fact in for the next 30 years!!! | |
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outro
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Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 371 | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 10/6/2007 1:43:08 PM | in reference to msg 3
only when their introductions are
1. Childish
2.Borderline sexual harrasment
3. Sexual inuendo
4. Associated bullshit
yahh roo giddy up :
if this is not what you seek ... perhaps you should post a few more pictures of yourself actually wearing clothes... | |
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