| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:23:03 AM | Hey Fellas
Lets just make a list of what REALLY turns us all off. For the sake of the ladies.
Lets rate it one to 10
10 Worst. ---- An abuser. a child basher
9 --An abuser. a husband basher
8 A leech. Somebody who steal all youve got then dumps you.
7 A liar. a cheat.
6 A drama queen. A nagger.
5 A child still looking for her handsome prince
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3 -- A true Slob. I don't mena untidy. I mean something thats likely to cause concern in the department of health.
2 A genuinly dog ugly woman.
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1/2 - 0 a woma who makes first contact
(Actualy forget it gentlemen. Shes not a turn off at all.) | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:31:58 PM | | Gosh no!!! It is flattering, and very welcome. I have sent enough emails that weren't responded too, so I try and respond to everyone who does email me, even if it is a polite, good luck. It is hard enough with my travel schedule to meet people, that an email from a woman can make my day (even if she isn't my type). | |
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cuda64
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Joined: 7/8/2007
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/7/2008 7:49:11 AM | Heck no. I'd like it if a woman contacted me. I appreciate a woman with a strong personality and opinions of her own and wouldn't think it was bad if she contacted me at all. I sort of keep hoping someone would  | |
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cuda64
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Joined: 7/8/2007
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:56:02 PM | Here's another way to look at it, if you were to advertise a car, motorhome, boat......or what ever the case might be.........interested parties would contact you after reading the description and looking at the picture.
Lets face it we're advertising ourselves........so why is it when it comes to dating sites......guys have to put a description and picture and then contact who ever they think might be interested.
If you were to approach complete strangers of the opposite gender to sell a car..etc, you'd be called desperate and they'd probably be suspicious..........so why are guys ( only )expected to do it on here ????????? | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:21:34 AM | cw35
You might wipe that frown off your pictures, think of a funny joke just before the camera clicks. That might do wonders for your response rate. I didn't even get to your text, others might have the same response. People are generally looking for somebody upbeat and happy, maybe even fun . Hope this helps. I did a profile review forum for years on here, helping out Jack Mack when he got tired. You might read through some of the old posts there or go to one of the other review forums. Remember though anything a reviewer says is just an oppinion, we really don't know anymore than you do about this process, so take it all with a grain of salt. I'm still single myself, but I do get plenty of responses.
Jack's and my forum can be found here.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/708250datingPostpage43.aspx
Jon | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/9/2008 8:20:59 AM | | Personally I find an agressive woman sexy. A woman who has that confidence to go after something she wants is a very big thing with me. I've never gotten the whole "men must move first" And it's always an ego boost when a woman shows she's interested and wants you. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/10/2008 10:31:06 AM | I second that... I don't mind aggressive women... But there is a catch... She has to be attractive to me. If not, then it can get a little... awkward. Of course, I'd do my best to be tactful, so as not to hurt her feelings... But then, if she's aggressive, she'd probably won't take the hint... But yeah... I'd welcome it and, looks aside, proactive women will always get my full respect.
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:10:31 AM | Au contraire mon frere (or ma soeur in this case). Aren't we suppose to be in an equal opportunity country. Women making the first contact is very 21th century and I am all for it. Keep 'em coming girls!  | |
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psg420
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Joined: 11/18/2007
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/14/2008 8:07:52 AM | I like it when a woman makes a move, it shows some kind of initiative or that she's actually interested in me. It also shows that she knows what she wants, has confidence in herself, and isn't afraid to speak her mind.
I understand chivalry and all that, it seems like most women will never send the first message or make the first phone call, etc. This can turn from chivalry to really-oldfashioned to mindgames really quickly. When it comes to the point where you're dating and she expects the man to make every single decision about everything, where to go for dinner, what movie to watch, when to meet up, etc, that gets a bit irritating to me. Again, I can't speak for everyone and I'm not even going to try, but thats just my opinion. If it gets into one of these "well, if I call him back in the first 24 hours, then that would mean blah blah blah, but I don't want to blah blah, so I'll not call him and blah blah", that just gets into irritating childish games. I like games, but usually the ones you watch on TV or in a stadium. Most people at my age aren't really interested in playing guessing games or mind games with someone they're dating. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/14/2008 10:57:36 AM | | I don't think that it would be a turn off to most men. If a woman contacts a man first, then it shows that she is interested in him. That would make me feel good even if I'm not interested in her. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:28:22 PM | | I am new here. I've had traffic to my profile [ a lot of return vistors, I see] I've sent a couple of friendly e-mails out but no one has returned a "hi". Could my mail be broken? | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/14/2008 11:53:28 PM | Skja
I just tried to email you "so you could check your mail," and it told me you were not accepting email from my country??????
One must be open to the possibilities. Maybe it's not what you think you want, but sometime things show up in the most unexpected places. I plan to show up in lots of unexpected places...... Have a great day.
PS to everybody: Message limitations are the biggest mistake people make on here. IMHO Jon | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/15/2008 9:44:35 AM | | All depends on who is making the approach?! If for instance its someone you could possibly take a fancy to then of course you/I would be very flattered! If on the other hand its some kind of mutated hippo then I would be shuddering in me boots and trying to think of a polite way to say never in this lifetime, horses for courses innit!! | |
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