| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/20/2006 8:51:06 AM | Allis Kat,
I agree. Typically, I make first contact. And I dont mean to infer that a woman make first contact every tme. But if it did happen, I wouldn't be offended or think there was something wrong with her.
Like everything else in life, a little variety never hurts!  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/20/2006 8:51:27 AM | Allis Kat,
I agree. Typically, I make first contact. And I dont mean to infer that a woman make first contact every tme. But if it did happen, I wouldn't be offended or think there was something wrong with her.
Like everything else in life, a little variety never hurts! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/20/2006 9:21:15 AM | I agree, generally speaking, as a gentleman, I think the guy should always initiate contact. But if by some chance the woman did it, I would not let disway me from talking to her.
It's just like the bedroom: sometimes you feel like being dominant, sometimes your partner does. It's the whole variety thing again. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/20/2006 11:38:36 AM | Thats the problem, visual only... If they would also read a profile, that would be soo nice. I find I'm being asked questions that are right there in my profile.....A person may look like a million bucks but have the personality of a door knob. Both men and women.
This is what I was making my post to,... still learning, and I am blond, could take a while | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/20/2006 12:44:33 PM | | I have no problem when a woman makes first contact. Its actually refreshing to get emails from people you have not contacted and see what they have to say. I always read the profile of the person first and if what they have to say is interesting and I like their profile I usually respond back. I may have been looking at their profile but too shy to make contact and then out of the blue there they are contacting me. Some of my new freinds today are people that made fist contact and I like the emails from people that relate to a topic I was in on the forums. This is the new age and its not all about the man making the first move all the time. Its nice when a woman can think on her own. Have a good day all... | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/20/2006 6:47:39 PM | That's the only way I meet them on the Internet.
Real life is completely the opposite.
I have never had a date with a woman I have PM'd here, and have had a couple with women that have PM'd me. It just seems to work better that way, and I have not totally figured out why. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/21/2006 10:41:32 AM | Okay then it must be me....Some or most men I IM are running scared or just not bothering to respond,lol. Must change deodorant, memo to self...I am beginnig to believe all the men I seek live in Canada.....Or equally far away  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/21/2006 11:06:49 AM | hi optimistic
the following is a quote from your post...
tetra-thank you for the previous information on how/where to find former forums.
I am a little curious though, why are you so bitter? Your responses to others are rather curt. You come off as talking down to everyone else. Not all women are "beneath you" as your profile tends to indicate.
...end quote
I agree tetra does come across bitter....I have to remind tetra that he responded to one of my forum questions with " treat others as you would be treated".
I think personally, I fear approaching someone or initiating contact with men for the above reason....lol
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/25/2006 7:36:19 PM | | I appreciate when a lady messages me first. In actually, I have only contacted a few and of those, not one replied. I am fortunate as most of the ladies that have contacted me, away from a limited few, have become great friends... I appreciate that!! In the beginning I was a "Long Term" but with time here i realized friends is the best way to start and life unfolds. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:01:44 PM | | Definately not. It helps me forget the ones that I make contact with first and do not respond at all. We are all mature adults here and getting new mail is both encouraging and fun. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/26/2006 10:15:23 AM | | I am quite pleased when a woman contacts me first. And on the visual thing, I don't even look for or at a picture until I an interesting chat or two. If she's dull to talk to, I don't even bother. If she's interesting to talk to, then looking at the picture is merely more info, it's not going to sway my opinion a whole lot. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/26/2006 1:04:43 PM | | It doesn't bother me. But a lot of times they will just say "Just wanted to say hi" or "Wow", or something that makes it difficult to really respond to with more than just a few words. This is the same complaint that women say about the guys messaging them. If I don't respond, it is because I am just not interested. I will give you the same advice the women give the men....Try to be original and interesting in your opening email, give them something they can reply to. If they still don't respond, then they are just not interested. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/26/2006 1:25:40 PM | | women making the first conact never turns me off.......a woman actually asking me out first? i'd be speachless cuz it never happens, their assumptions always get the best of them before hand lol | |
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