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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 3:21:37 AM | | I sure hope it doesn't turn men off! In my reality, a lot of men don't do a double-take when they see me, so it's usually me that's making the first contact. I kind of enjoy the chase - but if they're not biting or chasing me back, I move on - someone out there will notice me eventually! :) | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 6:58:34 AM | Actually it is quite a compliment. We are all on the personals for a reason. There are so many weird people out there and so many that do not match what we are each looking for, as well as countless of those that are not emotionally available, and they don't seem to have a problem with saying hello, even if they do not match what the other is seeking. I have heard that ladies who post, especially with an attractive picture (can be just something with a nice smile or a fun time) can get hundreds of replies. Being a male, I can't comment on that but can say that if a lady sees a profile that describes a man with qualities matching hers, does she just wait to hope that that guy trips across her profile? That would be a real shame. As adults with adult responsiblities time is valuable. People are not always able to get onto the site and spend hours searching through profiles in hopes of finding their soul mate. If both sexes try, the chance for the right encounter is doubled. So, ladies, don't be shy. Your guy can still be a gentleman to you and open the door for you when you finally decide to meet, but that will not happen if you don't connect. Now if you are a "player" who just enjoys teasing the guys who show interest, taking advantage of $ that can be spent in the 1st few dates and then moving on, quite frankly, I would hope you never contact me.
Also, one of the best 1st "blind"dates I have had was when the lady actually showed up with a small present. It was Easter and it was a small bag with just a few chocolates, but it was the thought that counted. As it turned out, she was not a keeper but the 1st meeting made an impression. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 11:45:21 AM | "Does a women making the first contact turn you off?"
Yeah, then you guys sit around all dumbfounded when it happens.
You say you like it, but being the responder isn't so natural for most of you...
You are used to being the pursuers, not the pursued. It seems to kill a guy's Mojo when a woman actually does it! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 12:06:15 PM |
You are used to being the pursuers, not the pursued. It seems to kill a guy's Mojo when a woman actually does it!
You know I've dated women from different ethnic backgrounds, ages and zodiac signs. Whether we pay attention to patterns in dating. After a while there does seem to be a trend in what you are attracted to and what you attract. I have been pursued before in a relationship for the most part by sagittarius and capricorn women. However, neither have ever initiated contact with me online. I'd like to believe that online dating is not far off from offline dating. So while a women making initial contact with me is something I'd like even if just to be friends. Based on dating experience I wouldn't draw enough from an initial contact online from a women to be able to determine whether it was her true personality or not. I'm just saying. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 12:17:55 PM | ^^^^^^
True. First contact here doesn't seem to be so scary... You have time to work on your response. I was talking more about IRL anyway...
Note to self: Must read OPs more carefully. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 1:32:33 PM | > blah, blah, blah...when a woman actually does it!
It's a pretty sure bet your dictatorial nature would turn most guys off, so maybe you're just lousy at it. Don't blame us guys. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 2:01:14 PM | Hmmmmm....
Yeah. Dictator... RIIIIIGHT.
So bad at it I leave them speechless!
The rest of them I call my friends.
Just don't say you like it, then think a woman is unnatural or unfeminine for doing it.
Unless, of course, a woman speaks in a low purrrrrr and behaves like an unintelligent, silly fool who gives you a peek at her panties when she does it.
THAT is soooooo HOT!!!
I don't blame men for not wanting what most of them say they want, or you for getting defensive and name-calling so you can feel superior, SOMEHOW.
It must be in a person's nature to blame others for their own insecurities, anyway.
Hmmmm. Sad. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 2:11:46 PM | JadeMuse - where are these women? I'd love to make a few friends. They make posts like these for instance. I do believe at the end of the day. There are a lot of confused people in online dating when its all said and done. Because whether a women makes initial contact or not. It would require at least one person to be honest enough to express interest. And the other honest enough to continue. I got an initial email from a women some time ago who came across as if she were arguing a point about a post I made. I mean it was not friendly at all. So I'd like to think that that initial contact is not the same as the contact the OP is referring to.
You have time to work on your response
I agree. That part to me is not really like offline. Becuase when you meet someone offline. There is no time for delay in responding to questions. Or them picking up on a physical que. Either way I have no issues with being initially contacted. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 2:32:24 PM | ^^^^
btj rv...
We are everywhere!
We make smart-a$$ comments to you when you are buying your groceries about if you need I.D. to purchase that Gouda....
We are the ones who say, "for me?" when you are on your way to your mom's with flowers.
We tell you we like your shoes, your shirt, your choice of beer...
We are the ones who say, "great smile" and mean it.
We hold the door for the guy with full hands behind us, and say, "thank you" when it is held for us.
We are the ones bold enough to ask you to dance...Maybe even buy you a shot sometimes...
We don't have to wait for things to come to us. We like to choose what we like for ourselves.
Being a shy girl isn't a crime...
I'm just not a shy girl. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2008 4:23:00 PM |
We make smart-a$$ comments to you when you are buying your groceries about if you need I.D. to purchase that Gouda
lol. I read your profile. Wow. Other side of the country. Oh well. By the way. Cute picture.  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:00:57 AM | Just found the forum,so a bit late in adding my two penny worth.
However from some of the replies,a lot of sense has been spoken.
Ladies a pic.says more than words,sad but true.
Despite what most people say,everyone males a choice on the basis of that little thumbnail image.
I would find it very flattering for a female to contact me first,if nothing else it would show me that she has seen something attractive in my pic. if nothing else,after that the chat does the rest.
Mind you so far,alas,most of the contacts I have recieved from ladies on here,have been without a pic.and I tend not to respond to anyone without a pic.
But yeh,bring it on. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:04:56 AM | oohhh I get to be reply 500! cool!
No, I like the woman to make the first contact. Takes the pressure off of me. Why should men ALWAYS be the ones to initiate everything dealing with dating, courtship, and sex? Let her take the reigns I say! | |
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