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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:38:35 PM | | well in my opinion woman seem to think men should always make the first move ... im bored with that ... i think if you want something you should go for it ... is it pushy ? i dont think so ... "theres another forum in its self"... but i'm sick of reading the same dam blog everytime i read a womans profile i feel there more curious of my banking then me ... and they always read the same ... looking for mr.right you know "joe flawless "hell we all have our faults... | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:45:23 PM | What I happen to know very silly, is that Men also play Hard to get.
Come on guys, say it for goods or just say that you are not interested.
It will be nice to have the courtesy. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/20/2008 1:05:05 AM | | For me, in todays world. When there are so many gorgeous ladies. Its really hard to make first contact. In the begining, I sent out emails to alot of women, but then never heard anything back. So its a real big turn ON when a women sees what she wants and goes after it. Also, alot of profiles say send more than a " one liner" email to me, but why would I sit and write a book, when over half will not respond anyway? Just my thought. Yes, yes I love getting emails from women first. Makes my day. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/20/2008 5:54:27 AM | ^Yeah that kinda does bother me as well sometimes as far as writing something more than just "Hey baby let me get ur #" and still having it unread/deleted. Ah well.
But as for the question, yes it's most flattering and I do like a woman who can assert herself and goes after what she wants. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:46:20 PM | Hell no....
I bloody love it... However, if I don't find her attractive in return then that can make the situation a little uncomfortable.
I mean... On one hand I don't want to lead her on... But on the other, I don't want to offend her either. It's a tricky juggling act.
But generally... No... It is NOT a turn off when woman take the lead. And I always have a great respect for those women that are brave enough to take that plunge. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:20:42 PM | I love it when women make the first contact. This is 2008 is it not? Why should she not be able to go in whatever direction she wants? See something that is of interest, go after it. After all we are all equal right. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/24/2008 12:03:55 PM | I have actually stated on my profile that i am shy until i feel comfortable with someone.
But for the first time on here i have taken the plunge & contacted some guys..
I would say 90% havent even had the curtesy to reply,afterall i am only looking for friends.
Rather than be rude & not reply,i would rather they say thanks but no thanks.
Not sure if i will have the courage to do it again. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:35:59 PM | | I'm all for it, lets me know they're interested or not at least, I'm not real observant and at times only knew a girl was interested in me because a friend had to tell me she was hitting on me. I don't get alot of sleep, that's my story and I'm sticking to it. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:48:54 PM | I would absolutely love it. Seldom does this happen to me and it would be extra nice. I always reply to a woman that makes first contact, even if I'm not interested. One thing I hate is people that can't bother to reply to someone that went out of their way to show interest. It's just plain rude. So Yes women; bring on the contacts!
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/26/2008 12:20:46 AM | ABSOFRIGINLUTELY NOT!
That being said, it depends on the guy. I personally like it. There is an abundance of women out there and I have met many really great ladies whose profiles I would likely have overlooked in favour of that of the thin blonde with the big... smile! (Yeah, Men are pigs!) Time is a non-renewable resource so given the option of starting something with someone who has already shown an interest in me vs. making 'cold calls', I'll choose the former. One thing this internet dating thing has taught me is that there are a lot of really great women out there that I would probably not have taken a second glance at in a real life social setting. Women usually, although not always, are better at looking past the profile pic!
So go ahead, make first contact if that's the type of person you are.
And guys, I believe that a polite "not interested" is better than no response. Give the ladies the courtesy of a quick reply. (Ladies, correct me if I'm wrong!) | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/26/2008 1:11:34 AM | Not at all. We're living in the 21st century. the women has all the same privileges of a man. men also don't get as many emails as women. It can also boost ones self esteem.
good luck to everyone. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/26/2008 9:58:22 AM | Thanks to dirigo, who said, " There is an abundance of women out there and I have met many really great ladies whose profiles I would likely have overlooked in favour of that of the thin blonde with the big... smile!"
It was great to finally see someone admit that. I often see portraits of guys whom I'd be interested in getting to know, but I hesitate to contact them because a lot of the time they seem to be looking for Barbie -- tall, blonde, long-legged, slender, athletic, big ummm . . . smile -- well, you know what I mean. I know I don't come anywhere near to that (well, except maybe for the smile part); I am 5-foot nothing and don't have the body of a goddess. I hesitate to contact these men because I figure they would never be interested, so why risk being rejected?
I have no problem making a first contact to indicate my interest in a man, but I'd like to believe I at least have a chance of a return message from him. At least it is nice to know that most of the male posters would not mind a woman making the first move.
Great thread, and thanks to the OP for starting it! | |
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