| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:32:29 AM | | no it dont aculy i find it much better tha way cos i have been registared for this for a while had my 1st im last nightand i have been trying for ages to contct women but no emails or anything back i was just about to give up on it too | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/30/2008 1:55:58 AM |
Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Yes, but only because the women who contact me first are never anyone I'd be interested in talking to. Getting a new message is bittersweet, there's that feeling of "hmm who could it be?"... and then the enthusiasm soon flies straight out the window. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/1/2008 12:16:55 AM | MY Thoughts; LOL Thank you, first of all, for allowing us to think LOL. It has happend very rarely, too rarely, to my way of thinking. Since this is supposedly the age of equality(smoeday that'll really be true, too)I think its great that a woman/lady/girl can feel confident enought to take that first step. I now have several FINE friends from them doing just that. I have yet to find the right woman(film at 11)but am encouraged to keep looking. Thanks for the opportunity to comment on this.
Steve | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/2/2008 1:14:07 AM | I have to wonder:
Generally, since the roles have reversed. In the crazy mixed up world. I beleieve anything goes. Most people say lead with your heart and mind. Watch out for all the tell tale signs. However being a bottled blonde I can't read the signs and also being only 3 letters in woman (a man).
I can give you no advice. However I do support, if your interested let me know.
Regards
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:54:57 PM | | More women need to make the first contact. Really ladies it helps you a lot to control a conversation. That may help you not hear all the sex talk us men bring up from time to time lol! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/5/2008 8:39:08 AM | A NOTE FOR THE GUYS:
Almost all of you have said you like it when a woman makes first contact, so please be prepared to respond to her favorably when a possible match does happen in the real world.
Some of you guys seem soooo shocked when it actually happens that you can't muster two coherent sentences. A little shyness is okay, but if you like what you see and hear, a little encouragement is preferable.
I realize most of you are accustomed to being the pursuers, and not the pursued, but please work on your response efforts if you are actually interested.
Thank you!
~~ The Ladies | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/5/2008 9:19:14 PM | I love it, all my life i have worked at it, im flattered should women have the balls to come up to me first....
um....yeah........just as long as their "balls" are metaphoric ones...
.....hrmm....awkward ....
......ok...moving on ....moving on... | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/6/2008 5:21:50 AM | "Just curious how men feel about women making the first contact. Is it a turn off?"
I can't speak for all men, but for me, hell no it's not a turn off. It absolutely turns me on. Why? Two reasons: First, I'm terribly flattered and, second, because I love to be around assertive women. Note: I didn't say (or mean) aggressive women, but assertive women and there's a huge difference. I love women to have the self confidence and sense of self to be able to come out and ask for what they want. C'mon ladies. Men are NOT mind readers. This is the 21st century, right? You fought for equality so that's part of the deal. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/6/2008 3:05:17 PM | "Hell no! I've sent so many unread/deleted messages I've pretty much stopped sending them."
Me too!!!! I have sent innocent messages of just asking about certain pics that have been ignored completely and totally. It makes me really scared to send anyone messages without letting them know I don't expect anything, I am just being friendly. Sad really. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/21/2008 8:42:26 AM | | I prefer if women make first contact, it at least shows an interest and willingness that they are seeking something more than money and looks. As I always reply to any messages I recieve... | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/21/2008 6:49:49 PM | Not at all. I like it a lot.
Just the other day I was at a local restaurant where I'm a regular, and I was approached by one of the waitresses. (She wasn't waiting on my table, so there was no $ incentive for her to be exceedingly nice.)
I was sitting at the counter and she saw me, but at first she didn't smile or anything. We've been trading smiles and idle chit-chat for the last week or so. This time, I smiled, but no response from her. I figured she was distracted, didn't see me (it was VERY crowded and busy at the time), or just wasn't in the mood. It happens.
Wouldn't you know it, later on as I was eating, she noticed me...just as I was putting food into my mouth. (Yeah, worst possible time.) Anyway, I got a cute little wave and a big smile.
Later on when it wasn't busy she came over and talked with me for a few minutes.
Technically I suppose you could say she didn't make the first move that morning, but it made my day that she came over and chatted for a bit. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/26/2008 4:27:17 PM | | I've been sitting back for years waiting for Mr. "Right" to find me. Its not happening. Im going to start taking the reins and make contact with men who I feel is right for me. I think men should feel flattered if a woman contacts them. It means shes interested in them! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/27/2008 4:56:24 AM | | Definately not. Good for a blokes ego to find a message in your inbox from someone who is genuinely interested in chatting to you or meeting you. Have looked at profiles before and not made contact as didnt think i met their criteria,and must say it was a pleasant surprise to be contacted by them later after they've seen you've checked their profile out.I will reply to most with a pic but cant say the same for those without one. Dont know if its just me but if you cant show your face,what else are you trying to hide?So ladies,keep making that contact.You never know what you'll find.Men and women are supposed to be equal aren't they?If i never contacted some of the women i have,then i would be several friends short of the ones i have now. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 4/27/2008 11:11:16 AM | | Is what men SAY they believe and what they actually believe different though? I know y'all say you'd be happy to have a woman make the first move, but in your heads its the fantasy blonde who is perfect for you who happens to drop you a message. What about real life though, when an average gal decides to say hello.....are ya gonna think less of her for being the pursuer...??? Evolution has the guys doing the chasing and the gals doing the chosing.....just cuz society champions equal rights doesnt undo centuries of natural selection.......s | |
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