bellkk
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Joined: 4/21/2008
Msg: 626 | |
| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:02:26 PM | | thank you, thank you, thank you! I loved this answer.....do you realize that there are so many women, myself included, that worry what men will think if they appear too aggressive. I appreciate your honesty about the whole looking past the pic thing...we all tend to be a bit shallow at times, but there are many people out there that are a good catch, just need to look a little deeper. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/5/2008 6:20:50 AM | | It all depends on the woman who has made the first contact. Its very simple; if your interested in her youll reply if your not you wont. Some guys probably cant believe that theyve actually received first contact from the opposite sex and may be too afraid to reply in case they scare her away lol. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:12:54 AM | Id never have thought it would but it does turn me off a little, it colours my vision of the person and well I tend to see other flaws before seeing the good things.
Also it puts me the guy on the defensive , as no matter how old I get some of the traditions will always hold key import to my life. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/8/2008 4:43:12 PM | Does a woman making first contact turn me off?
No way! I'd say 95% of the women I've ever been involved with made the 1st overture. And online it makes even more sense for the women to "do the shopping."
I think women become much more picky when a guy comes on to them -- looking for faults and reasons to reject -- but guys are the opposite: they look upon the women who makes a move more positively rather than less. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:00:54 AM | | Hmm if an attractive woman approached me I would pay more attention to her than an exceptionally attractive woman i would need to pursue. Something about a woman trying to assert herself is extremely attractive in my book. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:38:02 AM | Nah prefer it personally...
that being said if you are sending details of our wedding in the first few months... or emails... then I might feel that there is a bit of craziness... or extra pressure that could be a turn off...
that is just me! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:54:51 PM | | I get asked to dance all the time, Once they see me on the floor with somebody else they decide they want to dance with me. Not many have the guts to ask, so I never turn down one that does. I might not dance a 2nd dance but the first is almost guaranteed. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:19:01 PM | | I think it's great if a woman makes first contact....and I prefer it since it shows that this lady really does find you interesting on some level.......still I think on P.O.F like in real life men do most of the asking. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:13:20 PM | OP:
Are we here for the same reason or not? All of us are here fishing!!! (eventhough I REALLY don't like real fishing, but... here I am). I mean, men and women, including myself, have made our best effort to make our profiles looking attractive. Yes, it's a kind of bait, if we want to see it that way. If a woman find my profile attractive, and makes the first contact, good for me and good for her. Personally, I would find that very daring, breaking the role that society has made us to play, and therefore, delightful.
Coming from a Latin American country, I have found that culturally we (there) are very different. There, for instance, if a woman makes the first contact it would be considered "normal". I said normal, not common. Of course, it changes from country to country, and from region to region. About how men react there, it's different too: some of them like it, and some of them don't.
Here, in America, I have found that it's not the rule, at least not for most of the women over 35. Statistically, in pof, only 25% of women make the first contact. And yeap: I haven't seen any women here making that first contact with me. At least not yet.
Anyhow, just my dos centavos!
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:39:36 AM | Erm...........If it does actually happen to me on here and a woman makes the 1st contact ill let you know 
Personally i think it wouldn't bother me and id be quite excited that someone had taken the time to send me a message..........after sending around 10 messages and reeiving like 2 replies i know id be courteous to anyone who messaged....even if just to say that they weren't what i was looking for and good luck on here. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/22/2008 4:19:25 PM | | Hmm.....interesting question. Well, I think some men may conclude that it's a turn-off for women to make the first move. But I consider it very bold and confident! Why not ask first? Some men are so shy anyways and would never do it! | |
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lorer
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Joined: 4/2/2008
Msg: 646 | |
| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:58:08 PM | | PERSONALLY IF A WOMAN ASKED ME THEN THE CHANCES OF ME REFUSING WOULD BE MINIMAL .IM NEW TO THIS WHOLE IDEA OF ASKING A PERSON OUT AS ITS CHANGED DAYS NOW.AT ONE TIME IT WAS THE MALES RESPONSIBILITY TO ASK A LADY OUT.NOW THE TABLES HAVE TURNED AND IS IT A GOOD THING?THE ANSWER TO THAT IS YES CAUSE IT LETS YOU KNOW THAT THE LADY HAS TAKEN A FANCY TO YOU AND UNBEKNOWN TO THE WOMAN YOU FANCY HER LIKE WISE TOO | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:41:33 AM | I enjoy if the woman makes the first contact . I am afraid of rejection . If , a date happens , 2nd and 3rd .  come on guys meet mrs. right . by date 3 I have screwed it up or she says " not that loser he has not had sex with me . " | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:03:19 PM | | This thread has been very insightful.....unfortunately all the internet dating books that we women read tell us NOT to intiate the first email! So where the #$%& did they do there research! I suspect with all the info in these threads we could write "the new rules to internet dating" book! | |
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