| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/26/2006 3:42:49 PM | optimistic...
studies have shown that women make the first move whether they consciously realize it or not. (in person)... a smile, some type of gesture etc...
online i suppose it is a bit different as many parameters that are evaluated in person cannot be accomplished.
selection is much better online yet the "physical" and emotional "sensations" that occur in person, eye contact, "gut feelings", etc have little chance of manifesting themselves.
online, as i see it, forces one to go after what they are attracted to as far as the pic and profile. yet with all these two and three line profiles ... there is very little to evaluate and get a better idea of the person. pursuing this person might end in a huge waste of time.
you know all this im sure....
but as for a woman making first contact, i get comments almost every day about my profile... most say i am arrogant, but hey, i am very picky. but i enjoy the feedback and some have turned into some fascinating conversations.
but i enjoy the medium and the interactions regardless of the outcome.
there are only 3 that i contacted first and it was only to say they had a good profile or similar encouraging words. all of them were too good to reply. similar to your observations with men.
just send your mail with no expectations, delete them from your box and continue on. if they read em, they do, if not, they dont, no skin off your knee.
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/26/2006 7:36:38 PM | "a woman actually asking me out first? i'd be speachless cuz it never happens, their assumptions always get the best of them before hand lol "
awaitingyou-are you purposely teasing me? How far is Houston from Dallas? | |
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kce33
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/27/2006 4:01:04 AM | Does a woman making the first contact turn you off? ...MY ANSWER is no no... I think its great that women are contacting guys first....IN fact i recently had a gorgeous young lady contact me and its ended up more than friends....
The answer is really simple, everybody has a vision of what they are looking for and when a person fits that vision they will reply, but if you are not what that person is looking for, you will not get a reply....
i see no reason for people to feel rejected because they send an email showing interest and not getting a reply back....
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:52:42 AM |
Just because a women initiates an email does not mean she is interested in anything other than conversation.
This is very true. I also think it is their way of feeling you out, to get a sense of who you are, depending on your response. I would have to say that 80% of the women I have contacted I have gotten a response. My e-mails usually are about something I have seen them post and have commented on, or it has something to do with their profile. I have to say honestly, I am guilty of not responding right away to some that I have received. I do eventually get back to them though, if nothing other then to thank them for their e-mail. I have sent out a few that get no response what so ever, no biggy.
I have absolutely no problem with women making first contact what so ever!! I have met a few very wonderful women here and hope to maintain a freindship with them. Hey, one just never knows!!!!! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:54:54 AM | lrover msg 14
Hell no! I've sent so many unread/deleted messages I've pretty much stopped sending them.
Pat
Pat, an awesomely handsome guy like you doesn't get answered? I don't believe you, sorry, but if you are having trouble with deleted messages, then I have to wonder what the much less attractive Canadian guy is going thru. Or is there such a thing in Canada? An ugly man? I think not and I bet you have a whole harem at your doorstep. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/27/2006 8:40:26 AM | Its flattering to be contacted first but
I agree with bottleneckblues --- each time i get a message and it says something like " nice bod " or " great eye candy " or whatever I just ignore it no matter even if the woman is a stunner or my type or whatever - a few misplaced words of introduction will absolutely kill interest both in males or females - it goes both ways .
You see a woman who is absolutely stunning do you just say " wanted to say hi and that i think your beautifull" --- like she hasn heard that one thousands of times before
well ladies same goes for the guys | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/30/2006 7:24:28 AM | Are you kidding? I'd be flattered! But I do like assertive, agressive women that know what they like and want and are not afraid to go for it.
The only hard part for me is the ones I am not interested in and have to send them a thanks, but no thanks letter. And I do try to at least respond and as kind as I can. | |
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Lutra
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/30/2006 12:35:18 PM | If a guy is intimidated by a woman confident enough to make the first move - he's not for me. I used to be shy, and got tired of waiting for guys to figure out what was going on. Now, if I see something I want I go for it - usually with excellent results!  | |
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Lutra
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/30/2006 5:36:19 PM | Is it carved in stone that we must wait for the man to make a move? I am already doing everything wrong if it is.
How is a man going to know I am interested in him if I don't let him know? Counting the times men have told us they are NOT mind readers. 
I would think it takes a little pressure off a man if we contact him first, not to mention make him feel good about someone noticing him.
Patience is also not one of my greater character traits. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 2:37:46 AM | | It's never happened to me, either. It would be refreshing, I suppose. Particularly if she were interested in what I've written in my profile. Docility in women is not always a good thing. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 2:50:19 AM | Offline I have made contacts that mostly ended up ending in one way shape or form. No different here. Just more of 'em, more often. All the same reasons though. We all MAY meet the "one", once , twice, three times max in one persons life. Too many people think it's a regular occurance. I think it's more like child birth. A miracle, when and IF, it happens!
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 3:49:45 AM | | I don't know about the rest of the American women on here but all the hot looking and friendly Canadian men...just peek my interest in moving to Canada.....Wish I liked cold weather better... | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 6:08:53 AM | If you have a warm Canadian man, you don't need to worry about the cold.
I hear the only frigid women in Canada are those that are waiting for the bus outside.
Of course, I am totally biased - and not afraid to admit it.  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 6:48:43 AM | Ohhhh so very true Montreal Guy----I am still looking for the bedwarmer....Still quite cold in the mountains of Maryland,brrrrrrr. Dear Lord, Please send a Hotblooded man my way!!!! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 7:06:51 AM | | For myself it is very flattering to be the recipient of first contact from a lady. If there is one way to put a huge smile on my face, it is for a woman to say "hello" either verbally or through body language. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 1/31/2006 7:23:53 AM | | I would just love it if a women would contact me sometime. It would so make my day. Momvon Some of the guys with the warmest hearts live in the coldest places,guess I should put on the snowshoes and come visit,lol. | |
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