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cbi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 178 | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2006 4:26:12 PM | | I may be some what of the conservative mindset, but I see no logic in being " turned off " If a woman wishes to be social ! nor would I lend creedance to the little games of " chase " , and " playing hard to get " as I prefer something like...oh...lets say... open and direct communication ! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2006 4:34:43 PM | Ok these are my thoughts. Please don't blast me for having them.
Through the experiences of my friends that date through meeting men online and my own I honestly think that although men might initially be flattered that a woman makes first contact, the same men are not likely to continue on with the woman longterm even if they do go out a few times.
I mean who wouldn't get an ego boost from getting email from someone new (we all do), but deep down I don't think men put any longterm value into it. We think because whether we like it or not some basic things between men and women never change no matter how modernistic we try to get. Job equality is one thing. Dating is another.
Also the woman doesn't know if he really liked her to begin with or if it is just a convenient thing for him (something to occupy his time for now until he feels a real spark for someone else that he's fired up enough to contact himself....first)?
I think it's rare that if a woman contacts a guy that it will lead to anything lasting unless of course She DOES want something short term. | |
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cbi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 182 | |
| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2006 4:46:58 PM | Not blasting you caramel, but my current LTR(well over a year now) started with her contacting me first.
I took it as a sign she was sincere and serious(it was a pay site).
You could also say the reverse for a woman. A man can be the flavor(or provider) of the month for woman who chooses to read and respond to his email.
Can't say if we are rare or not. But she took the chance and so far, it is working just fine. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/1/2006 10:16:06 PM | Not at all. Definate turn on. Bring it ladies. Ultimately, ladies choose who they want to be with. And there's nothing better than one who's not afraid to go for what she wants! | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/2/2006 2:23:54 PM | | I have no problem with a lady making first contact. In fact I find it refreshing as I may have been looking at her profile too but maybe thought she would not dig me and then I get a message from her first. Have a good day all... | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/2/2006 6:57:10 PM | ^^^ Nice-looking man like "double cabin" ... shouldn't have any problems with the ladies running up to him no matter where he goes.
OT ... Let's hope that wouldn't be a turn off to a man. I think it's a two-way street. If a man is attracted to a woman or a woman is attracted to a man ... either should enjoy having the other make contact! If nothing else, it has to be good for a guy's self esteem when the lady approaches him. | |
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Velzy
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Joined: 10/10/2005
Msg: 189 | |
| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 3/2/2006 7:22:04 PM | Maybe this crowd can offer some insight on this...If I see someone who shares some of my interests I will contact them. What baffles me is when they don't respond, but then add me to their Favorites list?!? >^..^< Very curious to hear your theories!  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 5/12/2006 3:26:00 AM | hmmm, lemme find some longwinded way to answer..........(theme to jeapardy plays somewhere in the background) ...........................(jeapardy music still playing) ..................................................(pause for deep breath).............................. ..............................(yup jeaprdy theme still going).........................ok....... and the answer is, HELL NO. not only is it flattering when a woman contacts me first, it takes alot of the guess work out of the equasion. | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 5/12/2006 7:31:54 PM | Well, you know, if a woman made first contact with me, I'd really consider it. I hate having to be always the first to initiate contact. To me that would show a genuine sign of interest. It would take out the guesswork of trying to ask a woman out I don't know. Be courageous, and make first contact! A strong willed woman is especially attractive to me. Granted there is a lot of give and take. I too often feel like though I'm the one always giving and not receiving enough take.  | |
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| Does a women making the first contact turn you off?
Posted: 5/13/2006 6:25:42 AM | | A subtle display of interest is wonderful, like a smile from across the room. If I'm interested I'll take the bait. Anything more aggressive seems unnatural and can be taken as a sign of desperation. Very unattractive. | |
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annaa
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 197 | |
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