| When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:51:38 AM | | I don't like to cry infront of anyone at anytime. My tears are a private matter becasue it is about me and not the other person. For blackmail? If I was totaly honest, YES I have when I was young in my teens with my first boyfriend. Lesson learned; it did not matter. LOL | |
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| When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:07:43 AM | This thread is from 3 years ago, but whatever.
I don't cry publicly unless someone dies. If I feel I'm going to start crying, I get the hell out of the situation and go get myself together. I don't like crying publicly and I'm not real comfortable with people who do it around me...unless of course someone died.
With regard to msg. 73 - yes, 9/11 was a time where I cried a lot for a week or two - to myself if possible, but still. Also in my area 2/20/2003 was the date of the Great White performance and the imfamous Station Fire. I knew a some of the 100 people that died personally, so that was tough.
Most men don't know I cry so they can't really say what it means. A guy or two has cried around me, but it was for good reason - and it wasn't about me.
Judging from my female friends that do cry - I'd say probably not. Seems to be an acceptable way to express emotions that are legitimate to the situation, or emotions that aren't acceptable to display as women, and they don't seem to have much control over it. Sometimes it's for no reason at all - I don't get that, but I don't try too hard to figure it out. *shrug* | |
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| When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:49:36 AM | | idk-in my case -m i hate to cry-especially in front of my SO......most men i've dated actually liked to see me cry-b/c i am always a hard a**.....so for mr-i never cry just to get my wqay-its more like i am so pi$$ed off oh sh*t my face is leaking...damnit! | |
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| When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:37:33 AM | | I've had people cry (both men and women) as they were lying their faces off, so I take little stock in tears unless there's legitimate reasons. Not being a cryer myself, I get irritated when others do it at a drop of a hat but have to tell myself some people express their emotions easily by crying. On the other hand, I've seen people who do cry to get their way - largely women. It seems to me that it may well be more of a learned behaviour as they grew up - it worked as a manipulation tactic to get their way or to avoid "penalties" for poor behaviour and they brought the tactic with them through to adulthood. Many actors can cry on command, so it's not as though crying is purely an emotional state at all times. | |
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| When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:48:33 AM | "When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?"
It depends on the woman. You have to look at what other things she does to determine if her crying is because of emotion or if it's being employed to manipulate you. | |
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| When a woman cries, how often is it emotional blackmail?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:55:13 AM | I agree it's a cop out.
We're supposed to be mature adults. we're supposed to have open lines of communication. We're supposed to have the wisdom to deal with all circumstances. I've had that happen to me and I sit there and wonder why it ever had to get to that point. And afterward i certainly don't want to talk. Because as you've said.. it's the guilt trip and has taken away from the objectivity of the conversation.
It's hard to imagine someone is going to care about your feelings, your point of view after they've balled their eyes out. When the expected thing to do is console them and make them feel better. Like a child.
But then.. men are from mars and women are from venus. | |
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