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Posted: 2/8/2006 4:39:01 AM | Feel you Bro if you figure this one out let me know, Ive taking the time sometimes as much as 45 mins to read there whole profile try to get an idea about the person then write what I think is an meeningful reply and still no responses ,, about ready say why bother give up on the online Sites
Does make you wonder why do they even Bother making an profile , Must be an game to Most ehh Who Knows Who cares , Life Goes on | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 5:27:50 AM | First, you need to figure out whether the profile you are writing is current. A lot of women post a profile just to check out the site and never return. If you add a person to your "favorites" list you can check the last time they logged on, before you waste your time copying and pasting a letter you might want to know if she will even read it.
I also noticed that you are also a single parent. I could write the book! I am a single dad of four and that is NOT a plus in the dating world. And, while I have my act together and live a blessed life, most women are not willing to give me the time of day. Either they feel I don't have enough love to share, don't wish to get caught up in helping me raise someone else's children, or they are put off that I am able to manage so well and are threatened by my maternal instincts. For the moment, I'd be slow to be so forthcoming on the family.
Last, when you figure out who's profile is current, then the task is to plaster the web with copy and paste letters and wait for a bite. Rome was not built in a day! When you have been at this game for a decade, then perhaps it is time to complain? | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 9:36:11 AM |
didnt you see 40 year old virgin? ask them questions!
Oh yeah! That works. Lol, "do you like to do it yourself?" Haha, I do 
I think you should personlize every message you write... I hope that helps. Don't send the saem generic things to everyone... or worst send it to them twice.  | |
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| any tips on writing a decent message that i might actually get a reply2!! lol
Posted: 2/8/2006 12:03:25 PM | Don't know what you're writing in your messages, but maybe you need to put more info in your profile. When someone message me I look at their profile first to see if we seem to have any common interests, etc. If there is nothing in the profile that is interesting to me I usually respond that I'm not interested.
PS We women don't get hundreds of e-mails per day, especially not us real dogs... | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 4:59:35 PM | | I message back to very few people... and here is why. They usually say the typical wanna chat, nice pics and profile so we should meet, ect. Its very dull. Nothing original. I try to write my profile in such a way that I may not be telling alot about me, but rather show people one fascite to my personality. If I can provoke thought thats what I want to hear about. If they relate to what I have said and tell me why, they may get a reply. However... if I reply and they message back with dull typical wanna chat message the second time around, then one reply is all they get. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 5:39:51 PM | the " why women dont reply rant" again ?? ***slapping forehead***
from these threads I understand that women get a lot more mail than men.
Advice : read a profile carefully and ask relevant/not too personal questions with good humor
but even that does not obligate the person to reply....write down these magic words "MOVE ON"
although it is rarer for guys to not reply......
here are some that I did not reply and why
my profile : agnostic/non religious
her email : " I believe in god.........Ive recently converted to xxxxreligion
my profile : if youre a young lady still searching for herself...pls dont bother
her mail : im 21 years old...I think you are the perfect man for me
(hullo we havent even met)
my profile : I read esoteric books mostly
her mail : i think we have common interest......I love reading horror flicks
my profile : details my status likes /dislikes
hermail : drop me a line if you would
Check her profile: she says about her :sexy girl looking for : Rich Guy
and full of "prefer not to says"
Guys read her profile carefully...and dont send 1 liners like youre hot, cool profile and the boring....if my profile interests you pls reply me(it goes without saying that we reply to profiles that spark an interest...I did it and find that I get replies to 6 out of 10 mail I send
even if she's not interested.
hope to be of some help........
cheers fellow POF's
The tips given by frossty & longte also make good sense....
You have to find your own style...but more important than trying to impress is to be honest and be yourself...it will be pointless if she responds and finds out when you meet in person that you are not really who you say... | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 6:02:08 PM | Also should mention that maybe you should not mention "farting" in your initial contact e-mail.
I know, I too would've thought that most people would know that without being told, but as of today I know that there is at least one person that did not know that and if there is one there may be more. If the person has mentioned "farting" in their profile it may be okay to mention it in your initial contact e-mail, but otherwise I would recommend against it. Of course everybody farts, but that does not mean that everyone wants to hear about it from a complete stranger! | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 6:26:04 PM | | Stop trying to be cool or something you may not be. I used to do that and got nowhere for years. Now I have been on POF for 4 days I think and already sent mail and received a reply. The reply requested my chat info so we can talk real time. What did I do? The first letter was humerous, truthful, and asked one question. The follow letter asked a few more questions and apparently worked because it has sparked an interest. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 7:44:58 PM | | I keep hearing about so many men on POF who send messages and dont get replies. I am wondering if they are all contacting the same 10 women who are overwhelmed and stopped reading their e-mails long ago because they are on 796 favorites list! In reality its not the message you send but who you send it to and it happens to women also which is why I quit sending them (that and the fact I am too shy and my initiating contact has been a dismal failure). If you find a solution we all want to know! | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 9:17:22 PM | Don’t go for to many questions, DON'T I mean DON'T tell them they are attractive. Yes you might say what are you crazy... no I’m not... these girls are probably getting 100 e-mails a day saying they are pretty, hot, sexy blah blah blah. IT WON’T WORK. Don't kiss ass and try to make your self more into something she likes then you actually are. For example "OMG I love rock climbing too. Its sooo fun" no sure its nice for them to see that you like what they are into but it still wont get you very far.
It’s all in the wit. Read their profile then send them some witty remarks and challenges. EVEN make fun of them a little NOW don't be mean that’s bad!! to my earlier example with the rock climbing it could go like this- “I see you like rock climbing, If you took me with you I bet I could out climb you ANY day of the week.." EVEN if you can't out climb them it doesn’t matter your challenging them. This also might work- “oh you climb rocks? Climbing rocks is easy I could do that before I was even in school. You should try climbing mountains and cliffs” all this for fun/ out of boredom, I usually can bring home girls wither it be online or from bars ect ect. I'm not**** I'm not the greatest looking guy But I know how to keep girls on there toes and I know how to have fun with it. THAT’S all you need to do!! HAVE FUN WITH IT.
PUT them on the hot seat grab there attention. Then if you’re good you can keep there attention AND BAM, PRESTO, you got your self a POF girl. GOOD LUCK hope my input can help you.
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Posted: 6/1/2006 8:56:21 PM | i know the feeling i have been talking to quite a few poeple who have done the same thing to me its like all anybody wants to do is send a few e mails then bam gone i dont know what this on line dating is supposed to do but it sure is wierd fro me too. or they get you to get on the messangers and talk a few messages ask for nimbers and never call its like they leave you hanging in the lurch waiting for the next drop of water to fall from a foset that has been turned off for awhile. im not used to this on line dating b.s. but it sure is crazy i guess im an old fashioned girl but what do you do if your not into the bar seen and all your friends are married ohhh well.....laura:  | |
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Posted: 6/1/2006 9:08:34 PM |
now and again i'll search 4 ppl in my area and send them a wee message2 say hi but more often than not i'll get no reply, has anyone got any tips on how 2 write a catchy message that will get a reply? cheers
Start the email off with a slightly (Or overtly, if you're clever enough) sexist remark.
If she's a BBW, make a rude comment about her size.
If she has any tattoos in the pictures, use the words, "trashy" and "skank" somewhere.
If she smokes, make a comment about how disgusting it is.
If she's "non religious", tell her she's going to hell.
If you see even a remote glimpse of any body parts in her pics, comment endlessly on them.
Especially the chest.
Tell her you're a romantic at heart and you wanna "hit that" sideways and in reverse.
Tell her you'll buy her a Happy Meal, but only if she agrees to put out.
Make it a point to not read her profile AT ALL. Not a single word.
Simply send her a message that says, "Hi".
If she replies to you and says "no thanks" (Or any kind of rejection) make it a point to flood her email box with a barrage of mails referring to what a **** she is, how she'll never get married, she'd be lucky to hook up with you and if you run out of words, tell her she's probably a lesbian anyway.
You guys will be meeting for coffee and heading to that "somewhere to talk" in no time!
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Posted: 6/1/2006 9:29:05 PM | First off "hi" does not consist a message,its a greeting ! Get a bit more creative if you want a reply and make sure that you show that you've actually read the profile!!
Dont get too discouraged even if you put more effort into it.Personaly i get a minimum of 50 e-mails a day,there is no way i can answer everyone of them,i dont have that kind of time.But if i'm asked a genuine ,intelligent question about what i wrote ,i will take the time to answer.And make sure you wrote something about yourself in your own profile,more than for example:"looking for hot girls" .Hope that helps | |
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Posted: 6/1/2006 9:41:47 PM | I don't think I have a magical formula for anyone out there seeking a reply, but I usually do get a reply when I send out a message. Before you send out a message, read their profile carefully and put one or two things in your message that shows you have read it.
A good first message should do 3 things:
1. Show you have read their profile.
2. Demonstrate a similarity between the two of you.
3. Subtly (or not so subtly) ask for a reply.
For example, you could say something like "So you like to travel. Me too, I've been all over. What are some of the countries you have been to?" That simple sentence does those 3 things. Also, a subject line other than "hey" is usually good. Something like "Hi, I loved your profile" is a good one I find. Keep the first message short, but make sure it does the 3 things I mentioned above. Hope this helps. Happy fishing all!! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 6:49:58 AM | | I probably should not reveal my trade secrets garnered from the Knights Templar and the Guild of Online Assassins, but I have rigged this message to explode in 48 hours and will give you all the benifit of the accumulated wisdom of the ages now. Yes some few simple tips that will make your communications foolproof. But wait, what's that sound coming from the lower level of the stately manse. Oh, no, I am found out! It is Cardinal Richileu and his maroon-robed henchmen! Quickly now, to the hidden wall panel - serving wench, barricade the door with the mahogany family credenza! I am away, my gondola slipping silently down the underground canal to freedom. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 12:57:22 PM | some of your pictures are creepy or scary-looking, so much so, that I worry a little bit about that baby! Get some brighter, nicer, friendlier-looking pictures! One of them looks like you're a serial killer of pete's sake!
other than that, you're kinda cute.
you are not in my age range, but if you were, I'd wonder what's up with the not-so-nice pictures, I'd wonder why you'd want to represent youself with such unflattering shots.
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Posted: 6/2/2006 1:41:30 PM | Ask a profile related question. I get many emails, so I do not respond to all of them –
Hi, how are you?
Did you have fun at the party last night?
How’s your search?
These are not questions that inspire me to write back.
Also, I've found that a good exchange of asking at least one question in each subsequent email is nice (for both parties). And, and – be sure to READ the replies and answer the questions you are asked. Getting a reply where I’ve asked a few questions and the person only replies to one thing in particular by going on and on about it because it involves them screams EGO (or “I don’t really have time to email you now, so I’ll do a half-assed job of it) to me. Once I get to know you and if I think you’re great, then your ego will be boosted by me and you’ll boost mine. But coming off with a big ego off the bat is a huge turn-off!
A half-assed email message speaks volumes.
Of course this doesn’t apply to email convos that just seem to die out. Sometimes, two people just don’t have anything more to talk about, no fault to either party.
You could snag someone with a very simple email too. Your profile backs up every message you write big-time. If there is something in your profile that the woman you wrote to is not interested in, then it would not matter if you wrote her a book!
MisterNiceGuy had a good example of a quick email that invites a response.
As for being told if one is good looking, this depends on the rest of the message. Someone told me I was yummy and the rest of their message and profile were interesting so I responded and did not take offence at the yummy comment. Over the top is not good. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 4:41:35 PM | | Always have a photo attached...so many guys send these emails with no photos attached and none on their profiles...aggghh...instant delete most of the time...sometimes if I'm feeling generous I'll encourage them to send a pic next time. Since you have a pic on profile....I'd just say in your email, hi, I like your profile (read it before you say it!) Sometimes I delete all the text from my profile except the stats and guys will email and say..."I loved what you had to say in your profile"....definately don't do that! lol! and say you'd be happy to exchange emails. If you are a good and eloquent writer, then do something creative...just don't go on and on about yourself...that is very yawn inducing. Last piece of advice...grow a thick skin, online dating can be brutal...be prepared for alot more rejection than positive responses! It's the nature of the beast. | |
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