| u can't have a PLATONIC friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:52:31 AM | The only platonic friendships I seem to maintain and the ones on the internet or the ones where we rarely if ever hang out!  I can hang around them with no problem but most men seem to think that if you are friends it is going to lead somewhere...I think I will give up guys and stick to my bike from now on!!! 
BTW...I only posted here to change the thread title...although most people will click on the OP and the word will continue to be misused forever....ugh...The word is PLATONIC...not plutonic...  | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 7:17:53 AM | Yes, you can have many plutonic relationships with members of the opposite sex... I have many female friends and we have nothing more then a plutonic relationship.
Having a beer and wings then shooting a game of pool is called hanging out!!! If they think anything else then in my opinion some ppl focus too much on sex and not friendship!! | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 9:10:38 AM | Seems like there are more women seeking men as platonic friends than vice versa. Am I to gather that men are better company? I don't think. I assume it must be pack instincts for the purpose of survival. This then, is where the answer lies... Instincts.
If one man meets another, the first thing done is sizing up... Who is the Alpha male? Once its either sorted out OR left alone, then the men can maintain a friendy demeanor or friendship... at least until a female enters the picture... . Now then, when a man meets a woman, a similar "sizing up" is done, but in a sexual sense... If there is an attraction by either party and a friendship arises, the relationship, technically, is not platonic as sexual feelings(attraction) are involved. But, even if there is no attraction on either side, that is not to say that one cannot develop, whatever the cause. Now of course, we all know that there have been friends of the opposite sex that were platonic in practice till death, but the fact remains that some sexual interaction between both parties had to have taken place at some point, even if it was just sizing each other up (I know I'm being technical here). But one must think... If given the right conditions over the proper amount of time, say being stranded on an island with each other for years on end, then eventually ... somethings got to give. It is inevitable. Therefore, there is really no such thing as a true platonic relationship, but we can exercise platonian values as we would exercise monogamistic ones... even though that seems to be a rarity as well. So both manogamistic and platonian values can be acheived in everyday life by only the most elite and neither is possible unconditionally. Flesh and bones... It is our curse, but our human mind is the cure. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 9:11:54 AM | | Yes you can have a platonic friendship with the opposite sex. My best friend is a guy. We have known each other about 11 years. He is more like part of the family now instead of just a friend. We have been there for each other through so much. We haved shared apartments, just hung out, slept together just to sleep and not have sex, cried on each others shoulders, laughed, and partied. He is actually the reason I am now living in Florida. lol | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 10:07:00 AM | Sure...and I flirt with them too.
I like to go dancing and that's not something I can do with my guy friends, but I like dancing with different women so I have women friends that go with me dancing.
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 1:55:02 PM | Pluto's not gone- he's just been downgraded- to a planetoid or sub-planet or something but he may be back someday! (Theme to Rocky I)
Sure you can have a platonic relationship with the other half, but humans being fallible, we manage to find a way to screw that up too. .
Attractions, hormones and attitudes all play into it. I can just talk and hang with women- they are fun. But after a while, if your single, it can start to wear on you having temptation sitting right there- its like hanging a piece of meat in a basement with a starving dog.
And people will sometimes "use" you for other things too- but its like a victimless crime- after a while both parties should know. I have seen people with their entourage of hapless admirers, each one hoping he/she will be the one to get "picked", broken hearts, groups of "Friends" (look what happened in the TV show even!) etc. Been there, got the T-shirts on both sides.
Their are many types of relationships under the sun here on earth (which is better than Pluto - too fricken' cold for  ) with all their complexities, fun, heartaches. But there is always a chance that someone will be looking for more unless it is spelled out in the beginning. THIS CAN HAPPEN TO YOU - and remember- s*** happens. How we deal with it is another story or string.      | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:16:02 AM | | Of course you can have a plutonic friendship with the opposite sex. My best friend happens to be a man. Admittedly he is my ex and we did have a relationship for a long period of time but neither of us want or would even consider dating or having a proper relationship with the other again. It's purely plutonic now and will be forever and we are both completely happy with that. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:33:57 AM | | I have two male friends. One is gay and more like a gf, the other is really more my dogs' friend than mine. With my straight friend I do not cuddle, kiss, get in bed with him, or have any conversation that might hint of sex. We discuss politics, religion, the dogs, mutual acquantances, and food. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2008 2:13:32 PM | Hi, i think your wrong, i have loads of female friends, i am married not cheating, i can flirt but theres no harm in that, So men and women can have a plutonic friendship. If i think someone is pretty yes i will say that they are, dosnt mean i wanna jump into bed.   | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2008 2:29:56 PM |
Ha ha..."plutonic"...
Anyways, I KNOW it's possible to have a PLATONIC relationship with the opposite sex...
PLUTONIC must be a far out friendship, like groovy, cool, far out.
PLATONIC a friendship not involving sex.
There is also the URANUS relationship where the other person treats you like an a$s. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2008 4:16:25 PM | | I can just be friends with women that I find physically repulsive. Anything above that I want to at least see naked. I can be real friendly while they take it off though, so it doesn't hurt the friendship. Helps actually:) | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2008 8:21:41 PM | | Yes, U can have a platonic friendship with the opposite sex and I have had one for the last 9 years.............is much like the relationship I had with my brother. What makes it work, I would have to get back to you on that. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/7/2008 12:22:58 AM |
If men are from Mars, and women from Venus, and we live on Earth - how does Pluto enter into a friendship? That's pretty far out! Wow! You know.... since the time of your post, Pluto is no longer a planet. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 3:57:38 PM | | I agree with kittenshere. Mature people CAN have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex and in fact some of those friendships are life-long and caring without having gone "over the line". | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:07:57 PM | As a younger man, I would agree.
Now that I'm older and somewhat more mature, I realize a man and woman can be friends. However, can be and will be are not two of the same. Many times I've ended up hooking up with a plutonic friend after a night of drinking. Weird. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:10:24 PM | | Smoochie, ya might as well laugh about this and accept it. Only if he's gay or finds you absolutely unattractive, guys are hounds and sex is always, always, always a glimmer in the back of any our minds...any red-blooded heterosexual man (or woman, as you pointed out) with an ounce of libido is going to recognize and appreciate your visual stimulation. Whether we GET sex is up to you. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:21:15 PM | | I have never had a successful platonic relationship with a guy. Often the guy wants sex and I want friendship so it ends. Just recently, I wanted to help a friend who lost his job and is facing eviction. He mistook my sympathy for eagerness for sex and everything ended. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:18:12 PM | Sure I believe persons can have a platonic relationship, But sleeping curled up with a guy,
a person may be able to get by with it a couple of times. But there will be a time that
that a person could be awaken by the alarm c_ck, that is just nature! | |
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