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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:39:08 PM | | I have many guy friends (mostly online but met a lot of em) and one of my best friends is a guy and I have never done anything with them. I have been friends with my best guy friend for 8-9 years and it has always been just a friendship nothing has ever come up to think otherwise. Not everyone is looking to get in everyone else's pants. | |
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| u can have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 8:35:33 PM | I have many male freinds who are just that - FRIENDS. I have a hobby that puts me around many men. I am an amatuer latin, hustle, ballrroom dancer. I have met so many wonderful people both men and women. We all travel together on weekend resort trips where we dance 18 hours a day and we all go on a dance crusie each year. very few of us have formed relationships (maybe two couples). We are friends. I have a strict rule that all my male dancer freinds know and respect. "I will dance with you, but I will not date you". I prefer the friendship and if i got involved with one of the men it may be uncomfortable to return to the dance club if things did not work out or I saw him with another woman. Why put myself in that situation. I rather find a man on my own, hope he will try to dance. He can come to my clubs but if things dont work out, out of resepct he would not return to my club and I will still have my freinds. I have a group of maybe 40-60 people in my group and we are always doing things together. I have not dated anyone of them (maybe I kissed one by accident but that was stopped fast) and we are all wonderful friends and I am not doing anything with any of them excpet dancing and being good friends!!  | |
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| u can have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/3/2009 8:41:35 PM | While I think men and women can be friends, it's never going to be quite on the same level as your same sex buddies . It just seems that usually one or the other has an attraction on some level in my experience. Not that there is anything wrong with that... I just think people are just hard wired that way. I think Chris Rock explains it well ( and pretty funny.) Should be easy to find it on youtube.  | |
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| u can have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:59:02 AM | | Friendships between a man and a woman can be a very strong bond and while there can be a physical, emotional, sensual attraction between them there may also be a deep respect for the friendship that precludes "physical" contact. The trust between them can be a very powerful "love" that allows them to interact, platonically, within the bounds of true friendship; nothing more. I cherish these relationships. | |
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| u can have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 4:06:09 AM | I have lived with my female roommate for over 3 years now. We haven't had sex or anything of that nature conspire between us....but she does tell me all about her escapades.....every single detail.... | |
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| Yes u can have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 7:18:02 AM | .............................................................vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv.........................
Well, I'd like to know what my Best friend in the world have then if it isn't "Friendship".
Contrary to what "Some" think - men and women most certainly Can and often are very good friends. Gawd - if I had sex with All my Male friends - it would be like having sex with my frikkin Brother or Father! ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
My best Male friend has been so for a dozen years. The closest we will Ever get to physical is a hug.
Another Male friend is more like a Dad to me. It's a very important relationship - for us both. Neither of us would think of going "there"!
I have a few Male friends and I cherish them. They are Awesome to talk to - spechully when an unfamiliar 'martian' shows up and I need translating!!! lol
That being said - I also have several 'same sex' Friends - 2 of them want me!!! lol
Go figure! Male or Female - FRIENDS are the most important resource in my life.
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| Yes u can have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:24:50 AM | ................................................................................... ahem .. s'cuse me ....................
Platonic. Yes it is and it does happen all the time. Plutonic however; is still an impossibility, I suspect that one day humans will be able to have 'that' sort of long distance relationship, these days tho the cell bill would be 'astronomical'!
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:57:36 AM | I got lots of platonic friends myself good grieff
I dont recall any that are plutonic though LOL
I believe a person can live in same house or apartment and be platonic.......
shoot Ive done that before myself he had his room I had my room. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:32:25 PM | | It's possible to be JUST friends with the opposite sex. I mean ya it's also possible to end up haven a phyical relationship with a friend, like over time realize you like them for then just a friends.. but really in the end it depends on each person and what they really want. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 6:10:24 PM | Plutonic relationships are very possible. They are alive and well in society today. Here's the warning. Keep it in a group setting and be aware of the behavior. Have clear defined lines. One can leave their valuables in their unlocked cars overnight and not have a thing stolen. Do you think it is wise to do this? Absolutely not!
Why leave doors unlocked and your valuables in plain view in plutonic relationships? Protect your most treasured valuables by using as good or better sense than you do with your automobile. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 6:38:22 PM |
So what do u think can we have plutonic friendships with ppl of the opposite sex?
Strictly plutonic? Sure but only if both parties don't find each other attractive. The truth is, most friendships I think start because one or the other or both are attracted to each other.
I have asked out countless friends and been told no...I'm still friends with them...it takes a while after being rejected but time heals all wounds.
Yes men and women can be friends...feelings change...it's a fact...sometimes for the better and others for the worse | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/4/2009 6:41:02 PM | | Really isn't a major issue for me, I've had a handful of them where nothing ever transpired or even crossed my mind for that matter. Now people who have friends ONLY of the opposite sex is another story entirely. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:32:06 AM | I have many guy friends (mostly online but met a lot of em) and one of my best friends is a guy and I have never done anything with them.
Classic line said by many girls, and is a situation held by many, too...
I have been friends with my best guy friend for 8-9 years and it has always been just a friendship nothing has ever come up to think otherwise.
These CAN be the exceptions -- friends from grade school and whatnot. For true no-sexual-tension/inner-drama to be had by one of the parties, usually they have to be very distinctly different people, one out of the league of the other and both maturely aware of that, or one at least been in a happy marriage along with a friendship of their SO -- but even those things are not 100% guarantees.
I believe, yes, of course, you can be friends with the opposite sex without anything sexual occurring. However, the question is can you have a truly genuine plutonic friendship with the opposite sex, periodically hanging out *one-on-one*, when you're both straight and single -- all while each party has only plutonic emotions in mind? HIGHLY UNLIKELY.
Just being honest -- and I think many girls DO know this deep down, but over time, just aren't aware of it anymore, since it really isn't necessarily a big deal in many situations.
It all begs the question about the beginning, and what type of 'friendship' it is (more than an acquaintance). If a guy and girl hang out, one-on-one, watch rentals together, go out to the bar one-on-one, etc. -- there'd have to be a real RARE circumstance to support the plutonic argument, as to how and why they became "friends".
Scenario 1: Group of guy-friends - when a girl has this, you can bet the house that more than 1 of the guys does have an attraction to her, and if most are single along with she, you can bet than more than 1 of the guys does think about, at least from time to time, her in a naughty way and visualizing hopeful options in that light. Many times the girl will think the same thing about one of the guys when she's single and has no other options on the side.
Scenario 2: One-on-One guy-friend - when a girl has this, both straight and single, and they physically hang out one-on-one periodically, 99/100 times they're fooling themselves into thinking -at least- one isn't fond of the other. It doesn't have to be a crush, and there doesn't have to be any immediate expectations... but come on -- practically impossible for there to be plutonic-only mindsets wholly covering this two-way street.
One-on-One friends: Some girls like genuine attention that can be brought by friends-only, and some guys will be on that "friendship ladder", thinking they can maybe get on the "dating ladder" at some point. Doesn't mean they don't like the girl as a friend at the same time. But some guys can be "attention whores", meaning they put out attention, caring, and understanding, and a girl sees him as "A Nice Guy", while the guy thinks he's making inroads.
Again, Just because you haven't had sexual relations with a particular opp-sex friend, does not mean it was plutonicly minded on both sides the whole time! Not counting acquaintances here -- that's a different story. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:27:56 PM | Harry and Sally end up married deciding to get married ....
The entire point of the movie is that men and women can't really be friends, the relationship is sexualized in some way for one party or the other..if they are single
If both are married it still cause issues.... | |
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Posted: 1/9/2009 4:13:27 PM | I beileve people can just be friends my best friends female we been friends for over 2 years and were as close as friends can be and nothing ever happened between us we love each other as friends but thats all I find it other people that find the issue not are selfs which I always find strange I find company of the opsit sex easyer then other males so in answer yes males & females can be just friends with out s*x  | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 4:29:29 PM |
....a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
.... sounds toxic any way you look at it... friends, opposite sex, same sex, missionary sex, kinky sex, solo sex....
... not sure I'd EVER be prepared to introduce plutonium to ANY relationship...
... just sayin'.....
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 4:53:03 PM | di999, the first time I saw WHMS, I had to agree with Harry. I find it hard to believe that a man can be just friends with a woman who he finds attractive, and I think the same applies the other way around.
it's just human nature! thank God!  | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 5:08:30 PM | I think it's very possible to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex.
Trust me when I say that I speak from experience. You know how some women have that one "nice guy" friend who they talk to about their problems, count on for support, and occasionally do things with...but he's still -just- a "nice guy"? Yeah, that was me in a nutshell in college. I had platonic relationships with several girls, but none of them ever expressed any romantic interest in me and I didn't press the matter. I'm not a very pushy or aggressive person by nature and I was content with being able to help them out. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 9:34:51 PM | | Of course it's possible. I have more female friends than I have male friends. Of course some of those ladies I have been involved with in the past but that only makes us closer in friendship I feel. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 9:55:12 PM | | I sometimes don't think so I usually tend to have guys friends and usually stuff tends to happen with them some point in time at least in testing the waters. But I also think that comes with the territory of being young and hormonally drivin lol. I think yes for when people are older and more mature platonic relationships are possible. | |
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