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Posted: 1/11/2009 7:34:41 AM | | Yes! I have lots of women friends and we're platonic. I do agree that one might want something more. I have slept with female friends in the same bed and nothing would happen, we would even snuggle and nothing more. Some people couldn't handle that but some can. So yes, it is possible. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 11:25:37 PM | Yes you can you just hav eto be really unattracted to eachother. I had a friend and really I wasen't attracted at all and he didn't really care and sometimes he would give me eyes but, just in a sweet way and we were just freinds, it is possible | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 5/2/2009 12:11:41 AM | yep; I totally do.
but it has to be very clear; there has to be very clear boundaries; and it can in no way interfere with the other person's s.o. if they have one;
the second it creeps into an intimate friendship (I don't mean physically intimate; I mean emotionally intimate, where the other person becomes the one's first confidante, not their s.o.), when they are hitched; it becomes a problem. Those kinds of friendships have broken up many, many a couple... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 12:15:26 AM | Most of my friends are guys, but then again the majority are gay! I agree with the posters that have said it comes down to "attraction"...they become friends because there is NO attraction to begin with lol... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 1:06:15 AM | Anyone who can't have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex, especially an attractive member of the opposite sex has got some problems.
I've consistantly had many, many platonic friends of the opposite sex... both not so attractive and smoking hot. I would never do anything with any of them.
Case closed for me.... but everyone is different. By this guy telling the OP it's a "copout" or whatever, that just means he couldn't handle it and he's probably kind of stupid. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 2:10:05 AM | I think its possible, but if one developes feelings for the other i think its doomed.
I met a girl on POF a few months ago, we got along really well, hung out 3-4 times a week, just firends. e-mailed and txt multiple times a day, we got along so well and had heaps of fun when we went out. Then admitted i had feelings for her, from there it just went down hill and fast. Now we talk maybe once a week, see eachother every 2 weeks or so, its a total mess.
This was all after she held my hand a few times at ice skating, plus other things that i obviously mis-read as more than friends.... The joy of mixed signals!
If there is no attraction to each other i think friendship isn't an issue, i have a few female friends that i see as only friends and i wouldn't give them up for anything. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 2:16:15 AM | Perhaps it just depends on the person.
Because I have a lot of platonic female friends....
But I do have a problem with female friends developing feelings for me. This is usually not an issue because I am usually not single for long. However, I am getting really tired of it. I have a circle of friends I hang out with- mostly female, and over half have approached me in some way, shape or form now. Sooo maybe it's a bit more rare than I thought before. Perhaps the only reason it works for me is because I am not a walking penis like many other men are. My guy friends all think I'm ridiculous and call me "gay" and things of that nature for basically not acting like a walking, breeding pig.
So I partially retract what I said before. I think it only works if at least one party involved is in good control of their hormones. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 4:53:36 AM | The majority of my friends are guys. There are a few women in my life but as far as the people closest to me....male.
I have only had a few of them try to cross the line between friendship and sex.
Just a few days after my divorce my dearest friend actually asked if I wanted to get down and dirty one night and my reponse to him was something like this " Sure, let's do it. But you do realize that when it is over there will be no more late night talks, just you and I, laughing our heads off about nothing,because we have been intimate. Once you enter my body you will become a part of me and things will change forever...but yea..let's do it!" He told me never mind and that I was very good at doing my own ccock blocking...hehehe. and yes, we are still very close.
OP I know that most of my guy friends would be more than willing to relace my BOB but....they also know that it would change the dynamics of who were are together so, they are smart enough to keep their zippers up around me. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 5:14:28 AM | Can I just throw something else into the mix.
Can a man still have a "platonic" friendship with an ex girlfriend or vica versa?
Because they have had a relationship before and then remain friends afterwards, still hanging out, going to concerts together/cinema/holidays etc, as someone said earlier in this thread, will one of them deep down still feel like it could work out again and hence this is why they stick out being friends, or can 2 exes really stay great friends and ONLY friends....? | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 6:30:30 AM | You could have a Plutonic relationship but only with an alien....I hear Pluto is a great planet to visit but I wouldn't want to live there
As far as platonic relationships go....I think it is entirely possible. I love my dad and my three brothers....wouldn't sleep with any of them...unless I lived in the Ozarks...
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Posted: 5/2/2009 8:34:06 PM | Ok I will admit to not reading all 12 pages of this thread so if someone has already responded with anything remotely close to what I am about to say I apologize. I am one of those women who have had mostly guy friends. The same ones since high school actually. No I am not an attention junkie or keeping them on a string. I have never even had to call them for help because I am not stupid enough to get myself into bad situations. I also rarely even drink and never beer. Ick.
I simply prefer their company because they usually have a better sense of humor. Most women I know get so offended over the slightest little thing or only want to talk about fashion and other useless crap like that. Women are catty and complain way to much about not being the center of attention. Now don't get me wrong. Not all women are like this. I have a couple super good friends that are women but have this same type of personality. They can joke around and not get all uptight about everything.
We are not all the same and perhaps the women who get all bent out of shape by the other women who are friends with all the guys is because they are jealous. They know that these men will never show them the same respect that they show "friends" because they are really just some chick waiting around for the next single guy. Just my 10 cents. :) | |
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Posted: 5/2/2009 9:56:49 PM | | I have a platonic female friend, a platonic ex-girl-friend and a platonic ex-wife. You put away the sexual nature of a man/woman and you put on the brother/sister nature instead. It means not being at the mercy of your sexual desires, but celebrating other kinds of love instead. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 8:19:13 PM | It depends on the relationship though.
I believe men and women CAN be platonic friends, but both parties have to get something out of it.
Women that I consider good friends are actually that...people who care about me and are looking out for my best interests. Most of them I've met over the years at school or work, so there was a non-dating context for me knowing them. They value my opinion, and enjoy my company. They invite me to be part of the big moments of their lives, and vice versa. Most of them are married and/or in relationships, so there are boundary lines that are obvious. It's actually quite easy when there's structure, and many of my women friends are hot.
But for me, it's hard to be friends with an unattached, available woman who's turned you down, though. It really doesn't matter what the reason is. She could be doing me a favor for all I know. I have to ride on.
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Posted: 5/3/2009 9:25:19 PM |
Can a man still have a "platonic" friendship with an ex girlfriend or vica versa?
I am platonic friends with an ex-boyfriend. Our relationship didn't end badly, we just realized that we weren't meant to have a long lasting romantic relationship. I care for him a lot and think he is a great guy, just not the one for me. Several months back me and my kids spent a few days at his house for a hurricane and we shared a bed. Nothing of a sexual nature happened. (although, I have to admit, even though I did not want anything to happen I was a little disconcerted that he didn't even try, lol, yeah I know, completely illogical) | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 10:39:21 PM | Why not. I know alot of guys like that. Some already have girlfriends they don't want to stray from.
I know one, although he's 46 never married, he won't touch a woman sexually, let alone look at a woman in shorts. He won't do anything till he's married. | |
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