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| | u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sexPage 2 of 42 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41) | Then i guess what you're suggesting mighty dog is that I drop all my GIRLFRIENDS!?....NEVER!!!  | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 12:43:39 PM | | The thing is... WIIFM (What's In It For Me). If a woman sees having a guy as a platonic friend beneficial to her, she will go for it. If that guy cannot be of any use to her, or will only get in her way, she will do what she can to get rid of him (usually). Same goes for (most) guys. If they see a possiblity to get some later on by acting nice to a girl, they will do what they can to seem like a really good friend... That is my 1 and 1/2 cents worth. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 12:59:20 PM | I can honestly say that I have many male friends... some of who are my best friends.
Strickly platonic..... YES!
I myself have always gotten along better with men for some reason. (But that's a whole other thread lol)
A few years back when I found myself single again after many years of marriage. My best friend (male), and I decided that we would step our friendship up a few notches. Afterall... We were the best of friends, and that is were a relationship is suppose to start right?
WRONG!!!!!
It was a complete disaster!
The results..... We both lost our best friend. We haven't even spoke to one another in 4 years.
So yes... Women and men can/do have platonic relationships.
and No... Spooning, cuddling, and foreplay are not part of a platonic relationship. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 1:04:56 PM | | I have had female friends all of my life, from the time I was kid till now. Those relationships were platonic and so are the ones I have now. I have 4 or 5 really good friends of the opposite sex and there has never been a problem. Recently though, there was a problem with one of them. We have been friends for 12 years and she wanted more. The problem is I didn't. Long story short our friendship dissolved because of it. If you don't have this type of friend in your life, then I really feel for you...don't know or understand what you are missing. | |
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dasure
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Msg: 30 | |
| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 2:40:25 PM | | Yes you can have a plutonic relationship with the opposite sex. One of my best friends is a woman. I have known her for the better part of 15 years. She is a great girl, but I know that we are not for eachother. I will tell you this, when you meet a true friend then hang onto them. Relationships come and go, but true friends are forever. I'm 36 years old and I have 3 friends that I have known for over 15 years, so yes it can be done. | |
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eowin
| | Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 2:52:51 PM | Oh my god ,
If we could only have friends of one sex or another....that would severely limit the people you'd get to know ,what a waste ,I have lots of friends that are male have since I was old enough to have friends.
Of course its possible,not that ever thought about it ,or had chances too,but sometimes that friendship isnt worth screwing up. | |
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eowin
| | Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 33 | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 3:08:52 PM | Funny spelling errors aside, I knew someone who said, "Men don't have women who are friends. They just have women they haven't slept with......yet!"
Might not be entirely true -- as one person said, what about our brothers, sisters and coworkers. But I do think it's close. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 3:22:23 PM |
"Men don't have women who are friends. They just have women they haven't slept with......yet!"
That's just a stupid (and generally North American) attitude that guys are nothing but horny morons.
I have plenty of girl friends, some with which I am very close and even slept in the same bed when we spent the night a few times. Nothing happened. Some of these girls are very attractive, but this is where the "boner" theory falls. There were things more important than sex in between, so sex didn't happen. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 3:25:09 PM | | Mightydog has some very valid points. I would like to suggest that there is a continuum of platonic relationships however, and the Mightydog has captured the picture of one end of the spectrum, no doubt whatsoever that this happens....but I think it is a continuum, and the benefits of having platonic opposite sex friends can really enrich a persons life as long as it's balanced with same sex friends...otherwise, manipulation and ego can run amok... | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 3:28:43 PM | | I think it possible.. unfortunately I have met a few guys who I have told that i'm not looking for a romantic or physical relationship.. they say they are cool with it then try to get in my pants and are surprised when I tell them to buzz off.. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 4:55:04 PM | I have several guy friends. One of my best friends is a guy. We have been together through many failed relationships (on my part). He is married, we all go out together from time to time, but there are also times when he and i just kick it. The biggest problem with men and women being friends that I have found is the trust issues within the relationship that I have had with my boyfriends. They do not understand, are jealous, and demand that I cut out my guy friends. I just refuse to do it. If they don't trust me, we don't have anything anyways.
Depends on the individuals I think.
Becky Jo
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Posted: 1/21/2006 6:17:10 PM | | This is a question that concearns maturity and trust,His point is I should be enough Man for you.Your point Dont you trust me?I have had issues myself with this in the past.I understand YOUR point of view and Yes you can have friends that are of the opposite sex,I do.Untill he realizes this truth,for himself it will continue to be a problem. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 6:23:58 PM | | I have males friends, totally platonic. i wouldn't trade them for the world. if a guy i was seeing has the nerve to tell me to get rid of them i would dump the guy, not the friend. they have been there through thick and thin. I totally think guys and girls can be JUST friends. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 6:28:32 PM | I've tried to keep female friends. I just end up sleeping with them. However, after you sleep with someone and finally get that out of the way, it's ok to be friends with them if you are both on the same page. But again, I've ended up sleeping with every girl that I've speant any significant amount of time with (other than family of course) and I even call some of those girls my "friends" not friends with benefits.
I think it's important to at least sleep with them so you can get it out of the way. If you don't, then you are always going to be wondering what it would be like and who wants to go through life wondering what things are like, isn't it better to experience it for yourself? | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 7:34:32 PM |
Men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love.
Sorry, but this isn't the case. If a woman has to give a guy sex for him to "love" her, he doesn't love her. Also, not all guys are in relationships for sex. Too bad more of them aren't. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 7:38:28 PM | | Yeah geez what the hell was I saying? And If I'm elected I'll make it illegal to kill puppies and make everyone be nice people too. And I'll buy you all a pony. No a unicorn of love. I heart unicorns. Lalala. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 7:57:21 PM | | ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!! I am with you on this one. 95% of my friends are male.. I was always a tom boy that just happened to grow out of it, but my comfort level with men has always been high. I have a hard time talking to new females, they make me uncomfortable. seems the only females I can hang with have a similar attitude to me and hang mostly with men due to comfort levels. I can be put in a room with 100 men I don't know and I could mingle and tlk to everyone with ease.. put a woman I don't know in that same crowd and I will approach with caution. I ain't gonna say some of them have never tried.. but again so have some of the females I have hung out with, so I don't see where he going with that comment, makes no damn sense to me. Maturity level would have alot to do with it too, if those 2 people can chill together not worrying about the fact that thier body parts can go together...lol | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 8:06:41 PM |
(Msg 52) I think it's important to at least sleep with them so you can get it out of the way.
That's a very good point. There is nothing more......what's the word I'm looking for......peaceful? relaxed? calming? than having slept with someone and still be friends after it's over. I guess it's like being friends with one's ex-girlfriend. If the relationship truly ended by mutual agreement then neither one really wants to have sex with the other. When there are no sexual feelings it's great. It's like a regular friendship. Makes sense, Thegoon.
I've physically slept with ex-girlfriends but never had sex with them. We'd go out for a few drinks and I'd end up staying over and sharing their bed but that was it. It's a nice feeling. Difficult to explain. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 8:08:59 PM |
That is the fun of being Male and Female. Always the undercurrent....Life.
..ya i was just gonna say that...i do have a couple of male friends who are very dear to me and i enjoy our platonic relationship...
however
there is always that 'tension'
(but it's kinda fun that way)
..can't say that i would ever be able to cross the line, even when plastered and desperate (by the way, that like soooo never happens)
pero si!!! es possible....
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