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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 8:15:14 PM |
I think it's important to at least sleep with them so you can get it out of the way. If you don't, then you are always going to be wondering what it would be like and who wants to go through life wondering what things are like, isn't it better to experience it for yourself?
so thegoon this blows the whole idea of being platonic = not sensual or sexual ...
your idea is getting back to the idea of friends with benefits ... whole other label since
we seem to want to label everything lol
Question for you .... did you sleep with your brother or sister to SEE what that was like?
Come on if you HAVE to sleep you were not seeking a platonic friendship to start.
A true platonic friendship is like any friendship .... your either really truely friends or your not!
Actually I love a males friendship and if it should go farther just means the end of platonic and hopefully a great love relationship.
The males I have had as friends for years we already know our likes and dislikes so platonic it is !!! I for one will not sleep with my male friends just to have a fling ( I want the sensual and sexual type you only get with a lover), not a friend with benifits sorry!!!
Platonic can end just like any other friendship!!!
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| u can't have a platonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 9:17:56 PM | giving a cover picture like that, and you talking platonic were's your nurses uniform or is it your habit i'm thinking of. There are plenty of platonic relationships out there but like someone else said I'm hopping to get lucky. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 11:21:11 PM | well Im not to sure but, I know that most women can have a plutanic relationship with the opposite sex.
a) we are usually rulers with our hearts and not our hormones( most)
b) we value the meaning of friendships with both sexes
c) we enjoy neing able to be one of the guys once in awhile ya know.
as for men and most of the guys i have dated or been freinds with, but there have been many that were exceptions.
They all, almost said that guys are not friends with a chick or chicks for the sake of being freinds. At first guys are ruled by attraction, something physical about a women. So initially they think of sexual feelings,and thoughts. Then if some do hook up and notice that
a) this chick or chicks are cool, they can be friends, bc they have already been successful in doing the deed, so they now can be friends.
If and when done, and there is now no connection, most simply move on.
This is what i have heard and seen first hand from men, and do not get me wrong...women are also to blame. We are NOT angels by any means, although we should be treated as such...lol nah
but um all in all...it comes down to individuals. I can have guy friends,a nd enjoy guys as friends, but I can also be attracted to but keep seperate from the friendship...its easy | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 11:29:40 PM | just from that response to whatever... typical guy, who think she rules with his****and is your typical bar star...gettin lucky from ahmmerd chciks who need a **** froma nyone....and thats it you woudl be that anyone ....lol so ****able yet
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/21/2006 11:39:35 PM | In University there was a chick really good in physics. And that was about it! LMAO
All jokes aside, there can be a distinguished relationship between the opposite sex. Whatever anyone else says. Some of the best freinds a person can have are in this catagory. If you try and go through life "as a male" (this goes for females too) trying to constantly score with the closely associtated "opposite sex" then you are forever doomed. I have seen it happen. Nothing is so sad when a player realizes not anybody he knows wants too play the game anymore. People grow older and become more mature and at that time if you cannot have a plutonic relationship with the opposite sex, you are missing out on alot of info that the wonderous women of the world may provide your stupid ignorant ass!  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 11:54:05 PM | kay, come on now...portraying such images on your profile...as much as you demand *plutonic friendship*...i think that's impossible...heheheheee.
anywho, i THINK for girls, it's possible, but not as much as guys. like sure, they'd only see them as friends, but deep inside, if they have a chance to fcuk the friend, they would. *i know*....hahahahahahha. or, well, atleast with my 2 really good guy friends...=D...they get honest enough [well, one by accident] to let me know that if he could, he'd mess around with me...but just remain friends | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 11:54:42 PM | I totally agree with what you posted earler fish.
It beckons to me that women love the idea of plutonic relationships, when it meets their agenda and seems to fit the criteria. It is also unbeleivably true (and I am typing as lighly as I dare), that women as men recruit guys to essentially be an impromptu entourage. How many times have women dismissed the plutonically friendly opposite sex as "him, he's just a friend, giggle, giggle, giggle. This does not mean all the girls but I've seen it happen | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 12:17:06 AM | | Riggen....that was a pretty good point.I use to be a bouncer and my job was to protect people.I'd sometimes be at a bar with 3 or 4 women at the same time and the ladies would put their arms around me just to feel safe and when guys would hit on them THE guys would point their finger at me and say to the ladies...'Is that your boyfriend?'...and they'd giggle and say'Nah...he's just a friend!*giggle,giggle* | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 12:44:05 AM | your friend is, no offence, full of the smelly stuff
of course you can. but it comes downt to maturity levels I have a 8 year friendship with a male friend and we just arent interested in each other that way. We still hook up and hang out, we have friends in common, but we just have the same sick sense of humour and both like camping. I have another shorter span friendship with another male, and same stuff...things in common but no "spark" We have both said it to each other a while back. Yet we still like to hang out.
but note, I do not ever sleep in the same bed or even cuddle with them. There is very limited body contact. I mean I dont snuggle with my females friends so Im not about to with my platonic male friends...if that were happenign then there may be a chance that someone is waiting to get lucky could be true, but really if you want to be friends then 'friends rules' should apply
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Posted: 1/22/2006 12:46:50 AM | I used to be a bartender on campus
All I know is that the plutonic thing works - Ive seen it!!
The underlying fact is that it had to be TOTALLY plutonic. If you are a guy or a girl in the end you shouldn't have to ask yourself if the relationship is plutonic at all. Spark or no Spark should be enough to deduce that reasoning. For God's sakes it is not that complicated and women should be able to pick up on this more than men. It all depends on the FRIEND.
Cheers John - I've seen it at the door and it cracks me up | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 2:11:14 AM | Ok. There have been some corrections, but do allow me to amplify so that you may get a B next time around!
Pluto was the god of the dead and ruler of the underworld to the Romans. So it would appear that you can have a plutonic relationship with the opposite sex, although the term or the word do not appear in any dictionary.
Plato was an ancient Greek philosopher and the word platonic refers to him. The answer to the question I am not sure about.
Now, if you wish to get an A, please know that pluto (small p) is a prefix meaning rich- wealthy, hence plutocracy and plutocrat. In that context indeed there are millions of relationships that could be described as such.
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Posted: 1/22/2006 6:17:05 AM | Very, VERY hard to just be friends. It can be done, but most of the time... The sex issue comes up... In fact, from a guys perspective, it's easier to be friends AFTER the sex issue is resolved. I was friends with this girl for a few years. We worked together, got along well together, and even though I was not particularly attracted to her, there was always that curiosity... One night, out of the blue, we were hanging out as we had done before, and it just happened. It wasn't bad, it wasn't great, it was just sex. There was a bit of an awkward phase for the next few weeks, then we talked about it, and then we put it behind us. Our friendship is so much better now, that tension is gone, the curiosity is gone, we can hang out alone and have a great time and sex doesn't even enter the picture. But if we hadn't eventually done it, I think that question would always be there. I WILL say that there is that question of "would we do it again?", but it's not nearly as strong as the curiosity was before anything happend.
I've had other female friends in life as well, but the sex question and curiosity was always there, and usually was mentioned at some point. Sex is just a fact of life! | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 11:47:18 AM | Yes.....but does that mean that one of you doesnt wish for something more??? MOST of the time (I have learned to say most because all is too inclusive) no. I have had many female friends and the friendships were quite good. But I have NEVER had a friendship with a female I was not physically attracted to. Now, I tried to deny this for years because I wanted to deny that there was any basic instinct to it at all. The fact is that there was and if I had an offer and was not attatched (oh and when the offers DID come, it was alway when I was attatched, isnt that strange??), I would have taken it. Now thats just my honest answer, not the answer the whole world needs to go by. The funny thing is though, that I never cheated. But I cannot see how someone would think there was never any attraction. These were attractive girls.
By in large(I use that like I use the word most), you have to ask yourself one question. If I gave him the chance, would he take it?? And if that doesnt work, then ask yourself, if he is not interested, why is he wasting time with me when he could be searching for someone he DOES have a shot at??
I dont speak for everyone. But I would like to bring anyone who is delusional back to reality a little bit. Being attracted to those girls didnt mean I was after them, but I didnt start hanging with them just because they were good conversationalists either. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 12:03:01 PM | | I agree completely with crystalize on this one. See, there is such a thing as a person who seems to have too much physical contact with someone of the opposite sex, and I think she hit it on the head. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 2:18:17 PM | | This is a silly question. Being platonic simply means not engaging in the friendship to anything physical. Someone in the friendship might be attracted physically to the other but it doesn't mean they will ever act upon it. The value of friendship may be a whole lot more important than trashing it with an intimate encounter. I recall a close friend who I knew was attracted to me. I was attracted to her physically but the attraction for a long term relationship was not there and thus I would never wanted to do anything knowing it would lead to her being emotionally hurt. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/22/2006 4:14:02 PM | I thought maybe it was a radioactive friendship?
Incidentally, in answer to the OP? Hell yes you can! Three of 'em got me to this site (and I used to date one of them...) The trick is to just be friends, and to never be afraid of dealing openly with whatever feelings you get towards them.
(...and no, I'm not gay, I'm not a feminist, and I'm not a Lifetime-channel watcher  )
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Posted: 1/22/2006 6:25:23 PM | Actually, I have two very good male friends -- but they're gay. No matter how platonic you might think the relationship, open the door, just a little, and see what happens!!!
How large is a plutonic penis - or is plutonic a unit of measurement?
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