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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/29/2006 6:32:53 PM | Since I don't consider myself ugly, I wonder how my 3 closest friends (all males) managed to maintain a sincere friendship with me over the years ...
Strange & stereotypical logic. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/29/2006 7:05:30 PM |
(Msg 134) Since I don't consider myself ugly, I wonder how my 3 closest friends (all males) managed to maintain a sincere friendship with me over the years ...
Did you notice they walked a bit stiff-legged when they left?  | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 1/29/2006 11:31:35 PM | | for sure, i've got as many guy friends as i do girl friends and i love them both equally. it depends though if one of you has "extra" feelings for the other then it may not be possible but for the most part for me it seems to work. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/2/2006 11:09:05 AM | | you sure can... I have male friends who I treasure but strictly platonic.. I tease and they they tease back but the teasing is innocent and very considerate . These men are part of my group of weight loss encouragers. I don't think of them as love interests. They have their own life and are just there for me as a support unit. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/2/2006 12:38:06 PM | Absolutely you can !!
I have a few friends (female) that are very important in my life, provide a very unbiased level of support and opinion... including how well a potential girlfriend matches me.
I trust in them and I think they trust in me. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2006 5:13:21 PM | | You can have great friendships with the opposite sex. I have have several men who were and are some of the best friends I have ever had. When sex is not a part of the equation you can really develop a special friendship and they have taught me a few things about men I don't think I would have known otherwise. But........they don't always have insight into the way men think and I think they feel the same way about us! | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2006 5:27:37 PM | | its easy to have platonic friendships with ppl of the opposite sex.. as long as you dont find them attractive that is... then its easy just to be friends.. kidding for the most part. when i was younger and thought every chance for sex had to be taken, no but now that i'm older and more picky, i can be friends with members of the opposite sex without a problem. the problem is if ure both attracted to each other and the chemistry is there, most times one thing will lead to another.. if i'm in a relationship, i just don't put myself in those situations out of respect to the woman i'm with. | |
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atg
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Joined: 2/4/2006
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 2/6/2006 10:09:03 PM | depends on the person i can
i mean sure the guys are at one point going to try and hook up with ya and i always just laugh and smile when one of my guy friends tries that :)
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:02:15 AM |
Since I don't consider myself ugly, I wonder how my 3 closest friends (all males) managed to maintain a sincere friendship with me over the years ...
corse yer not ugly
but having many chicks be yer friend serves to stroke the male ego.
its one motive/characteristic at least, that I know of. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:03:38 AM |
I too have a special relationship with plutonium and the females of our species. I find generally its presence hinders my "abilities" when it comes to impressing the ladies. Often its radioactive glow makes me feel nauseous and ill.
i had to leave Pluto, because i was gaining too many Plutian women friends that didnt give out. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:15:23 AM | | I grew up with several friends of the opposite and never had a moment of intimacy with any of them other the intimacy of our friendships and open communication. You can have real and lasting plutonic friendships with the opposite sex. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:31:47 AM | I have had nothing but for years. I started off in a home with nothing but women around me. I used to zip up my mothers dress almost every morning before she went to work. I went shopping with her. Looked at her stuff she tried on and was involved in a lot of facets of her life. Her tenderness and warmth, the greatists posessions of any woman, were given to me to a degree that being around other men, at that time, became unsafe. When you seemed soft a lot of guys will molest you just for being different and independent of their agenda. So you are branded gay and beaten, molested, used for target practice etc you know the stereotype, those of you who can think you way out of wet tissue paper.
But I was blessed I guess. I didn't turn out gay and I seem to be like a nesting place for women. There are strong women in every facet of my life. I am great friends with the wife of many senior Washington DC officials, congressmen and so on. But then I know Joes old lady down the street too. Men who are married see that I am no threat even. I know so many couples. A girlfriend of mine just got divorced. It wasn't messy, they are still friends. This world is too segregated. It's always again the "Us" against "Them" syndrome. And the last thing I wanted to do was be around a lot of guys who only talk about fighting, f**king, football and drinking. I mean even on the forums, all future tombstones want to do is just get on line and bravado, posture their chest out like peacocks so anyone looking for a target can take them down. That is why I find being around a majority of my female friends so much more enriching. I learned to sew, to take in my own pants, take in my shirts, bake incredibly great cakes and more. I learned how to shop and pick out clothes. All from women and never really had a male influence till many years later. Where ever I go I know tons of women. When I was in college all the guys thought I was a Mack Daddy cause women were always around me. Sitting on my lap, hugging me and then they would see these same girls meet up with their boyfriends and these clowns didn't have a clue as to what was going on. Because for them, the world was black and white. Women are for screwing or you sneek around and pretend to be their friends until the opportunity presents itself. But for me, people were people. I didn't have a tremendous male influence till much later on, so I didn't speak A s s h o l e, yet. Thing is...
I still don't understand it. Women will have great male friends. Well, SOME women, I always have to make that distinction. Cause it is by no means all, ever. But, SOME women will have great male friends. And will tell me they love him, but they don't want to get intimate because they are afraid they will ruin the relationship. I never could understand this beyond, are you predisposed to destroy every relationship you get in to then? I mean I always thougt a lover should be my best friend. But always only mostly having women as friends, I didn't have a full perspective on this. I mean when women who I thought were my friends made a pass at me back then, I was too naieve to notice. And it happened a lot. I spent my graduation Summer from High School hanging at the Women's Dorm of Catholic University with about 40 girls in a drama class with one other guy who's girlfriend was in the program. I used to sit in rooms full of girls dressed all kind of ways. It was almost like being one of the girls. It is way too cool to have platonic relationship with women for me. You learn so much more and you get such a well rounded life. On this planet. All kinds of segreegation exsists as a psychosis of people winking at each other in deceit of their fellow humans in a fools Russian Roulette to be better, get better, get more, get all and get anesthetized. This is in our homes families and communities. My room, my cup, my this my that. It's always "Us" against "Them" and the looks out the side of the eyes with the comments to make others laugh at the misfortunate "them". This, ultimately will be our undoing as a race. Men should never be against women and vice versa, but if Adam, Eve, Cain and Able were the only four people alive on earth, according to Judaic History, and Cain killed Able, what does that say about us? We will always find something to fight about. A scholar once said, if the whole human race woke up in the morning the same color, by noon, they would have found over 200 things to hate each other about. | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:42:30 AM | I was having a conversation with a guy I know from the US (Carolina) mentioned a friend was coming over he asked the sex and i said it was a guy he said that doesn't happen where he lives.
Well you not picking the mostly culturally advanced place on the planet there for a start .... I've got loads of friends that are girls and its platonic, try talking to men not boys who think with their tackle ? | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:44:04 AM | There was this girl that i really liked. I met her back in May 2001. Very pretty and extremely nice....
I had a crush on her, and she came to work with me. As soon as she mentioned the word "boyfriend" I completely lost interest. Since she was now my co-worker, I sort of resigned myself to being her friend only.
We became best friends, and still are....So yes, you can have a platonic friendship with a woman as long as it is clear that you are only friends.
However, there is this other girl that I know for about 2 years and a month. I only like her as a woman, and she seems to like it when I touch her hair, cuddle with her, and one time she stared into my eyes very deeply, as if telling me something...i dont know...
This last girl I like as a woman, big difference....If she is not into me, I do not want to be her friend and hang out with her. She will be around all these guys, and it is just awkward. Did it once and I know by experience that it is just too emotionally draining....
So I guess you can have as many female friends as you want as long as there is no desire to become romantically involved with them.
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