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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:43:58 PM | I have a best friend..I am a women, he is a man...we walk, we talk, sometimes we cry,(but dont tell him i told you...lol) we have tickle fights...we point out hotties for each other on the street... most people in town think we r an item, and they dont get it when we corect them
I love him more than anything (my kids exmpt) but i am not "IN love" with him My mom has always said "really, in a truley great relationship...what more do u need?"
and you know what, she right, after 3 divorces, shes got it down!... this dosnt mean im going to jump out there and marry the guy (yuck... cooties!) but i dose mean i know he will be there when all the "other" guys are not... so u know what, if your lucky enough to have a best friend..who care what cryomizon is beside the X...just enjoy each other company and have fun... | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/16/2006 4:12:06 PM | | Yes I do belive that you can have plutonic friendships with ppl of the opposite sex. We work with ppl every day that fit that category, nieghbors, etc. Thats what makes us different than just animals, we can control who we think we may want to have sex with (well most of us) and value ppl as just friends. I think sex is used to much in getting ahead at work, in a marriage, or anything else. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/16/2006 5:35:13 PM | wasnt always the case for me but with situations, experiences and putting all intentions onthe table from the getgo im glad i have my platonic friends.... they're the ones who i know will be there in the long run thru thick and thin..
kinda feel sorry for those of u dont have it..ignorance is bliss.. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/16/2006 5:45:44 PM | Maybe it's possible, but I would say it was only possible for singles.
Once you have a significant other of the the opposite sex, he is not going to like you going out with other guys. He will say,"You need friends, fine. Get a GIRL friend."
I'm sure the same is true if the gender roles are reversed. You think a wife would let her husband go out with other women, no matter how platonic it supposedly was? | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/16/2006 7:56:46 PM | | My last relationship ended because of this. The other guy was steadily touching her and flirting and I didn't do anything until the next night when I mentioned how I'd appreciate if she didn't return the motions. She told me to "relax" and that they're "just joking around". Any time I hear that, it makes my blood boil. A male is meant to be with a female to share their lives in a meaningful way, and to see the phrase "plutonic friendship" is used for a cover up in hopes of persuing a more physical relationship. I'm very skeptical of this subject and believe it IS possible, but rare. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/16/2006 8:23:06 PM | Vicarious, I'm 49 years old, and I have seen this before in my life. It was always bad news. Every time.
She was disrespecting you something awful.
If she really loved you, would she have done things that she KNEW were hurtful to you? Of course not!
You had to save your self-resepect, at least.
There will be some days in this life when it will be all you have, my young friend.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 10:45:20 AM | Most of my friends are male and it's been that way my whole life..
And I don't have sex with them..
I have never had that many female friends..
I prefer male, we get along better..
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 10:47:37 AM | oops I forgot !!
I spent the night with my friend Friday night
and slept next too him in my panties and t-shirt
and he slept naked..
And nothing happened!! Oh I almost forgot..
He is also Impotent!! ok enough said | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 11:26:28 AM | | You can have platonic relationships with the opposite sex, it is called friendship. I have male friends, never has there been a thought of it going further than what it is , friendship. We have hung out, went to dinner together, even went shopping together. lol I have had friends since high school that fit into this category, can honestly say nothing has even been hinted at as far as going further than friendship. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 11:38:18 AM | SHORE! Best 8 month old post EVER! Whoever thought Pluto would be the loneliest number now.
I've sometimes found it a bit difficult being friends with a woman on either side of a one way sexual attraction, but as much man or woman any of us may be we all have the capacity for maturity, restraint, respect, etc. Some of us are more of an anachronysm than others, evolution is a tricky judgement with any gene pool my friends.
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 11:39:23 AM | I have so many friendships with people of either gender that I never question it, there are times when a person puts you into a soul searching situation and you wonder whether there have been misunderstandings, often though the person themselves has given you mixed messages and are confused. In my experiences we each choose to perceive what we want to self esteem can often play a part in whether you are comfortable with the opposite gender in any given situation or whether you are marching them up the aisle every time they smile at you...
I think that if you are not able to pursue healthy (with ethical boundaries) relationships and friendships with men and women without there being ulterior motive or with the sole intention of only treating them as a potential lover, you miss out on so much that can be rewarding and exciting. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 11:50:12 AM | | I think it's very difficult, but not impossible, to have a true platonic friendship. I think I've had maybe 3 in my adult life, and even those had a blush of sexual tension underneath. The commonality is that we share something we're truly passionate about, and that common interest binds the friendship. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 9/17/2006 12:09:13 PM | it's possible...I have "some" friends whom I haven't and wouldn't consider having sex with, but most I would...but will I??? Likely not...
I can be friends with oppsoite sex no problem... | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 2:50:19 AM | Yes you can, they are just GAY. lol, Well I am not to sure, I do have guy friends, but I think they would still sleep with me. hmmm... No not all of them. Ya your right, thoes ones are every short lived friendships. Someone ALWAYS wants to get it on with the other person. Right? No I have guy friends for years, hey why dont they want to sleep with me? Some have not even tried! Holly Shit!!! I dont know???!!!??? | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 4:55:40 AM | | Most certainly you can have plutonic friendships with the opposite sex. One of my best friends is a man whom I've known for more than half my life and neither of us wanted anything more than friendship from each other over the years. Growing up with my brother and his friends, I'm used to being one of the "guys". Besides, I make a great wingman when we go out together. It never fails that he always meets more women when we go out together than he does when he goes out with one of his male friends. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2006 6:11:47 AM | of course you can have a platonic relationship with a person of the opposite sex... and yes, I agree, no physical proximity except maybe a hug, like a brother. My best male friend is one I met on POF! I popped him and he said "you are not my type" he likes them short, petite and quiet... three things I am not! But trust me, he has been the best thing to happen to me in years.. we chat, we argue, we laugh til we cry and we help each other through good and bad times. He has a girlfriend now (yes, she is short, petite and quiet, but it infuriates him that she is not sexually aggressive ??hello??) and I think I have found someone on here too, but we still talk and hang out, we just respect the boundaries and never cross them.
So if you want to have that kind of relationship you can.. if you want more, you will always find a way to sabotage it. I am very grateful for him, and he me....
Just my opinion! | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:19:59 AM | | I have 2 best friends of the opposite sex.I am 51 and meant Larry at 16 we talk every day or 2 .Corey I meant when in middle school and just talked to him Tues and we laughed over times we had together in the past.Not sexual in either case.Corey and larry live In Ny myself in Ohio I go home a couple times a year and see my best friend. I have a friend that is female have known since 6 yrs old so not just male friends.I would not trade these friends for anything in this world!!!! sometimes I think I know me better then I know myself. | |
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| u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:33:12 AM | I personally don't think unstable compounds like plutonium, and sex, opposite or otherwise, are a good, safe combination to begin with. So is like a "plutonium friend" a term like a "nuclear family"? Or does it simply mean the relationship has a special glow? 
Have fun ;)! | |
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