| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/21/2006 9:04:22 PM | | Kinky is subjective...I think I am very openminded and as for my kinks...Just ask?! All I can say is NO, but maybe I will consider....... | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/21/2006 9:20:10 PM | Interesting subject.
Dominance and submission is partially physical, but it is in a larger part an emotional state of being. There are needs and desires beyond the physical.
As long as the credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consentual" is in the relationship, then I see nothing wrong with what someone decides is their preferences as to what they do physically. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/14/2006 2:27:20 PM | If you live in the Toronto area, and are interesting in meeting Kinky people in a safe environment consider the following:
Aurora Borealis is a dinner munch held in a medium-priced, licensed family
restaurant with a range of entrees from sandwiches to steak dinners. Prices
range from $9.00 to $25.00. The venue is very accommodating to our group
and we ask that when you attend you plan to buy dinner thus ensuring that we
are welcomed back on a regular basis.
As our monthly gatherings are held in a family restaurant, we ask that you
dress in no obvious fetish wear. Kindly leave your toys at home. Vendors
please bring along your business cards but there is no opportunity to display your wares.
We welcome everyone regardless of gender, orientation and experience or
lifestyle choice.
If you’re shy, new to the scene or reluctant to join large groups,
Aurora Borealis is the munch for you! We’re a small, intimate group of fun
and friendly like-minded people who like to get to know others in our
community. You’ll find a variety of opinions and knowledge with no pressure to
be anything other than yourself.
Reservations are also required Drop-ins are discouraged.
The next meeting/dinner is on March 24. If you're interested, drop me an email, and I'll give you the email of the Aurora Borealis coordinators.
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/14/2006 2:30:45 PM |
Dominance and submission is partially physical, but it is in a larger part an emotional state of being. There are needs and desires beyond the physical.
As long as the credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consentual" is in the relationship, then I see nothing wrong with what someone decides is their preferences as to what they do physically.
well, that's a pretty nerdy, scientific way to put it, but basically, your right...
most of the erotic pleasure a of dom/sub relationship comes from the power and trust issues involved, more so then the actual sex act being performed....or forcibly performed  ..and that's what safety words are for | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:29:24 PM |
if a guy likes kinky sex is he a freak or just very open minded ????
I'd call him a sexy thing and would be calling him for a date in short order! | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/26/2006 1:18:15 PM | Doesn't everyone fantasies about kinky sex of any kind at one time or another in their lives
whether its watching or partisapating in the act ,,,,,, | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/29/2006 7:46:38 PM | | nothing wrong with kinky sex , keeps the fire going i belive as long as it is something both enjoy and if it dosent get out of control | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 9/7/2006 12:26:24 AM | mainstream society still views BDSM or kink negatively, mostly because it is not understood. people fear what they do not know...some have a narrow viewpoint and believe that it is all whips and chains...while yes that can be involved, depending on your interests, it goes so much further than that. this sort of play is not just the physical, but can take you to such a pyschological level of almost "euphoria"....imagine how you feel while you are having an orgasm....it is like that mentally....sometimes referred to as a "mental orgasm" which can last hours....can also be known as "subspace" or "Dommespace"....
But as to your question, "is it a bad thing".....guess one would have to try it to judge for themselves, how else can you give an objective response? | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 11:50:09 AM | Your version of kinky might be my everyday activity.
It's all in the perspective isnt it?
Smoochie, nice collar.
Now be a good little sexy **** and crawl over here for me, you know you want to......
See?
It may turn some people on to be spoken to like that and others may think its sick.
To each his/her own.
The main thing is to have fun and make sure everyone knows what the rules are and what is expected of them.
Now, go and fornicate!
Or not if thats your preference. LOL | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 12:30:30 PM |
if a guy likes kinky sex is he a freak or just very open minded ????
yes, I am! Also a pervert. I am also a very good man who has a kinky aspect to my personality.
Is BDSM a bad thing? Not for me. Since I have become involved in BDSM my life has gotten much much better. i have grown in many ways. And i keep on learning and growing.
It is not just kinky sex. BDSM can be very intense, and it brings stuff up. Emotional stuff. Stuff that has to be dealt with. It can be a great vehicle for personal growth. That is one of the things that turns me on most about BDSM. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 12:37:45 PM | | kink is relative. If I fantasize about being restrained or restraining a partner, is that bad? If I like a little spaning now and again, is that kink or just good sex? As long as it's among consenting adults, and nobody is permenantly damaged (mentally or physically) then just enjoy what you and your partner like. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:13:51 PM |
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing ?
Nope, it's the secret to keeping a good healthy relationship IMO. Face it, sex the same way gets BORING... Spice it up and kick it up a notch and be willing to try new things and you have a person's attention in bed. Just try not to try everything out in the first year!
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:54:25 PM | | It is a bad thing for a guy, but great if the women is into it. They always seem to like the "bad boys" any way. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:00:47 PM | | How could you find sex any more enjoyable?? I think most people stay alive just to keep doing it. Maybe some is better then others but IT IS ALL GOOD!!! | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:50:27 PM | ^^^^ but what about former presidents? Are they okay?
It's not a bad thing at all. It definitely adds spice to life and increases trust and communication between people as they explore their deepest and most hidden and socially taboo fantasies with eachother safely, sanely and consentingly. I think it can definitely bond a couple more (no pun intended!) than plain old run of the mill vanilla sex if both enjoy it. Many couples who engage in kinkier sex have much closer bonds and enjoy better communication than couples that don't. Enjoy and play safe. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:54:58 PM | Everyone has a different idea of what "kink" is. To each their own.
To quote ladysailingbuff:
"It's not a bad thing at all. It definitely adds spice to life and increases trust and communication between people as they explore their deepest and most hidden and socially taboo fantasies with eachother safely, sanely and consentingly. I think it can definitely bond a couple more (no pun intended!) than plain old run of the mill vanilla sex if both enjoy it. Many couples who engage in kinkier sex have much closer bonds and enjoy better communication than couples that don't. Enjoy and play safe."
I absolutely agree. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 11:24:02 PM | What kind of kinky sex.?
Kinky sex is technically any position other than missionary
Any place but the maritial bed
Any situation but a married couple.
First time sex betweeen unmarried teens is kinky sex
Sex in the bath is kinky sex.
Hell, a girl, having sex, with a guy shorter then she is is still kinky sex.
Like I said. What kind of kinky sex. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 11:26:03 PM | RE: First post.
Someone's gunna have to define "ds" and "bdsm" to me before I can properly address this issue. Hahahaha. Please dont asume I know perverse acronyms... I dont find it insulting, just inconsiderate. ^_^ | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2008 11:37:31 PM | yes, it IS bad........very VERY bad.........now bend over & grab those ankles so I can discipline you!!!!
you will submit... | |
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