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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:31:56 AM | crayonzz
Like I said. What kind of kinky sex.
The subject line covers some of the definitions that the OP had in mind... No need to ask redundant questions...
Now, where the hell did I put that Ball-Gag? MZ Taken will now discipline you all...
*** Ducks outta the room to safety ***
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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:51:29 AM |
Someone's gunna have to define "ds" and "bdsm" to me before I can properly address this issue.
It is before my first pot of coffee somehow this morning, so are you serious? In case you are and we are nearly a page beyond or for anyone elses benifit who may not be "in the know"...
ds is Dominance and submission
bdsm is bondage, discipline, dominance and submission,sadism and masochism | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:59:02 AM | To respond to the OP, I think it is fantastic and he is simply opened minded (and possibly a little freaky too, but that isn't a bad thing!) as long as he isn't hiding it. There is nothing more sad to me than these people who have been married for years and still have not opened up to their partners about their desires and fantasies. No matter what your kink or lack of kink, there will always be someone out there to judge you for it. They need to be ignored...you shouldn't have to live unfullfilled or miserable just because of what someone else thinks! Finding a like minded partner might be more difficult depending on the kink (or lack of) but there is someone for everyone.
As someone else said, as long as it is all safe, sane, and consentual have at it and enjoy!  | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 8:44:14 AM |
Actually D&S in this context refers to a lifestyle and BDSM is something that is done in the bedroom. The two sometimes get put together because D&S couples usually are into bondage.
I have to say that I think that is the meaning that you put on them...is a bedroom submissive any less of a submissive? How about a bedroom dominant? It isn't just a lifestyle just as BDSM isn't only something "done in the bedroom."
BDSM is a HUGE umbrella that encompases many other things and to pick and choose to give a definition is IMO wrong and leaves those without a working knowledge with only half of the story. Can someone not be bound outside of the bedroom? What about those in chastity or those who where their collars 24/7 to show that they are mentally in bondage at all times. I am assuming that you are including discpline in your definition of "something that is done in the bedroom" which is completely misleading as their are slaves and submissives who are in TPE (total power exchange) relationships and their every vanilla or naughty bedroom action is based on their Dominant's wants and desires...
Anyway, when I gave the definition, I was going for the complete definition... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 9:55:31 AM | See...I knew there was a bunch of you freaks hiding here!!!!!
One definition of kink is....
For some, having sex with the lights on is kinky.
For others, it is having sex with the light bulb. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 9:57:21 AM | Kinky is using a feather...perverted is using the whole chicken.
When a guy smacks a random girl on the ass, she'll either go "EEP!" or go "MMMMMM". Kinky guys want the girls that go "MMMMMMM" or "Eep!" AND "MMMMMMM" 
If someone has a mini-flogger on their keychain...they're kinky.
Then there's the whole fetish thing...pony-girls, leather & lace, velvet, rubber, tie-ups, tie-downs, etc....where people focus specifically on one or two specific kinky things and look for the "Ultimate" experience.
And...omigawd...violet wands & TENS units..."mmmmmmmmmmmmm!"
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Posted: 1/19/2008 11:25:53 AM |
If someone has a mini-flogger on their keychain...they're kinky I must have one, where can I get them? 
On the other hand, you should see Domin818's gloves... *sigh* | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 11:48:12 AM | | Oh well in that case Im not into it. Well... not... so publically anyways. I have some odd... habits. But they arent a mainstream fad that has a name. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 12:14:28 PM | ^^^ I only hope your preference doesn't involve lightbulbs and chickens. That would be odd indeed! Your preference, but I'd feel quite safe declaring it odd, and just a little scary because then I'd have questions as to the dead-ness and done-ness of the chicken and how you deal with sanitation there and what the story on the lightbulb is... etc.
I think many people are curious about it, some have experienced it and discarded it, some more have experienced it and loved it, and finally some are so tight that they only think vanilla thoughts and think that the only position out there is missionary and omg I'd want to kill that last type of person, in the sweetest most loving way, of course. They just need to live a little.
Bring. It. On. :) Just be smart about it. I think the worst experience someone can have is with a person who has failed to see to their safety and ensure constant communication of consent and comfort in both the emotional and physical realm. There are workshops in nearly every city in America on this and if a couple is seriously interested in kink, there are ways to ensure that the activity they want to engage in is safe for both parties. The issue of restraint is a huge one... How does the dominant partner ensure blood flow to all extremities? If something happens to the dominant partner, how will the one who is restrained remove themselves from the restraints to attend to them? (Fast, independent and available release is a sticking point for me, actually, as I believe that there should be a struggle-proof, but available method for the restrained to free themselves without the assistance of the dom if necessary) How is communication and stop-sign achieved if one is gagged? What IS the safe word and stop-sign? What are the partners' limits? All that will be discussed in workshops and I would encourage anyone who is interested in it to go take them. It'll open up communication between you as a couple and help you explore your kink in a way that's safe for both without inadvertently getting yourself into an emergency room kind of situation. ;) | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 12:27:40 PM | don't feel bad. We all have to learn sometime.
BDSM -- bondage, domination, sadism, masochism.
B&D doesn't necessary have anything to do with S&M but yet can be so intertwined.
Bondage and domination is more on the lines of being tied up (so many ways), allowing someone else to have control over your desires and wants and how they can be applied.
Sadism and masochism is usually pain based. There are those who love pain in the sexual area. The more the better. The sadist is one who inflicts the pain and enjoys giving it. The masochist is the receiver of the sadist's infliction. They love receiving the pain. Can't quite get into the psychology of it but some people just love it.
Mind you, this is just a very very basic explanation of what it is. There so many different variations, thoughts and applications that can boggle one's mind. To each his own. Have fun exploring.... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 12:30:38 PM | | being kinky isnt a bad thing!yes,its openminded!some people arent as open to sexuality as others-to each their own i say! | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 1:34:36 PM |
If someone has a mini-flogger on their keychain...they're kinky
I must have one, where can I get them?
On the other hand, you should see Domin818's gloves... *sigh*
TY Momin...They are still here available for you :)
I also once found online, mini flogger ear rings...but they were kinda big and gaudy ! | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 1:42:41 PM | | nope not a bad thing but hey..if u cant handle it send em my way, ill send back a nice trained sub for you to play with | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 3:36:47 AM |
If someone has a mini-flogger on their keychain...they're kinky
I must have one, where can I get them?
Spencer's
there once was a redheaded starlet named Misti Munday...any relation?? Why are all the fun redheads 1000 miles away ??  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 5:22:56 AM | Mominatrix!
If someone has a mini-flogger on their keychain...they're kinky
I must have one, where can I get them?
You took the words right out of my mouth! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 7:51:27 AM | IMHO it is best to have an open mind and a desire to explore sexually - to enable the relationship to have some spark - some thrill and to hold boredom at bay! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 7:55:37 AM | | Well with me its a great thing because I have not met a man or woman that is as kinky as I am. I love bondage, being used and abused in many ways. Back door action really gets me going with the right person(man or woman). | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:07:09 PM | | Nothing wrong with experimenting, it keeps your sex life alive. Anything that is consenting between two (or more) people is never a bad thing...we only live once. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:26:19 PM | lolnothnx......
he is a freak and likes to hurt people
First off..who were you referring to?
Second....is that a bad thing or a good thing, or a neutral thing? | |
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