| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/25/2008 10:39:17 AM | It's never a bad thing if both parties are willing participants. In fact it can be quite fun and don't forget there are a wide variety of "activities" in this field of play that can be from mild to wild. It's not always about agony, screams and huge red welts. Sometimes it's just about making certain parts more sensitive to the touch.
As a manufacturer of certain implements I sometimes work local shows with a friend where I demonstrate products and teach giggling vanilla couples how to beat each other. (Hey it's a tough job but someone has to do it.) They are very willing and excited to expand their activities and have a lot more fun behind closed doors.
I see now there is a reminder that I need to make some keychain floggers. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:21:59 AM | You can't be a freak AND be open minded?
I think providing the aforementioned activites are done with a certain thoughtfulness, and a hint of intelligence, bdsm et al, are a wonderful thing.
On the downside, I suspect a lot of very bad people find themselves drawn to those activities for many of the wrong reasons.
So, there ya go.....deep stuff, huh? | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:25:34 AM | you are open minded..its all about exploration and no you are not a freak...in fact i wish more men were like you | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:50:13 AM | | depends on what you think is kinky or consider open minded. I draw the lines at certain things, but that is me. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/26/2008 2:41:55 AM | | haha oh my ... well .. kinky is good just dont go over board... i mean sure some men like it rough hot wax whips chains cuffs ball gags floggers paddles etc.. and so do some women.. i mean i guess its all about how you feel when ur with the person.. especially if your both new at it .. it can be quite fun to try ^_^ so yep.... men who like kinky is goo in my books too <3 | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/27/2008 1:05:16 AM | As Guy Baldwin has so wisely stated: Think of sexual experience as being a huge buffet! On this buffet is every kind of sexual practice there is. Like any buffet we all have our likes and dislikes. Some days you want more of one thing and other you may want to try something new.
In the world of bdsm the main thing is that you have the consent of your partner. If your good at what you do you have taken the time to learn the safest 'technique' for what you are trying and are willing to put you ego on the back burner and learn from people with greater experience.
A lot of what we do is not safe. That's why the old saw: Safe Sane and Consentual is kind of out dated. Most people speak of RACK these days. It refers to: Risk Aware Consentual Kink. If you don't now what your doing DON'T do it. If you are unsure of whether your partner knows what they are doing DON'T do it.
Being a participant in BDSM is not a passive thing. Not even for those that profess to be slaves or submissives. We all have an obligation to take reponsibility for our own actions and to listen to that little voice inside that monitors our behaviour.
Please remember that consent is a wonderful gift. It is also not something given lighly. It is something that can be withdrawn ANY TIME YOU CHOSE. If someone tries to tell you differently they aren't safe to play with.
In most cities you will find education oriented groups where you can meet kinksters and find out if it's something you're interested in. And please, don't judge your 'level' or 'degree' of kinkiness agains anyone elses. It's sex and we all have our own likes, dislikes and limits!
Play safe! | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:20:47 PM | | if he does what he likes and the person he does it with is cool with it as well, well i guess its ok. he might think your ideas about sex are freakish. everyone has there own tastes and as long as they match up with who they are with its all good. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:27:06 PM | Dangit, Eclaim, I ain't THAT old...LOL
Ye olde SSC has kept me rather happy..but...I like RACK...nice acronym :) I've been outta the loop for the last 4 years...dang vanilla gals makin me fall few 'em...argh. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/23/2008 7:55:41 PM | | What happens between two consenting adults is all good. If you like the kink, even better ! I think it gets a bad name because people are in general sexually repressed. Isn't variety the spice of life? | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:04:38 PM | all good here. I think it is more prevelant than people think only because alot of people keep their mouths shut when it comes to their sex lives.....
I don't know why  | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/23/2008 9:19:59 PM | Vanilla ice cream is about as much vanilla as I'll take.
Okay, that's not true- I like vanilla cake and cookies, too.
For me, sex would be boring without even a little kink thrown in. I dig the Lifestyle. I've been in it too long to imagine life, and sex, without it. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/23/2008 9:35:38 PM | whats kinky for one may not be for the other , to each there own...now there is a difference between kink and fetish.
is it bad....well, we all have deep core moral instincts...stay in tap with those and no its not bad!!!!!! | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:02:37 AM | What is kinky? What is not? It all comes down to what you like. The key is to find someone that has the same taste as you. So, no they aren't a bad thing.
Now sex with minors, beastiality and anything non-consentual is definitely WRONG. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:21:49 AM | I love kinky sex problem is i keep getting left tied to ffin sink and gagged cause he refuses to wash up and i refuse to shut up .... | |
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svj2
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Joined: 3/16/2008
Msg: 92 | |
| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:24:05 AM | Our base instincts only provide us with enough knowledge to reproduce.
"Insert. Thrust. Blow. Rinse. Wash. Repeat."
But if you want to get the most pleasure possible out of your sexual experiences (especially as a woman), you're going to have to color outside of the lines a little bit.
There's really only one way to find out exactly how much pleasure your body can stand. (And bring that threshold up, as well)
Experimentation. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:27:58 AM | I don't think it's a bad thing; nothing wrong with experimenting and keeping things interesting.
HOWEVER, I think in order to do those kinds of things I'd have to be in a very trusting relationship, where the person I'm with knows my comfort level and boundaries. And won't force me to do things I don't want to do. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:57:32 AM | | I recently found out that a friend of mine is a "DOM MISTRESS"!BOY, was I shocked! She looks like a "Elizabeth Montgomery ~ Bewitched" twin! Very sorority girl, ivy league, wholesome, etc. OMG! | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/24/2008 9:22:26 AM | | he is great, as long as its not a cover up for the fact that he is not able to provide satisfaction through penetration! i get this alot :( | |
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svj2
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Joined: 3/16/2008
Msg: 97 | |
| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/25/2008 9:02:39 AM | I'm not surprised. 70% of women don't regularly orgasm through penetrative sex alone. (The Hite Report: A Study of Female Sexuality)
he is great, as long as its not a cover up for the fact that he is not able to provide satisfaction through penetration! i get this alot :(
As I stated earlier:
Ladies, the powers that be have only given us enough instinctual knowledge about sexual pleasure to have kids. Unless you're one of the lucky 30%, if you want to be getting off with your guy every time, you had better start playing around and experimenting, or send your guy to "f*** school". | |
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N*Love
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Joined: 2/22/2008
Msg: 98 | |
| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/25/2008 11:23:11 AM | how can it be bad....
who is he?? i need his info pls... does he have like minded friends?? 
its excellent... spontanous and open minded damn now thats good.... | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/25/2008 1:07:48 PM | Don't forget that it's only perverts who give kinky sex a bad name. 
""if a guy likes kinky sex is he a freak or just very open minded ????""
There are as many degrees of ""kinky"" as there are people, their backgrounds and preferences - learned or imagined. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/25/2008 5:04:21 PM | | That depends on you, if you wish to limit yourself to " vanilla" sex and feel negatively to any BDSM or D/s play than it may not work.. (especially if you regard it as "freakish"). Personally I prefer men who are into some fetish and kink , not the same mainstream standards... | |
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