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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:44:47 PM | It's all relative.... and really depends on th person you are with... What is normal to one person may be viewed as adventurous, kinky, freaky or sick to another .... really depends on your frame of reference.... It is always great when you find someone you is freaky in the same way.... but sometimes you have to introduce someone to what your are interested in.... sometimes that works out... sometimes it doesn't
My feeling is sex should be fun and playful.... Like two kids playing in a toy store
 
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Posted: 3/30/2008 6:11:16 PM | Well said DK!!
Welcome to the playground!! Don't forget your ties, toys, oils, handcuffs, paddles, dirty talk and all.
who cares about labels, 'kinky Vs open minded Vs perv'
Safe, sane, consentual...with open communication, trust, and respect and its all good!!
As long as you are with a like minded partner BRING IT ON... | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 7:01:38 PM | COUGH!
Well I'd like to think it was a good thing (obviously LOL!).
Anyway bottom line, people's kink levels vary wildly. I would say that I'm pretty kinky (hence the name), but I know where my limits are and there are plenty people around who are a hell of a lot more kinky than I will ever be.
So, as long as it's all Safe, Sane and Consensual I really don't see kinky sex as a problem.
A girl I dated for 5 years had a very low kink level. She didn't even want cunnilingus at first. But with some gentle persuasion and seduction I got my way and she admitted to me later on in the relationship, that she could not do without it 
Was that a bad thing? I don't think so. 
But of course one should not force anyone to upgrade their kink level if they don't want to. Being kinky is meant to be fun... As well as bloody enjoyable!  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:27:49 AM | | If there is mutual consent then certainly not. If there is no consent then it's just abuse. Being in a situation with a special person, feeling good and feeding off each other's positive energy is always good regardless of the specific dynamic's involved. BDSM and D/s are just two of many ways that two (or sometimes more) compatible people people can scratch their emotional and/or sexual itches. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 7:08:26 PM | hmm kinky sex, D/s, BDSM.. a bad thing?!
oh boy how can this be? First of all not all kinky sex is D/s or BDSM and so on and so on...
Bad thing? does it feel bad? i guess it all depends on who you let decide what is good or bad for you. Personally i think i'm at an age where i can decide for myself. This is a sociology question.. i think?
The society we live in is slowly opening doors to things that for so very long have been whispered in parlors.. bedrooms, and other "seedy places". Who defines "kinky" ? Think about it, a few years ago open discussion of oral sex was a no-no. This words means less and less as time goes on. (thank goodness!) What is considered "kinky" now a days?
Personally.. as long as its legal, reasonable, safe, sane, and consensual.. its all good stuff to someone. (PLEASE NOT>> LEGAL>> SAFE>> SANE>> CONSENSUAL)
Whatever is your bliss! Just do it!
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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:33:01 AM | i hope its not a bad thing.. cuz i'm into it..
it's all good when he knows what he's doing. or if you're serious about it and read up on it..
its fun when both parties agree.
theres nothing hotter than being tied, blind folded and teased... or spanked.. or anything else... especially if he/she can bring the sub/ domme side out | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:04:43 PM | | Trying new things is a good thing.......its not so good when it is taken too far though. As long as both of you are comfy with whats going down, then there is not problem!! | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:24:20 PM | Sometimes it is not so much kinky as natural.
A good D/S relationship fufills needs of both that they couldn't find in a more "vanilla" type relationship.
A Dom/Subbie just fvcking has a lot more going on than just the sex. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 1:59:12 PM |
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Only if the other party believes it is.
Funny, I was just discussing this with a g/f today...varying degrees of "kink" or "freak".
While reading this thread, the radio has played NIN's "Closer"...STP's "Sex Type Thing"...Puddle Of Mudd's "Control", etc.
Freaky Friday!! LOL | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 2:13:18 PM | | Bondage, sadism, masicism. Think the Marquis de Sade. I'm not too much into that either but sometimes with the right guy. I did have a boyfreind in college that I used to like to blind-fold from time to time. He seemed to enjoy it. I did too. And I once had another bf that gave me a few playful spanks on the behind when I was'nt expecting it. Not hard but did turn me on a little more. But that's about it for me. I would like to try feathers...and tickling is always fun. So is a little wrestling on the living room floor. But that's about as kinky as I get... | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 3:28:12 PM | Not at all! As long as your partner is into the same things you are, do whatever gets you going.
Pfsh..'bad'... | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 1:01:22 AM | BDSM every one does it whether they think they do or not.
Ever had your hands tied or held down, legs held?
Blind folded?
Sex outside or out of the bedroom?
Pillow fight, a little spanking hair/head pulled back, bighting?
Had dinner in front of the fire nude, a bottle of wine, eaten food of your partner?
More married couples would stay together if sex is more interesting and not the same thing. Personal limits are to each and their own and can be a lot of fun. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 8:10:18 AM | I once read an ad in a local tabloid that carried personal ads. This was back before the INTERNET days, I never forgot it. Now please...Do not ask me why I was reading that! (wink)
It went something like this:
Wanted, a man that will bit me, pinch me, tie me up, whip me, spank me, use me, force me to do oral, do me anally.............. But no weirdos!
Ya gotta love it!  | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:51:50 AM | It is all in what one defines as kinky...or what their own perception of bdsm / D/s is......
and oh no...definetly not a bad thing...you never know what you might like! Being honest is definetly the first step!
Oh and where can I find one?
And has anyone else noticed that the most fabulous advice here has come from more "mature" folks? All I can say is some of these other, um, especially dudes, needs to get some lessons! Or maybe some training!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 3:39:11 PM | | Define "kinky"? Personally, I am willing to do ANYTHING--yes, ANYTHING--a woman wants/needs me to do in bed. It's that simple. If it is going to make a lady smile/want me/need me/cum and cum again. . .then I am there! I am told that it is a GOOD thing. . .to answer the question! | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 5:34:07 PM |
if a guy likes kinky sex is he a freak or just very open minded ????
Way too vague a question. It also cannot be answered without context. If he's pushing things on someone who doesn't want it, that's not good. What two (or whatever) willing people do behind closed doors is their business. Who are you to judge what other people find fun that has nothing to do with you. Same goes for people who like things regular...live and let live. :) | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 7:57:37 PM | everone has a fetish of some sort. whether it be someone playing with your hair, boots and stockings to soft kisses down the side.
while there are many differen types of fetishes ranging from the softer, playful side to the harsher more extreme.. as long as they stay within the realm of being moral (ie. no kids, animals or bloodshed).. i say go for it..
sometimes we get so entangled in daily life or the stigma that "conservative values" places on our sexual practices.. we need something to help us unplug our minds, to help us forget to take out the trash and water the plants. so that we can just feel what's in the moment.
if you have someone who you care for and they're telling you that they would like to explore a fetish with you. don't try to make them feel bad about it. instead learn all you can about it and dive in.. it's a beautiful experience if you can find someone you trust completely to explore with. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 8:21:07 PM | You say tomato, I say tomatoe. As most everyone has said, its all a matter of personal choice. Personally, I like something more than just plain vanilla from time to time For some women, certain sexual appetites of mine like some D/s and BDSM play would cross the line for them, while for others they would appear rather tame. Like Goldilocks, I'm looking for the one that finds my tastes and hers to be just right.
Reminds me of the old joke...
What's the difference between kinky and perverted?
Kinky is using a feather; perverted is using the whole chicken.  | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 8:26:40 PM | Hey, Happily Ever... maybe... I have heard a different twist on the same joke:
What is the difference between kinky and perverted?
Kinky is when the person likes it, perverted when they don't. | |
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