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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:00:47 AM | Whether bdsm is freaky or just an indication of open-mindedness, I like it and do it. There do not seem many
here with that interest, or maybe I'm not putting the right keywords in my profile: "bdsm", "bondage", "spanking", "Dominate".
Anyone have other keywords that generate more interest? | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:24:54 AM | Kinky is only kinky when one of the two parties is opposed to it. If both parties agree,
then it is normal. IMO | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:32:26 AM | Simply put ..if a guy has a fetish or penchant for kink, he would only be considered a "freak" to a female who is terminally "vanilla" (mainstream conventional type)
(of course it depends on what he is into, of course)
However, I regard a guy with fetishes/kink not only as open minded, but boyfriend material | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 10/5/2008 10:22:58 AM | well, OP, the answer to your question depends entirely on your definition of kink and your own comfort level with it. kink can involve biting, blindfolds, hair pulling, dirty names and restraints -- more or less softer mainstream kinks. or maybe you mean scat games and watersports -- kinks involving elements of degradation. or perhaps you mean cutting, branding, burning, asphyxiation, mummification, sensory deprivation -- things that would be defined as extreme edge play. or maybe you're referring to fetishes such as infantilism (dressing up & acting like an infant), foot worship, cross-dressing and so on. then again it could be about roleplay or a master-slave arrangement.
obviously the term "kinky sex" can mean a lot of different things. and how freaky someone seems is dependent on where you yourself fall along that spectrum.
IMO BDsM isn't a bad thing provided the following rules are met:
- safe sex (if you're with a newer or non-monogamous partner)
- safe words or safe signals are clearly defined so that your partner knows when things are going too far.
- discuss your limits in advance. some people like to have limits pushed, but this should be negotiated. there should never be coersion except as pre-defined as part of role-play. but again, the safe word/safe signal brings an end to it PERIOD.
- if you're practising any form of edge play, never leave your partner unattended, watch them for signs of physical distress, and make sure to have first aid supplies on hand. if you're the one in control, your partner is trusting you to take care of them.
play safe and sane, and it's all good whether you're into vanilla sex or edge play ; ) | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 10/5/2008 12:45:59 PM | | There is no such thing as too kinky and if your partner doesn't like it take your five friends and barnyard animals and get the he11 out !!! lol | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 10/5/2008 1:47:05 PM | | Coming from someone who's been in the lifestyle for many yrs., "kink" can be very enjoyable, as long as you & your partner or partners are consenting adults and use gr8 communication skills, calling kink a "bad thing" is a state of mind, it's definitely not for everyone, but for those who do enjoy..."Cheers to you"!!! | |
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st3vi
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Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 136 | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 11/11/2008 11:30:11 AM | | If someone likes kinky sex it just means they are open minded not a freak. You will find most of the daily posters on the forums here are very open minded about things and honest. Why is it a bad thing to add spice to the relationship. U should at least try everything once. | |
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fit50s
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Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 139 | |
| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 11/11/2008 8:01:49 PM | hmmmm.....I need a better idea of how you define "kinky"before I can answer that. Does he want you to use a chicken feather,or the whole chicken?
oops..looks like someone else remembers that dusty old joke. | |
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Shri_1
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Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 140 | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 11/12/2008 10:49:08 AM | | depends on what you are calling kinky. some things are just completely outrageous and some things are fine. The defination of kinky means different things to different people. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 1/18/2009 5:56:50 PM | Depends on how you personally define "kinky". To some, certain things are a turn on, while to others they'd be considered "gross" or "degrading".
I agree with the poster above. Kinky means many different things, to many different people.
However, if someone is trying to force you into something sexually that you are not comfortable with, then that's crossing a line and could be considered sexual abuse. If you don't like it, and don't want it, you have the right to say no to it.
But if it's something new you've never tried before and are open to possibly trying it out of curiousity, then go for it. Life is short. Sex shouldn't be so complicated.
(sorry, my BDSM thread from yesterday got deleted for being redundant so now I have to pull up old threads on this topic. Please do not delete my post. Thank you)
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/1/2009 8:42:42 PM | | open minded, the idea that their is "normal sex" doesn't really make any sense. Some people like to be spanked, others love handcuffs, and other people really like being videotaped. Its not about what is freaky or kinky, its about finding things that both of you enjoy doing with each other. Which can mean experimenting with things that at first sounded weird or scary, but if you trust the other person then sex should be a journey of trying new things. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/1/2009 10:06:25 PM | | I don't think it's all bad. A girlfriend once popped out of the bathroom wearing a strap-on. I figured if she had the guts to do that, I'd go with it! turned out wierd, painful, but at the same time pleasureable because she was happy. | |
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