| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/7/2009 9:44:04 PM | It's not a bad thing.
The media likes to portray it as some strange freakshow but it isn't
Personally I'm into it. ..so maybe I have a hard time understanding your POV but everyone has their own thing I guess.
If all else fails you could try to reach some kind of middle of the road compromise. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/7/2009 10:58:26 PM | | just open minded.. find things you like, and find people who likes those same things.. if you like hair pulling, or handcuffs or role play, just have fun be safe and makes sure its always consensual | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:01:54 PM | Kinky sex is not at all weird. I, myself, enjoy kinky sex rather than the plain ol' 'me on top of her' casual sex. I used to be ashamed to admit it, but recently I've been more open to discuss it. When I'm having sex, I enjoy being choked. It doesn't matter how...either the use of some object, such as rope, or via my partners limbs. Hands, arms, legs....I've finally come to terms with the fact that I have an asphyxiation fetish and I'm not afraid to admit it. So, no, kinky sex is not weird by any means, but rather misunderstood by the people who label it as such.  | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:09:56 PM | | According to folks on another thread, hitting and spitting are assault, so no, this is not ok. Hitting is assault. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/12/2009 1:00:16 PM | Almost everyone I know takes great pride in his or her ability to compartmentalize, rationalize, and normalize. I don't. I find it saps me of energy. For me words mean what they mean. For me statistics mean what they mean. Everyone else isn't wrong and I'm right just because I want to feel comfortable.
If the balance of society thinks what I do is perverted, then by definition it's perverted. I find it a lot simpler and a lot easier to accept than to redefine.
Bad is a value judgment. I can claim my perversion is bad or I can claim it's not. That's up to me. When I engage in my perversion with other human beings it's up to them to place their own value judgment on their own experience. I have to be prepared that they may well consider it bad or negative.
Remaining open to the value judgments of others can only be accomplished if I'm in reality. Redefining everything for my own comfort level has a tendency to remove me from reality. In that reality I'm a statistical minority. Whether or not I'm fulfilled or calm may be of no interest to the majority. I'm still perverted and I'm still a minority | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/18/2009 9:46:58 PM | | Kinky is as kinky does...what is a major kink to some might just be a slight turnon for others... different strokes for different folks,always be willing to see what is on the other side of the mountain,don't be afraid to take chances and you might discover a whole new world that you never knew exsisted before...then again you might just freak out!...but at least you did try, life is all about the journey and everyone has a different map and compass to guide them by. Have fun and enjoy life,and one another! | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 3/23/2009 7:44:55 PM | I think a pervert is someone who likes an activity before the person; for example, if someone requested a particular sexual act out of the blue, without even asking if you would like that, and just wanted it more than they wanted you, then it is an odd feeling, and you will probably say no - a big turn-off.
Two people exploring their sexuality together - call it kinkiness, if you wish - is not only natural, but very important.
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 4/13/2009 12:56:37 PM | Kinky sex is that which we have not yet tried.
I posted an introduction to light BDSM called Bound to be Free today.
I hope some of you enjoy it. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:59:41 PM | This is so subjective. What is kinky to one person might not be kinky to another. It's callled, what two people do in private is there business and there business alone. Some people think masterbation is kinky and you do that by yourself!
Try it, if you like it, go with it. If you don't like it, don't do it again. If it's something you simply don't wanna try then don't. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:50:37 PM | | I'm not claiming to know, but my general observation is that there are more women than men who are into this? | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:49:40 AM | One person kink is another's freak..
ONe persons everday sex is another's freak show
*SAFE *SANE *CONSENSUAL and with a safe word is a good start.
The word bad indicates...a value judgement...
It is the same as ppl saying "I like it nasty..dirty" etc while to another that same activity might be erotic..
or what is humilation to one might be a turn on to another..
or calling someone a slut who is a person who quite simply loves sex.
COMMUNICATION is the key so that partners KNOW where the persons head is at and why...and they can negotiate their kink or get thier freak on..free of societal
rigidity and narrowness.
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:56:08 AM | | No, i think the days where people would look at others who enjoyed althoughs things and called them freaks are gone.. or atleast going. Most if not all people have one or two things they at least like. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/31/2009 6:07:48 PM | Let's see, do I think it's bad?
Well, Friday I was on the floor, wearing a corset, black fishnet stockings, a collar, hog tied with one hand to my feet, and the other hand to handcuffed to the bottom of a book shelf, being spanked with both hand and flogger to the point that my a** is *still* tender. Later on, gagged with a rag and duct tape, blind folded, tethered to the bed and taken..
No, I don't think it's bad.
I think it's the only way to be. *shrug* | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 9/4/2009 10:07:44 AM | Okay, I use to have an ex who liked to be smacked in the face, and wanted me to put my belt around her neck and choke her, while doing naughty things to her. Now I never got my belt around her neck but I did smack her in the face which I thought I'd never find myself doing but it heightened the mood, and also the sex.
But I told my most recent ex that I like to be smacked in the face. And I do. I'm a freak, with a capital F. And she smacked the shit out of me. She was doing it in succession, and I was becoming more of a beast while she did it. I told her she'd have hit the other side of my face because she popped me good, and I had to give my face time to cool down but it turned me on even more.
So kinky sex, is not a bad thing. As long as both of you agree, and it never gets boring, and things are always interesting then you'll be fine OP. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 9/9/2009 2:48:27 PM | | Its an awesome thing, i honestly couldn't imagine doing the same thing every single night, it'd get boring really easily... I've done alot of research in this submect and its a whole new lifestyle, I've talked to actual slaves and masters, I've seen someone flogged and whipped, and its about limits, and yes, alot of the people I've talked to are very open minded, more open minded than me. But in my opinion, the more open minded a girl is, the better the relationship will be, (not just sexually either). You must understand that some people will have very hard limits, and if you can't respect that persons limits, then you probably shouldn't be doing this. | |
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| is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:25:42 PM | Sex is a way to obtain pleasure and enjoyment of appreciated company. Amusement and thrill await, and if you enjoy a rollercoaster moreso than a walk in the park, all my respect to you. Find your pleasure and embrace it.
As a man, I like it all, but the flavor of lovemaking/ sex/ F'ing I'm doing varies with the woman I'm in the relationship with. | |
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