|Nice GuysPage 9 of 13 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)|
|Atta boy Froggie. Then it's only a matter of time and "getting out there" with the TYPE of person you're looking for before it happens.|
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:43:31 PM
Again I have to say that we are attracted to the people we are attracted to for a reason. If you keep finding yourself with b!tches or a$$holes, there is a reason for that and it's you that needs changing, not them.
So what you are saying Camie is what the great Chinese strategist Sun-Tzu said in his book The Art of War during the 6th Century BC. It does relate to a military strategy but the principles are correct.
One who does not know the enemy but knows himself will sometimes win, sometimes lose. One who does not know the enemy and does not know himself will be in danger in every battle.
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:47:25 PM
|Me and Sun-Tzu are like this...lol|
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:45:42 PM
|Sun who? Sounds like a sneeze hehe....|
Thanks Seymour and Camie - I so wanted to post something to that affect...but couldn't get it out quite like that! Thank gawd some of ya'll 'round here are SMRT!
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:56:54 PM
|You're right Camie! You need to be the change you want to be.|
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:18:08 PM
|Gandhi...I'm impressed Smilie! We've had Gahndi and Sun Tzu...anyone have a Buddha quote? lol|
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:20:51 PM
|All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.|
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:22:43 PM
|The "energy you put out there is the energy you will attract"|
We also teach people how to treat us.
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:14:28 PM
|Never mistake motion for action. |
- Ernest Hemingway
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:40:47 PM
|Back to the movie examples:|
Narrator (Edward Norton) - Bad nice guy
Brad Pitt (Tyler Durden) - Nice bad guy
Good example or failing cognitive process?
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:47:26 PM
|but...you see, they were still the same guy! Just need to find one that is aware of the 'bad boy' inside, to let him out when needed!|
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:48:45 PM
|mmmmmmmmm Edward Norton........ok, carry on.|
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:51:25 PM
|Oh, you gave away the end! Yes, I thought that was the interesting part--that both extremes can be present in one person. Is it a good example, do you think, of the polar opposites? Or was Narrator actually just a repressed/passive aggressive "Nice guy" that ultimately went bad--representative of the "Nice guys" discussed in that link I posted a few pages back?|
Oh, and I'm talking about near the start of the movie before Narrator becomes thoroughly schizophrenic.
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:53:40 PM
Thanks for the *SWOON* Atebis
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:53:45 PM
|as far as being a 'nice guy'... I don't classify myself... I would much rather have other people form thier own opinion of me...|
I help when I can and sometimes when I can't...
I make a point doing a random act of kindness on a regular basis for no reason...
like the little girl and her brother that tried so hard to get the stuffed animals out of that claw game and failed...
they got them when I left...
the girls at Nellie's cosmic cafe that were having a b day about four or five months ago... happy b day.... breakfast was on me...
or a user on here had a border that hadn't paid her rent.... paid...
but that doesn't make me a 'nice guy'
a' nice guy' is the guy that will hold open doors, not lie, smile at little kids when they are being cute, drive your kids to the doctors when they are sick.... even if you aren't dating them... but most of all a nice guy is the one that will allways be there when you need them to be... even when there is no reason...
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:53:56 PM
|I hated that movie - two hours of my life I will never get back.|
I don't know that Ed's character was such a nice guy- just boring and crazy.. there's a combo I wouldn't want!
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:56:34 PM
|^^^ Ok, one vote for "failing cognitive process." |
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:57:22 PM
|Narrator is a classic example of the "nice guy" of my experience. He's a people pleaser, won't disagree, bends over backwards to make everyone else happy and then, when no one's lookin, he lets out all of his aggression whether it be drugs, infidelity, beating the sh!t out of himself and/or others.|
The challenge, for all human beings, is to get over the fact that if we are true to ourselves, people may not like us...and that's ok. As long as we're not cruel to ourselves or others, we can walk the earth with our heads held high and we will attract the kind of people who do the same.
Now, if you'll excuse me, I'd like to get back to Edward Norton....
Posted: 1/24/2006 8:20:03 PM
|Got the point Spiff- still hated the movie|
Posted: 1/24/2006 9:00:18 PM
|Sounds like some nice guys and girls are polite and respectful, and not so aggresive in pursuing eachother, and may take fewer chances, which makes it less likely to meet up.|
But as for the bad boys, we could say that they go after what they want, and don't always worry about any feelings getting in them and the 'target'.
Posted: 1/24/2006 11:15:02 PM
|See i am a nice guy and i have been called BAD but bad in a good way...LOL |
Isnt that what women want?
because i think that most guys, well from what i want anyway, i want a classy woman in public and wild in the bedroom and maybe i am just brave enough to admit it
Posted: 1/25/2006 7:59:05 AM
|Nice guys can be just as aggressive in the pursuit as bad boys. They just are more choosy about who they are pursuing. Nice doesn't mean wimpy at all.|
With bad boys it can be a wild ride but the sudden stop at the end always hurts.
and yes Edmonton Man, that's what most women want!
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:01:28 AM
|I'm the nicest f'n guy I've ever met. And dam modest too!|
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:13:19 AM
|I don't think nice guys are near aggressive as bad boys. Nice guys are bound by politeness and courtesy. They won’t use anything in the player’s bag of tricks and will always be sincere|
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:21:20 AM
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ok that's mah lil rant...LMFAO!!!!....sawry...*sigh*...does the perfect man for me actually EXIST?