| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/2/2006 10:29:03 AM | | A guy that has a job and a car and a place of his own to live, doesn't cheat or lie, doesn't beat me up or do massive amounts of drugs or boozing; remembers my birthday, and doesn't have to get laid every night; that's what I'm looking for. Not asking for all that much; why can't I find him? | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/2/2006 2:22:01 PM | | we are definitely out here waiting to be found. I would love to share my life again with someone true, but true is so hard to find. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/2/2006 6:45:13 PM | | I just wished you ladies would write on your profiles,no fat guys need apply,so i can save my time and effort of writing e-mails,when im bold enough to write any. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:07:16 PM | | I think most people, especially in their 30's are searching for their identity.. in relationships, jobs, possessions etc.. They bounce around searching for purpose and discovery.. Life is an adventure and there is a purpose and connection to everyone in our lives. God created us to be in relationship with others...I am single- I hate it but for some reason, there is a purpose that will create a greater love and happiness down the road... there's my 2 cents... | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/6/2006 2:04:50 AM | u say no one cares anymore..
but sounds like u have a wall up called "its all about me"
u should really try and open ur mind and heart to see whats out there, most ppl these days are just like u, been there and done it all before, and a little hurt by it.
so have a wall up in protecting themselves..
take a little while, insert a little interest.. and i think ull find..
most ppl have a heart beating inside their chest, and just want someone to love. just like urself.
give ppl a chance. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/6/2006 9:13:19 PM | | To the one who asked "what will happen without love, you die?" The answer, yes we die. There have been studies throughout history that have shown that babies who are not touched or shown affection, die. it's extremely depressing. Love takes many forms. In reality it runs our lives. Depending on you. We are not defined by who loves us, we are defined by who we love. So love someone please. It's not about completing, or being a companion, or controlling someone, it's simply listening to your own hearts desire to connect with another person. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 2/7/2006 7:44:53 AM | I can only speak for myself in what a 30 something woman wants and desires. For the longest time I was content with the fact that I was a single independant woman with a child. I was capable of doing things on my own and being the sole provider for my son was what my life was about. I was envolved with someone for 4 years and was comfortable with that. Then I realized that I wanted more..and I dont mean a ring or a child ...I mean a life..excitement..unity..passion..drive..ambition. All of these things I had within me but was unable to express them fully....yes if the desire to express them was there than I would have..but it wasn't. I don't need a partner to be able to express myself in those ways....I want a partner I can share all of those things with. I have learned that not everyone tells the truth...people who you thought loved you will break your heart.....your lowest point has nowhere to go but up.....and I CAN get back up. There are good people in this world that would give you anything you needed even when you are not aware that you did need them. I believe that it takes time and patience to build a lasting realtionship..but you know... I also believe in love at first site. We always talk about what we want in a relationship..for me I want to say that I will give my partner love and understanding.....love him at his best and at his worst..turn him on and lift his spirits up. When he looks at me he will know what I am feeling in that very moment. I will give him time, space and an ear. Knowing that all of these things I am giving him are exactly what he gives me. Maybe my wants and desires are not specific enough for some but specific details have been left out for a reason and when we find each other .....nothing will be left unsaid | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/22/2006 3:04:56 AM | You are so surprising! I really love what you wrote here. I totally believe the same thing. Even though I have been married for ten years I have basically lived as a single mom. I have stayed in the relationship because of my faith and relationship with God. Knowing that I had made a committment to the man I married and to God. I finally realized that God really does love me and does not intend for me to stay in an unhealthy situation. He wants us to be happy. Not sure how obvious it is, but I am an extremely shy gal. It scares me to death to make the first move, take that risk. I make myself. If I make a fool of myself, so be it. At least I tried. I want someone to share things with, do things with, just be with, and life is too short to sit and wait for good things to just happen to you. It does not work that way. Neither does God. If you give 100% of 1%, God will give 100% of the 99%. Just take that chance.  | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/22/2006 3:10:27 AM |
all you 30 something girls What do you want and what do you desire?
Basically.......to find a well-off, good looking, stable 30 something guy whose not using those attributes to hook up with 20 something gals. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/22/2006 4:41:00 AM | looking for someone to ravish when I am in the mood and have the time
kidding I am looking for that love thing | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/22/2006 2:08:41 PM | wanted male:
energy of a 20 year old
drive like a 30 year old
patience like a 40 year old
chivalry like a 50 year old
wisdom like a 60 year old
above package is wrapped up in one fantanstic, romantic caring man who is willing to walk beside me and treat me like an equal and that "I am the only one" in his heart | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/22/2006 7:09:43 PM | Dear, dear sterling68,
I can't answer for all women but I know for myself, I want all three...love, happiness and fun...I want it with a man I can share it with...and wont settle for anything less. In my opinion, the divorce rate is so high, because after you marry and settle down, you forget how to date and have fun with your mate...the pressures of paying the mortgage become more important than spending the cash on a night out or even a movie in.
If you ever marry, remember...to keep each other happy is to keep it fun and make one another feel special, not taken for granted. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:04:41 AM | I don't see what's so complicated about dating a 30-something...
When I was in my 20's I wanted a man who gave me butterflies. What I got was butterflies, an ulcer, an empty bank account & several migraines.
All I really want in my 30's is a kind man, a little stability, a partner to share my life and handle my stresses with me, (50/50), and a best friend. Nothing crazy. I have become very practicle.
Oh, and I want a puppy!!!! | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:07:53 AM | | I have to agree with ya "green eyes"...seems anybody i connect with lives too far away. I am really hopin that doesnt mean i either move or stay alone...lol | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:13:41 AM |
To the one who asked "what will happen without love, you die?" The answer, yes we die. There have been studies throughout history that have shown that babies who are not touched or shown affection, die.
This is a big urban legend and there is no medical data to support this claim. The famous Psychologist B.F. Skinner placed his two (I believe they were twins) daughters in a containers and only touched them through gloves and they were shown no there affections for a period of time. They not only lived but turned out to be prodigious brainiacs. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:02:16 AM | | who did not know how to love but they were really intelligent?? One needs both. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:08:47 AM | | I agree with you and I would never personally do this or even remotely mimic that kind of treatment on my children. I just have to expose urban legends when I encounter them. There are far too many floating around that people just blanketly accept as fact. There is no conclusive empirical evidence that infants will suffer death from lack of affection. Most infant related deaths would be attributed to lack of basic needs. Food, protection, basic cargiving. Ther is no evidence to suggest that an infant would grow up disadvantaged if cared for and nurtured by an emotionless robot. Would I reccomend such an approach to childcare? Absolutely not. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:43:57 AM | | I am not sure...if you were not loved or held or hugged or kissed as a child you might grow up into an adult who doesn't like to be touched. Can't stand intimacy. Or who is angry at women/men due to lack of affection growing up. Or who is pissed off at own parents and cuts off ties..I am glad you give your kids love and nurturing attention..I was thinking they might need a hug. | |
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| all you 30 something girls
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:51:49 AM |
I am not sure...if you were not loved or held or hugged or kissed as a child you might grow up into an adult who doesn't like to be touched. Can't stand intimacy. Or who is angry at women/men due to lack of affection growing up. Or who is pissed off at own parents and cuts off ties..I am glad you give your kids love and nurturing attention..I was thinking they might need a hug.
Again I totally agree with you. The original point I was making was to dispel the common myth that "studies show" that children who are not loved as infants will die since there is absolutley no conclusive evidence on record to suggest that. | |
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