| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/13/2006 6:24:15 PM | sophia,...just a warning,....i did that too......i was married to the girl for 7 years,....then i accidently fell in love with a co-worker.....i never cheated but i did realize that i had to tell her that i wasnt in love with her,.,...which , im sorry to say, crushed her alot worse than if i hadnt married her in the 1st place,..... ill always feel guilty for that but theres some secrets u just cant keep and it wouldnt be fair to either of us to just pretend.....i hope everything works out fine for u.
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/13/2006 6:27:27 PM | | i absolutely think its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. i mean, u could completely regret it, because u never know what would have come from the relationship. if u just let it go without trying, you're just running away from possibilities, and who would want to live that way? also, even if u 2 do break up and its horrible, well, what doesnt kill u, makes u a stronger person, and we can all be a bit stronger, so sure it would hurt, but hey, thats just part of life :) | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/14/2006 1:07:14 AM | | Its all in the experience - I learned so much about how to communicate and relate to my partners while in love in long term relationships - you never leave a relationship the same person as you were when you went in - its amazing.............so I guess lost is not the right word to use love is gone..................Ill be right back in there again when it happens........... | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/14/2006 7:05:33 AM | | I know what it's like to fall in love with someone, but the person I fell in love with was during vacation and she lived far away and later learned she didn't have the same feelings towards me as I did towards her. It was so painful, but my heart has healed and I have learned to move on though I have not been able to find anyone to date/have a relationship with. | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/14/2006 9:01:05 AM | | Nothing beats that feeling of totally being in love with another person and them feeling the same way about you. Feeling it when you hold each other from the top of your head to the tips of you toes. All the emotional anguish to get that feeling again is definately worth it. | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:03:25 AM | Message: sophia,...just a warning,....i did that too......i was married to the girl for 7 years,....then i accidently fell in love with a co-worker.....i never cheated but i did realize that i had to tell her that i wasnt in love with her,.,...which , im sorry to say, crushed her alot worse than if i hadnt married her in the 1st place,..... ill always feel guilty for that but theres some secrets u just cant keep and it wouldnt be fair to either of us to just pretend.....i hope everything works out fine for u.
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:49:06 AM | Depends on whether love is a necessity in life, or the cherry on the sundae (optional). I personally know a few solemnly devoted artists who center their whole life around their creations. Did they miss out much on life, yes. But was their life fulfilling? I'd say yes to that as well.
So in order to answer that question, you must examine it on a case-by-case basis.
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Joined: 8/13/2006
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/14/2006 8:39:23 AM | | Even if it is short lived, it's better to have loved! We always grow from pain so I say pick yourself up, dust the hurts off of your heart and go for it again. No pain, no gain! We have to be careful when we are in love, it is the same chemical reaction as a mental illness during that initial lovey dovey stage. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2006 9:02:34 AM | Better to have loved 
You can learn so much about yourself from having loved and lost.
You can choose to be a better person as a result.
I say those of us who have ever loved a person, can at least
say we have the capacity to love!
There are actually some narsicisstic people devoid of loving
others.
Love is a very good thing. When you come away, you can
still move on and give your love to someone else!  That
is the beauty of being a real human being! | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/14/2006 3:54:57 PM | When you are hurt and get deperessed sinking in a sea of tears, you think it's better not to love¬ to be loved than to have loved and lost. It's natural. But when time heals the ache and you are ready to move on, you realize how love is precious. It's difficult, it' sometimes hurts, it sometimes takes you out of control... yet beautiful and enrich your life... and the experience will lead you to the right one with your soulmate someday. So it is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.  | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/14/2006 4:28:35 PM | yeah its better to have loved and lost than not have loved at all...
i wish the love could go on for ever and not have to fade but it doesnt work like that but when u get the feeling its the most wonderful feeling i have been told so im waiting for it...  | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/15/2006 4:18:07 AM | | I was married for 17 years, had two boys, I thought I was in love Then I met Melanie and found out what real love is. I was 47 when that happened. Now she has gone and for the last year I have been in pain with this incredible sense of emptyness. I can't enjoy being with another woman because I feel like I'm cheating on her. If love works I'm sure it's great but if it doesn't it just sucks. | |
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/15/2006 4:35:55 AM | Abslutely, positively, without any doubt, YES!!, of course, Yessiree Bob, yep, affirmative, Roger-that, Ju got it Toyota, Si senor, yeah, uh-huh, definitely, nodding head up and down, affirmative, "blub blub blub" (that's a fish saying YES), yes yes yes yes yessssssssssssss!!!!
I'm NOT "in love wiht the IDEA of love" and I never fall in love with the first guy who comes along (I'm very, very picky)...but when it's the right guy at the right place and time and the feelings are MUTUAL wowweeeeeeeeee it's the BEST!!! Yummy!!!
But......if it's the wrong guy, or the wrong time, or not mutual then that all BLOWS....so lots of things have to work out to find a WINNER!! Sure it hurts like hell when a fantastic love comes to and end.....but its still worth the risk and the heartbreak. And eventually you learn that heartache isn't fatal......painful yes...but NOT fatal. So WTF?? All that yummy, delicious, scrumptious, tasty, warm, beautiful LOVE and memories to change you and live inside of you forever.... at the risk of some heartache? YES it's worth it!! | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:25:18 PM | We went togther for almost 3 years. Exchanged 4,151 emails. I loved her and suddenly it was over. Still don't know why. The emails stopped, everything stopped. But I consider her the only woman in my life that I really loved, and I lost her. Sometimes I wonder if it really is better to have loved and lost - or never loved at all. I'm 69 now...She's gone. | |
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Joined: 10/4/2006
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:38:04 PM | I've never loved and lost.It's not something I'm looking forward to.When,if I do fall in love with someone it won't be done lightly.
I think I put up road blocks to prevent anyone from getting real close.Having your emotions rely strictly on someone else is a scary concept to me.I'm not sure I can do that.Maybe it's why I'm an ass to a very nice gentleman on here.
One thing from being here on POF I noticed people have e mail or msn relationships and haven't met in person.Is that safer than meeting?When it ends does it hurt less because there was no person to person physical contact?How do you know it's love and why does it end?
How do you justify hurting someone you loved so badly he/she walks away forever?What makes a person do that?Is risking your heart worth the downfall?I think I'd rather be alone forever. | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:48:37 PM | Well, I think it is better to have loved than not loved at all, BUT, be ready to have a broken heart if it doesn't work out, you will be very upset if you cared and maybe cry a bucket of tears but what IF he is the one and it all works out great, look what you would have lost if you didn't put your heart out there and take a chance, I would take the chance, a heart in time can heal but lonelyness never leaves while being alone. And I do believe one can know after 5 years, 5 months, 5 hours or 5 minutes. I feel for you tekker, being lonely can kill you, you can be married and still be the lonelyiest person in the world, so I guess it's a big chance anyway you slice it, good luck to you... | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/27/2006 4:32:04 AM | | Life without having loved is no life at all. The most difficult thing I ever did in my life was to commit my life to one person, to love until death did us part. But the experience was worth every bittersweet moment, every kiss, every touch, every shared dream, and every growing pain. That's why I'm here fishing...once you have had it there is no way you want to live without. May you all be blessed with true love at least once in your life. | |
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| is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Posted: 10/27/2006 4:40:24 AM | depends on the love and how you lost it. did you both love equally, or did you love them more than they loved you? did they leave you sobbing on the floor with your heart ripped out or did they die? sorry. much rather be logical about it than give a pat mushy answer. blech.
sometimes it IS better to have, sometimes it's not. | |
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