| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:44:10 PM | Hams007, no. You're on target. I'm just weird. I don't let guys buy me drinks in bars either. Maintains my free agent status.
I was speaking for myself. I don't think the Slow Dance rule holds true for everyone else 'over here.' I'm just not into the belly rub with strangers and whomever. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:47:30 PM | | I was under the impression that there's a bit more rubbing going on with energetic dances than slow dances. It didn't used to be that way, but things seemed to have changed in the past 10 years--or it maybe it's just cyclical. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:49:15 PM | | Not on my belly - either way. Unless I really like you. Slow dance sort of captures you right in there. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 2:59:29 PM | Any1real Thanks At least i know i wont get arrested!! if i ask a girl for a slow dance if i ever go to the US on holiday!!
Summer I think you might be right!!
OP I think you should stick to impressing the women with some moves on the dance floor!!
If that dosent pull them in!! | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:03:21 PM | | Anytime, Hams. If you make to the U.S. let me know. But you might not want to take etiquette lessons from me. I have some eccentric ideas on them. Translation - don't listen to me - but you might want to listen to sambucadawg. He really does have some great thoughts there. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:10:44 PM | I'm not a lady, but I do know how to pick up girls in bars/clubs...
It's not hard! Now listen to these two words and I'll point you in the direction of getting "easy" women for as long as you can put up with thier blabber...
EYE CONTACT!!!
That's right, make eye contact and if she holds your gaze for 3 seconds or more, you have every chance in the world of sleeping with her that very night. Once you get past this point of finding out she is interested, say as little as possible as not to ruin the fact that she thinks you are good looking by saying something stupid.
Your mouth is going to make or break it for you, but at least now you'll be a shoe in before approaching her... | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:11:49 PM | thanks any1
now, if you approach and she blows you off, NO MATTER WHAT, don't get pissy, smile and say, sorry to bother you and walk away! You never know who may be watching or listening!
after talking to her, never EVER run back to your buddies and spill all the details. SHE'S watching you or her friends are! Don't whip out a number and flash them! Be sutble about what ever happened, fill in details later!
Don't walk up her with a beer or drink in each hand! | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:15:23 PM | | See post #17...Thats what seems to work for me also...Smile at everybody. Say HI. To the 1's that appear to really catch your eye. Make eye contact. Don't drool. Its not good for the image. Buying drinks is risky in my opinion. Because, sometimes the Gorillla Boyfriend that you didn't see, Doesn't/Won't appreciate some other swinging**** buying alcohol for his girl. Or he'll appriciate it and smile cause its 1 less he has to buy. Just smile and relax. If you look like a guy that is enjoying his nite out, it'll roll naturally. | |
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BradPt
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Joined: 1/13/2006
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:44:21 PM | | Dude, the best way for you to learn is by trial and error. Go hit the bars. Tonight. None of this info will help you unless you have the cajones to step up and do it . . . | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:50:08 PM | The eye contact thing is important, it makes a good first impression.
It's always ok to say "Hello, how are you doing?"
Have some topical conversation ideas ready. Like a pertinent national or local news story.
Also, try to find something in common in which to discuss.
Pickup lines rarely work, I don't have any.
Buying a drink rarely works. Women rarely quickly consume their drinks, they are most likely to be nursing a drink and won't really appreciate a new drink being foisted upon them. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 4:59:27 PM |
And you call yourself a sniper.
Perhaps I misunderstood. I thought the topic was meeting an interesting woman, not putting a bullet in her brain. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 5:01:09 PM | | But I thought steely stares were all part and parcel. But by all means, no bullets, please. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 5:34:57 PM | | body language,babe...The eyes...Then buy her a drink. If nothing happens, move on because she is not interested. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 8:12:01 PM | | I've stopped looking for that in bars some time ago but make eye contact and if it's there, as dion said, find something she is wearing to comment on. Don't comment on her looks. She gets that all the time from every other twenty something single guy who approaches her. That's too big of a pool. Start the conversation and if she's interested she'll let you know. The women afterall are actually the ones doing the choosing no matter what we think we are doing. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 6:00:48 AM |
Steely stares? You've been watching too many Clint Eastwood movies.
Probably. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 6:23:49 AM | The best approach I have found is to try and catch eye contact. When you do, don't waite too long other wise she will think you are freaky. Once the eye contact is established and you have the feeling she is approachable. Just walk over, appologize for staring but you think she is very attractive and you find it hard to take your eyes off of her. This may lead to a response in your favor, run with it and enjoy the conversation. If no response or an unfavorable response, offer to buy her a drink and once again appologize. Walk away, after a bit she will feel bad about being rude to you, you will have set up an air of mystery, she will most likely come over and appologize or start to chat with you.
It works more times than not. There is not allot of preasure, it is a pretty relaxing and comfortable way to make contact. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 10:34:18 AM | | Ok this may come off wrong, but if you and your friends are what you say. Then whats the big deal in approaching women. One thing i live by is what is the worst thats going to happen, they so no, there married, going to be a nun, does it matter the point is the worst thats going to happen is your going to get shot down. Look at the web site your on. there are plenty more out there. | |
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BradPt
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Joined: 1/13/2006
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:04:35 PM | | Some times our pride can be our own worst enemy! The fear of rejection is greater than the desire to succeed! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:11:10 PM |
The fear of rejection is greater than the desire to succeed! with negativity like that you have already lost  | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:11:58 PM | | leave you shirt untucked , some gal will notice and comment . then just ask her to tuck it in . | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:16:24 PM | | It's true what Brad said...I mean some guys, like myself, if they get embarrassed when getting shot down, this terrible feeling comes over them where the stoach feels sick, you feel warm all over and you almost, ALMOST feel like shaking cause of the embarrassment. It's hard to handle for some guys. | |
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