| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/30/2006 3:11:37 AM | @tigerwoods
2) We weren't actively seeking anyone, we were just having a good time, and I think the women picked up on that and wanted to join in the fun (and we were always nice enough to let them, be they hot, cute, plain or fat, we'd just talk to them differently depending on attraction)
3) The other horn dogs in the club basically chased them to us, we were some of the few guys not groping away, so we appeared safe to be around and actually were
The key words here was NOT ACTIVELY SEEKING ANYONE. I mentioned this before, but
I'll say it again. Bring a platonic gf with you. You don't even need to know how to
dance. For some reason, this girlfriend of yours is an ice-breaker. I don't know
why but they stir the pot and it get's YOU the attention. Maybe the signal
you send when you're in the company of a girl is that you're NOT seeking anyone...beats me! But it worked. | |
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olio1
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Joined: 1/28/2006
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/30/2006 7:48:59 AM | you can always resort to what young clueless guys
have been doing for centuries and try to load her up
with booze and pretend your english or from some far away land.
Mix it up with a great story about being here on assignment with CNN
or some TV program and being rich and well hung....
and be sure to leave before she wakes up and sees you in daylight.
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tr1414
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Joined: 2/18/2006
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Denis1
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Joined: 3/20/2005
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/19/2006 7:48:33 PM | Here's the answer. You don't just walk up to a girl out of nowhere and start a conversation with her. 99.9 % of the time a girl will turn you down if you do that.
Here's what you do: (You're guaranteed to not get turned down)
When you see a girl that strikes your interest, just look at her. Plain and simple. She will eventually look at you, and when she does, see what her reaction is. If she's into you she'll keep looking at you, if she's not interested she'll look away. Do this a couple of times...if every couple of minutes your eyes keep catching one another's and there's some slight smirking going on as your looking at each other than it's a done deal...You're into her, and she's into you. It's now safe to go talk to her. You'll hit it off!
You'll never get turned down this way as the only reason your approaching her is because you know she's interested. Otherwise; she wouldn't keep looking!
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/19/2006 8:49:20 PM | this guy had it right ....
Approaching women in bars
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:02:46 PM
if it's somewhat crowded, walk by her and lightly place your hand on the small of her back and say"excuse me", smile and walk away........she'll notice!
NEVER NEVER send a drink!
skip any compliments
never ask for a number or date on the inital contact!
eye contact is huge! dont look around the bar talking too her
keep a comfortable distance. good clue, is say pardon to her, see if she leans into your ear, and stays close
If you come on too strong you will scare her and she will think your weird. be slick and have some game.
if your going to try to make plans with her for an after hours, try to do it before the lights turn on in the bar lol. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 8:56:51 PM | How abouts .........Walking up to the prospective woman and sayen.... " D*amn!!!!! Woamann youre Prettteirrrrrr than a new set of Snow Teirrs " I'm tellen you all it works everytime.
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Posted: 2/20/2006 4:27:10 PM | Wow lots of posts....
I jts walk up and say hello.....having fun etc.....
I'm not the best looking guy in the world....and I can't remember ever really being shot down.....and I used to go to the bar alot......
The biggest thing is be confident.....not arogent.......My buddies used too love going to the bar with me because Id approach atable full of beautiful women......and my friends would follow......just be nice
Women here enough crap at the bar......Hello.....Hey.....Hoving a good time.....My name is_____.......nice too meet cha.........
at least thats my 2 cents........very few women will be outwardly nasty.......if they r move on | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/20/2006 4:29:37 PM | | you make eye contact and if she makes eye contact back you smile, if she smiles back..walk up to her and say hello..........and dont be a total bonehead!! | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/20/2006 4:49:02 PM | April,
That post gives some of the best advice I have heard, especially the part about waiting till last call to talk to her. I always remember the song "The girls all look prettier at closing time" and don't see it as a compliment that they will wait that long to say hi.
Making eye contact and smiling is great and remember a LOT of us women are too shy to make the first move! | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 8:22:20 PM |
Here's a question for the ladies...my guys friends and I go clubbin' quite often but none of us are able to approach women. We are all mid-20's, good looking, and clueless. How should a guy approach a woman in the bar or anywhere else?
Apparently, a paradigm shift has occurred recently regarding this very topic, as illustrated on TV. The "key" to this is to wear a hopelessly ill-fitting toupe, buy some dentures at that "Dentures in a Day--Just $99" place, dress up in "new" 15-year-old clothes, and then walk up to the lady and proclaim with great suaveness: "Keep it cheesy..." and then hand her a double bacon cheeseburger....
Thank God Burger King is here to give me pertinent advice on scorin' wit da ladies..... | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/21/2006 9:13:52 PM |
you make eye contact and if she makes eye contact back you smile, if she smiles back..walk up to her and say hello..........and dont be a total bonehead!!
This was such an awesome thread to read, but dammit if TCute didn't sum up the entire damn thing in one sentence! Awesome! | |
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Joined: 2/14/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2006 9:03:35 AM | Hey,ok I have a ? regarding the eye contact.Most of you say to make eye contact with each other for a few seconds and smile if she smiles back and keeps making I contact,but here's the thing say you do go over and she blows you off any way whats the deal with that.That would confuse the hell out of me. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 9:45:12 AM | frd302---Being a bartender for 10 years I have seen it all. That method works 90% of the time. If you two have eye contact for a significant amount of time, she won't blow you off. That is pretty much the HINT to have you come over there and talk to her. No cheesy pick-up lines. Those turn women off. When you compliment a woman, NEVER go below the neck (unless you want to compliment her dress ONLY), like her eyes, hair, smile. Most of us aren't mean and evil only a few, you don't need to be nervous to approach a woman.
NOW, what about approaching a man in the bar? What would you men suggest? | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 1:12:20 PM | Addictable this has nothing to do with this thread ,but is directed toward you Iread what you put on the thread and after reading it I just had to check out your profile and I must say damn you are all kinds of beautiful.I am not trying to hit on you ,but just saying
Well with that said I will exit.Send me a message sometime if you like | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 1:42:38 PM | When you're standing in line, strike up a conversation with them. Forget about all the logical approaches because women aren't logical creatures. Just start talking about something abstract. Then get them talking about themselves. Pretend you are a mirror and they can see themselves in you.
When you get to the bartender, ask her what she's drinking, then order two. Pay the bartender, and TIP generously. Then grab both drinks, SLAM one, wink at her and say, See you around. Then walk away. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 2:25:03 PM | | You should just go up to them ask them their name, what do they think of the place, what are they there for (occasion), come here often? buy them a drink before or while the conversation. Ask if she dances, if so ask her to dance, does she smoke? have a smoke with her, send a buddy over, get him to tell her that "my buddy is interested in you" (it worked on my friend last week Feb18/06, told a guy that she was interested, he went home with her) Talk to her like shes one of the guys. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/23/2006 3:04:08 PM | I completely agree with asweet1974. I've also spent a few years as a bartender and a bouncer in my
younger days, thus, I, too, am quite familar with the flirting rituals being played at bars and clubs. First of all, in a noisy and crowded environment with a typically tilted male/female ratio, your look and the way you carry yourself (with confidence, not****ness) will open a lot of doors. If you are good looking, you can get away with the cheesiest lines or the most lewd compliments. It just seems that a "typical" (notice that I'm not making a gross generalization here) woman will just shrug it off as being funny or cute as if your good look can let you get away with murder. Alrighty then, for the majority of those who did not win the genetic lottery, you have to be a bit more subtle. Cheesy lines and risque compliments only work if she is 3 sheets to the wind. Try to make eye contact with the one you are interested in and see if she returns the jesture. If she holds your gaze or quickly looks down and smile, you are in. Just march straight up to her and introduce yourself. If you are really nervous about meeting her, tell her. I'm dead sure that she will adore you for it, since it is the nicest compliment that you can give her. However, if she looks away or looks past you, wait a few minutes, then, try again. If she completely ignore your gaze or gives you finger , move on to the next one. What ever you do, don't send her a drink or offer to buy her one as your opening line. It doesn't reflect well on you. Use your sincerity and confidence to win her, not your money (unless you have lots of it ). I personally
know a lot of women who make a game out of seeing how many drinks they can get guys to buy them.
Please hold on to your hard-earned money and not waste it on these she-devils.
Good luck to yall and thanks for reading. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 3:14:00 PM | | I dont think i can help you cuz guys dont come up to me at bars so if one did i would wonder what they wanted lol Its bad but its true... Most guys go up to my best friend with no problems. Most of them just come up to her and say hi and start dancing then next thing you know they are dancing together. (when she was single) lol | |
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indra
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Joined: 2/19/2006
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/23/2006 4:17:38 PM | The best way to approach a woman in a bar is to do this:
"Good evening. It looks like you ladies are having a great time, I couldn't help but notice the enchanting laughter and decided to investigate the source."
Then just go from there. Inquire about the reason for the lady to be out celebrating. That will lead you into more topics of conversation...she will probably ask you why you are out. That gives you a chance to talk a bit about yourself.
Works everytime, as long as she has been laughing. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 4:23:22 PM | I don't know what it IS with you guys... Put a bunch of guys in a group and they'll eat doughnuts out of a toilet, snort wasabi up their nose and howl obscenities at strippers. Show them a pretty girl in a bar and they:
A-Forget their name
B-Run to the bathroom to jerk off / vomit from fear (hopefully not at the same time
C-Realize that this is THE time to try out all those one liners their half wit Uncle told them worked
Most girls would be more then flattered and receptive if you just walk up to her and say,
"Hi. I think you have the greatest smile/eyes/overall prettiness. Can I buy you a drink? Care to talk? Etc. Etc. Etc."
The clue here is to NOT say something so profoundly stupid that we can't think of a reply without laughing at you. | |
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