| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/23/2006 4:45:51 PM | Never go out on the pull (UK expression, I think). Chat loads, you are not trying to pull, you are just chatting, blokes ugly girls, barstaff, pretty girls, everyone.
You get to know loads people.
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 2/23/2006 5:00:14 PM | I would say a lot depends on the scene and what your goal is....
depending on the type of club.... me and my friends don't mind a free drink and it gets one step closer than say a guy who drinks your drink (being cheap?).....
also again depending on the pace of a club, if its fast and you can move dance, you see a girl alone or with another, its likely theyre waiting for some entertainment, or plainly someone to dance with .... at a bar, which is kind of dull but stilla place to chill, a stranger that has something funny to say, intriguing(not dumb random facts) or exhilerating (depending on what your after).
I go to a lot of latin clubs that play reggaeton, you can get away with a lot there!!
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Posted: 2/23/2006 5:05:22 PM | also I really don't agree with the platonic girlfriend unless you make it obvious you are not with her...
another that I've seen work is if you help a girl out.... like say you see some creepy old man or well anyone you can tell she doesnt want to hang out with, make a diversion, swoop in and say hey shes with me but not too brazen...
one guy said he was by bf and it worked....crazy left and in came someone new | |
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Posted: 2/23/2006 5:10:27 PM | | i think a agree with the pool idea, especially if you're trying to score points in a sexual manner or you want her to think that b/c most of these involve touching... | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 3/6/2006 2:45:42 PM | I've never tried using lines on women in bars. Just seems pretty lame personally.
Usually I just ask them if they want a drink and maybe have a dance; depending on the bar. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 12:33:56 PM | | Now adays women want equal rights ..i'll open a door for a women but she can buy her own drink....why would you go to a bar with no money? 1 looking 4 a guy to buy one or 2 your not there for a drink maybe something else? At any rate if i wanted to approach a women at a bar i start with the classic..hello i'm james:::: Aswell with date rape drugs out there who takes these drinks still? | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 7:34:12 PM | OMG---
O.K.--Say "Hello, how are you?" then if she has been at that bar before, say that you think you saw her the last time. If not, then you say that you haven't seen her here before. Ask her what she thinks of the place, is she with friends, etc. and it should go from there. If she was there before then you can actually ask the same questions. Do not over-compliment her on her looks or she will think you're just looking for a f*ck. Learn the meanings of common names---good ice-breaker as well. Don't try to over-sell yourself, keep it light and casual. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 12:39:00 PM | ^^^^women can smell a come on asking about sooo you here with friends?? might indecate that your looking to have her alone and saying that you think you seen her hear last time sounds to close to Hey don't i know you? Thats a classic chesse line that is well over played Women am i right? Just watch the gal and see whos she with and walk straight up and say hello theres nothing wrong with that most women like a honest straight forward guy just don't be**** if its a dance bar grab the gal thats not dancing and watching her friends and go up and say hi how come your not dancing??? that is a good ice breaker.. (oh i don't know how to dance.) and well la take her up with her friends there..
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Mavrex
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:38:43 PM | The bar scene is a different breed of meet up compared to meeting people elsewhere. Personally I prefer meeting people in more active areas that are part of their lives. Could be at a class we have together, could be while sitting at a pond you head out to think at (I'm a writer so this happens periodically) and she's there walking the dog etc.
Bars ar emore for the physicality let's have a good time deal and a lot of the times it's about hooking up for the night. With that in mind, just be yourself, ask her a few questions to do with her (best to listen to the answers in the event you do get something a little longer term going on, these may come back to bite you in the *ss  ) and buy her a drink. It's a simple process that gets easier every approach you take, just remember that there's always a chance you're going to get shut down. As the name of this site goes though, there's Plenty of Fish out there so just move on and don't take it personally. Bouncing back from the shut down is probably a life skill everyone should acquire, it makes the bar scene a lot more fun since there's always *someone* there you'll get along with.
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:13:37 PM | This is quite an eye-opening thread for me. I never realized how hard it is for guys to approach women.
The one "line" that stands out in my memory was when a man came over to where I was sitting and handed me a packet of sugar. It just said "Sugar". He said, "Excuse me ma'am, I think you dropped your name tag" and walked back over to the bar. Don't you know I was over there talking to him shortly afterwards? | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 4:18:59 PM | 
Guys if you truely want to talk to awoman in a bar... Like they said make eye contact . then just walk right up to her and say "HI". very simple... women are as scared of men as they are of us.... And one sure way to get shot down is to wait til the last dance to ask a women to dance.HAHA | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:04:46 PM | ~*peeking in and taking notes before the NY NY Meet this weekend.......*~ Hmmmm maybe finding a corner to hide in might be the right thing to do....  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 1:29:55 PM | Well as for someone who worked in one 50% of men are there to find a WAM BAM THANK YOU MAMM, but I know that the other 50% want to just get to know you and have a good conversation... But because of the first 50% of men have ruined it for everyone else who are we suppose to know who is who.... Anyway you don't want to date girls you meet in a bar 65% of them are usually bar whores.... So guys just let the lady approach you, since y'all are such a better judge.  | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 9:59:07 PM | Point of curiousity:
Say you notice a lady eating chips at a coffee shop. She has no napkins, so she's rubbing her fingers to get the crumbs off over her chair.
If you just happen to walk by and drop off napkins, how would that be construed? | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 10/24/2006 6:49:46 AM | OP ( Brad Pitt )
Its much easier than you think. Us women are not so hard to figure out, especially in a bar scene. First off, if the gal is in a bar to begin with she is there for a good time. Whatever that good time entails, it probably has something to do with the possibility of meeting a guy. So you are already in a position for the gal to be receptive to you.
Find someone who interests you, give her the casual nod and a smile. How she responds to that will let you know whether to go any farther.
If she seems receptive, wait a lil while, keep an eye on her, see if she has looked over at you again or seems to be looking at you at all. If she is, then casually walk over * Evening, im so and so, offer to buy her a drink.
Most gals who are interested will accept the drink. The gals worth a damn wont take the drink then ignore you. This is where picking the right one to begin with is important. Watch her for awhile before approaching her. See how she handles herself in the bar.
The convo afterwards...keep it light and easy. I always love it when a guy is a lil different. Anyone can ask me about the weather and what I do and what brings me here tonight yadda yadda. Be different.
You might want to ask her her fav color and why. Give her something to think about. How she responds will speak volumes about her.
If you are going for that simple piece of ass and could care less about what her fav color is, then by all means waltz up and flex your muscles, tell her you own a wrestling championship title belt and would she like to wrestle you for it. Wink. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2006 6:57:06 AM | | Well, I go to a karaoke bar and I would'nt mind having a cute guy come up and ask me what song I am going to sing next or ask me to dance. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2006 6:57:53 AM | Just approach her and ask if you can buy her a drink....................simple!! | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 5:50:40 AM | | I have never ever picked up a girl in a bar. I am way, way too shy for that. Also I think it's possible you could send her drinks until the cows come home and she could still end up leaving after last call holding on to another guy. As for asking for a dance, there's at least a 50/50 chance you are going to get shot down. So it's not as easy as everyone makes it sound. Personally, I am no longer into the bar scene for these very reasons, altho a couple of times in the past I'VE been picked up by a woman there. But that was long ago. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 11/8/2006 2:27:21 PM | | I'm not generally the type of girl who picks up guys at the bar....ok, so up until recently, I never was....but the guy I am seeing now I met at a bar....I was with a friend...he just walked up, sat down, ordered a drink, introduced himself and started talking to us.....eventually, I guess, after getting feel for if we were ready to run or not, he invited us to join him and his friends. At that point he bought me a drink. We've been dating ever since.... | |
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Posted: 11/13/2006 4:20:53 AM | When you're slow dancing with someone you don't have to be close enough to polish your belt buckle. I really like to slow dance and see how a woman moves with me, if she has rhytmn(sp?) and is confident and comfortable up close and personal. If a guy is all over you like a big ugly dog or a bad suit,or puts his hands in inappropriate places just walk off the dance floor. Other women will notice this and he will usually be embarassed enough to either leave or at least not bother you again. When a man asks you to dance, he isn't asking you to start planting gardens and raising children with him, it's just a dance and probably won't last much longer than 5 minutes at the most. Give the guy a chance unless he's just totally offensive or obviously drunk. JMO. I have asked women to slow dance and then found them so inept or uptight and uncomfortable that had I not been a gentleman, I would have walked off the dance floor. With me, dancing is just another tool used to determine whether I want to spend more time getting to know a woman. | |
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