| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:44:28 PM | | There is no question here so I wonder if you have simply signed up to brag? What are you asking - if it is wise to date/fall in love with a stipper considering the nature of her work? Depends on the girl - they aren't all addicted to drugs or hooking on the side but I should think such a girl would be rare indeed. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/8/2008 11:35:41 PM |
The question you should be asking is, why would anyone want to date a stripper?
Why? They're less judgmental than most Lutherans I know, for one.
I lived with a stripper for a year when we were in university. She's an obstetrician now.
Fantastic gal, then and still. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:09:46 AM | Back when I was like 19 or 20 I had the hots for a stripper. She was sweet, going to college. We went out a few times and she even moved in for a short time.
She stripped like 5-6 days a week and would come home after work and bytche and cry about how hard her job was and would ask me to give here back and shoulder messages.
I asked her to quit, the money wasn't all that, even with the over time.
We are still friends, she's married 2 kids lives in Flordia, but what ended our bf/gf relationship was ...
She came home every night stinking even after a hot bath or shower. After a couple weeks the apartment even was stinking...
I don't know what kind of chemicals they use getting paint and varnish off antique furiture, but I would never date a stripper again.. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:55:52 AM | | Not yet, but it might be worth a try. My son was dating the daughter of a stripper for a while. One night I went with him to one of his pool tournaments, which happened to be at a strip club where the aforementioned stripper works. We were sitting and having a beer between pool games when this gorgeous naked blonde milf sits right down next to me at our table and starts chatting with us.. The woman is not wearing so much as a stitch and she just sits there talking with us about mundane domestic stuff as she sips her coffee. She reached across the table for the sugar and suddenly both creamy REAL breasts are laying right on my forearm. Talk about an electric jolt. I was glad that I did not have to stand up for a while. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/9/2008 11:50:45 AM | Hmmm...Kinda wonder about "turning" anyone into anything. From the way U phrase things it sounds like the ultimate "Do-It-Yourself Project/Ultimate Make-Over???. Always good to keep an open mind but do U really want to be "fixing" someone??? 
While I don't frequent strip clubs, I like to give "everyone" the benefit of the doubt as my assumption is always to assume anyone to be a good person first...until they prove otherwise...even if it were a stripper.
I've got some unique viewpoints Pg 5 Msg 117 under "exotic dancers" Don't know if I can post this here but this should be the link to that forum thread http://forums.plentyoffish.com/7948330datingPostpage5.aspx
As always, interested in other ppl's viewpoints.
Cheers,
Dave aka BHG  | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/9/2008 12:38:48 PM | I had a stripper for a girlfriend back when I was in the Navy. It was what she did not who she was, actually she was one of the sweetest ladys I have ever known. I started dating her thinking it might turn into some 3-some fun or kinky sex, that didn't happen. When she wasn't on stage she was as normal as any lady I have ever met, she had a wonderful little boy and was a great mom to him. I was a bit on the wild side back then and she actually mellowed me out, by giving me something to care about besides partying. I would have loved to stay with her I would have even married her but I got stationed elsewhere and she didn't want to move.
I have dated a few strippers since and although they are all sweet none got my heart like she did. I also am friends with a lady now that it almost floored me when she said she was an ex-stripper, I mean I thought about dating this girl but she is too "nice" for me. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:27:20 PM | My take is that girls who strip for a living have a personality disorder. They are narcisstic or histrionic. They are manipulative in different ways than men who "use" women for their own purpose ... but this is just the "female" form of a sickness characterized by lack of emotion or concern for anyone except for themselves.
I am surprised the OP wants to date a stripper. Not that they are any better looking or nicer than a regular girl that you can meet somewhere else. Walk down the street. Go to the mall. You will see beautiful girls that won't drop their pants or rub their boobs in some guys face.
So what is the challenge to the OP? You won't change a stripper. They will use you and enjoy it.
You do realize that if you get hooked on trying to "win" someone with this personality disease it will drag you down. Much the same way women keep falling into relationships with men who are abusers or narcisstic or psychopaths. It is not a fun thing.
The challenge is getting away from them. And meeting someone with a heart. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:07:43 PM | i think it might be possible to turn one into a girlfriend but i doubt it would be a problem free relationship.strippers are loose womens.ya im sure u can turn one into a girlfriend but what kind of longterm potential would that have in the long run.
i wouldnt trust that women as far as i could trow her honestly.if a women is open enough to show herself nude to evry strangers what makes ya think she will be faithfull to u? | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:27:46 PM | | Not one leading a perfect life, guys the fair turn around question would be 'could you ever turn a guy that's been to a stripper bar into a boyfriend.' I've made a lot of mistakes, probably more than most of you, but I have to believe that someone can change. Haven't we all made bad choices. You cannot determine the outcome of somebody else's life no more can they chose yours. Maybe with the right partner I think wonderful things can happen, but life is always filled with uncertainties, if you're not willing to explore then how can you ever expect to find true fulfillment. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:43:31 AM | I dated a woman who was a stripper when we dated and to this day she is the former flame that I miss the most. Very intelligent, articulate, attractive and just overall a good person. Her roommates got her involved in the lifestyle and she made some big dollars doing it. It's hard for some young people to see how bad it can be when they are making $1000+ a week and struggling to pay their bills otherwise. And the key phrase is "how bad it CAN be," not will be. If you have a business mindset and can avoid some of the pitfalls, it can be a great job.
Not something I would recommend as a career though.
And then there is the 'judge not lest you be judged' part. If I expect any potential partner to look at me and be willing to overlook some of my human fallacies, then I need to extend to her the same. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:08:24 PM | Frankly, I wouldn't even bother giving her the time of day. I couldn't see myself with someone who takes her clothes off at the drop of a dime for strange men each night.
I'm sure others don't mind that, but to each his own. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:25:34 PM | You can't "turn" anyone into something they aren't.
The unfortunate thing about most women who work/live in that lifestyle is that they see ONE aspect of the male ego on such a regular basis it really ends up taining their whole world view of men in general. In effect, they become "undateable" to normal men, and only those who can break through their shell get the attention. Let's not talk about those guys...
I've got friends that work that work in the industry, and that's all they'll ever be. It's not because they're unatractive, or unfriendly. It is because it's not worth my energy to break through the static of their lifestyle until they realize the pardigm they view men through is a very shallow and skewed one. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 1:07:13 PM | I've fooled around with several strippers... Had a quasi long term on/off FB thing going on with one 15-16 yrs ago... Wound up going out on a cpl dates with one I met at the strip club, but the chemistry wasn't there... Even dated an "ex"-stripper, for about 6-8 months, but she couldn't stay away from the life style and would wind up doing the occasional bachelor party... It wasn't her part-time occupation that so much did us in, although I wouldn't say I was ever comfortable with it, but it was the partying & the drugs that went with it that killed our relationship... It was her admission of doing coke, or drinking with the customers that really bugged me
I say once a girl gets the "stripper" in her blood, it's hard for them to stay away from the excitement it offers... Most strippers I've know were are really nice girls as far as their hearts went, but most had lousy ability to make decisions that usually seemed to revolve around a lot of drama. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 1:17:29 PM | | First off do you want to date her just because she is a stripper (i.e. you just want to be the man to conquer her over all the others) or do you genuinely have strong feelings for her as a person? If it's the former I wouldn't bother trying, if it's the latter, be nice to her, make her feel special, make her want to date you. | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 1:52:19 PM | Funny thread...
It depends on her, I have dated strippers and had one stripper girlfriend before I was married. She was okay, just a regular girl, but most of the strippers I have met are not girlfriend material. Unless you like women that have learned to get things for sex. Above and beyond the ones that get drunk or get drugs, you have the ones that support themselves with it. One I knew, during the time I knew her made exchanges for a dish washer, a set of wheels for her car and so on. They will never admit to being a prostitute however, just as all of the other women in this world who do the same thing that are not strippers. You don't have to be a stripper to be a stripper... | |
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| anyone ever turned a stripper into a girilfriend
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:05:02 PM | | ok ok here is my 2 cents....i have been a bouncer for 13 years and worked in alot of strip bars...there are alot of females that let the stripper lifestyle grab hold of them and wont let go and they end up on very heavy drugs but i also have known alot of strippers that were very intellagent and only danced becouse they liked to dance and its a great way to keep in shape and make money at the same time...so what im trying to say is not all strippers are the same...as for me dating one..im all for it..im not a jelious person as long as she knows where her heart is and i knew where my heart was i dont see a problem..... | |
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| Girlfriend turned stripper
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:17:07 PM | I'm with sam on this one. I'd much prefer she strip only for me lol!
As for the original premise, can't speak to it..except vicariously through a of couple buds.
Most of their flings...ended with drugs, LEO involvement, drama, heart ache.
Money corrupts...esp when connected high-rollers who can easily feed recreational pharmaceutical dependence easily...usually got the girl... | |
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| Girlfriend turned stripper
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:25:39 PM | Well if your going to chance a stripper for your girl friend.
In my opeion the odds of her not being trust worthy is very high.
And if you do luck in your favor your lucky because most of the times trouble dose come in your direction when you try this.
I use to work with the RCMP up here in Canada they told me 98% of strippers are
Porositues ? that work for sex as a living.
And stripping on stage is the one job they can do with out being arrested or put in jail. ?
But over time I mean real soon dance strip clubs will be no more soon any how.
If you pay for a stripper or sex whats the differnce there is none its the same thing.
But to me your just wateing you time with asking them out. | |
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