acasha
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Joined: 6/23/2006
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:49:46 AM | | Wow, I have read 53 of these forum posts now and notsorustyanymore,,,you are the first one who just described me "the bad boy on the outside that actually good on the inside". I have read alot of these where these bad boys are on doing time or on parol. Into drugs and heavy drinking, physically abusive. I don't drugs, drink very lightly and I actually used to be a Lt. in a state penn. probably guarding some of the bad boys these ladies having been talking about. I guess I was reading these to gain some insight of my own. I have a theory that some women see how I dress, expect to find one kind of man, and find the opposite. This was informative. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 10:24:58 AM | | Hmmmmmmmm I've seen this for years. I have tried to be a good man, good father, be good and kind to others......I dont drink , go to Church...........but yet the drunken bozo's end up with the nice gurls. I havent given up........nor will I. Being a therapist/counselor I am the one that they (ladies) come to when things go bad and they are broken hearted. Ladies and Men are addicted or attracted to excitement.........aka bad boys or bad gurls. The downside is.........they have little to offer the other person other than the excitement factor...or good looks. No real feelings.....or connection. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 10:33:08 AM | I couldn't agree or disagree with ya more Petey (tm)... lol
For many BAD BOY/BAD GIRL is an attitude... Same as I claim...
My minor is in Psychology and you're basically right about the excitement factor (not that my life has much at the moment... lmao!)... Anywho, there's STILL a lot left to people than what is SEEN... Never judge the book.... You look the part, yet you don't claim the role. I claim the role, just don't look like I should... wooooooooo hoooooooooooo! | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 4:40:00 PM | I don't find them irresistable at all! Well.... maybe back in high school, but that was so long ago I've forgotten!!
When I grew up, everything I wanted in a man (or even friends) totally changed!
As Petey says... "they have little to offer the other person other than the excitement factor...or good looks. No real feelings.....or connection."
Give me a man that has compassion for others, isn't afraid to show his emotion, treats others with the same kind of respect he wants shown to him, is caring and unselfish with his time, and isn't always looking down the road for the next thing/person that will give him a rush! Combine that with masculinity that isn't always looking to prove how masculine he is.
That's not a "bad boy" and it will turn my head every time!!  | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 5:13:47 PM | | OMFG.... I could only wish to say what I really want to say... but I figure you know what it is... WTF... just ANOTHER chance BLOWN!... LMFAO! | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 5:20:48 PM | From my experience, I went after the "cool" guys when I was younger,then I wised up fast!
We only go after that type of guy, because we think he is so exciting, a daredevil, a rebel, just so cool! Sometimes the nice guy is a nerd who seems so boring. 
We think bad boys live on the edge and know a lot about life.
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Lonie
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Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 85 | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 6:54:41 PM | I'm not the one to answer that for you, Lonie... I know you and don't think you are a bad boy at all!!
Maybe I shouldn't say that... just in case someone here is looking for a bad boy!
OK, Lonie... I take it back. You can be a bad boy if you want to be..... I'm getting soooooo confused! | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:16:19 PM | Ok I have read your post and replays, I have gotten a good laugh, the fact is this... all we have for a fact in life is our moments and memories. We live for each moment and cherish the memories. Bad boys offer both take it or leave it.
P.S. if you know you are going to die tomorrow (family life aside) which would you rather do? Take a walk on the wild side or the straight and narrow! We all die it could be tomorrow.
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/11/2006 8:06:42 PM | Nice guys "do" get the girl, and BadBoys get the girl, too. BadBoys don't alway rule, however BadGirls seem to. Well, sometimes. It also depends on your definition of a BadBoy. Not all BadBoys are shallow self gratifying jerks. Not all nice guys "are" nice guys...some of them can be real jerks. Just depends on one's own perspective.
To me a BadBoy is confident, independant, alive, free, thrilling, adventurous, sexual, and not afraid to express or to follow his desire. And that's how I am as well, and I consider myself a BadGirl.  | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/11/2006 10:38:10 PM | | exactly we really do want a great guy who has that LOOK you know the look. we want someone who looks like he could kick --- to defend us, but who would just as easily be found cuddling and talking to his LADY and lady being the operative word. As much as you men like to think you want the bad girl for lack of a better word, most guys want a real lady. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/12/2006 6:37:20 AM | hey divorced, there is nothing wrong with the way you're dressed in your pic.....you like like you feel comfy just being you. not all men are made for a suit and tie same as not all women are made for dresses or bikinis.
now, why i find a bad boy irresistable? i think it's pretty much easy to answer. most guys with a real bad boy attitude or dress like a bad boy are really sweet, gentle ****cats at heart. some of them even give off an "american badass" attitude until you really get to know them.................
oh, girls, if you're interested or dating a guy that looks like a bad ass, try not to lose him...with him around, he would also intimidate some of the pervs and make them back off. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/12/2006 6:49:01 AM | ponygrl-- you are referring to men that "look" like a bad boy but are not in reality. That's totally different from someone that really IS!
You can be a "bad boy" and not look it, just as you can "look it" but not be it! | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/12/2006 7:37:38 AM | | jackie, most guys with a real bad boy attitude or dress like a bad boy, either way you look at it, whether it's their looks or "attitude" it doesn't mean that they have the heart of a real badass. the biker friends i used to party with were bad boys, but deep down inside, i knew how their hearts felt. that's all i was trying to say. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/14/2006 8:11:13 PM | Yea I can tell you that. I aint one for a guy thats gonna let me run over him. CUZ I WOULD!! I like the man to have the upper hand. He doesn't show you he is totally in love wit you, yet his boys know. He keeps you thinkin' but he's always there to protect you. He's private... but he lets you know. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/21/2006 9:28:35 AM | | I think some nice guys get the girl....There are those of us that like that bad boy irresistable. Myself I go for the bad biker man type! My first love had the long hair, leather jacket, tall biker boots WOW!!!! I've had nice guys but they aren't enough to tame this wild red head! | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/21/2006 11:51:38 AM | I don't think women actually like "bad boys" for what they claim they like them for...
I think many women:
A) Like carelessness - they do not fear rejection from a 'bad boy'. Its actually SAFER than the nice guy!!! They assume they're going to get shyt from the 'bad boy'... and they can blame it on him. Their only fault is that they "liked a bad boy". Right. Behind that masquerade is a whole littany of personal abuse, shaky self-esteem issues, and notable lapses of responsibility.
B) Like to feel superior to the person they are with in some way. They have morals, he doesn't, they have smarts, he doesn't, etc.. They like to mother and take care of -- that's hard to do with someone who's independent and well-adjusted -- what's there to look after and worry about? | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:00:32 PM | I used to go for the bad boys. I wanted the thrill of being with someone who was a little dangerous, who was unpredictable, and most importantly was someone who my parents would hate with a passion. I didn't care about whether or not he had any brains or common sense, or any other real values. I just liked the image of rebellion and independence.
However, bad boys make bad husbands. They make bad fathers. They don't care if they cheat and lie and make you feel like dirt. They don't care about you, period. They aren't responsible, either financially or emotionally. I finally figured that out, after 11 long years and ultimately being left for another woman.
Now that I am older and wiser, I value the good boys. I took a long, hard look at myself and my choices and I finally grew up. I want someone who is smart, educated, responsible, and caring. I want someone who pays his bills on time, goes to work every day, and does what he says he will do. I want someone that I can respect and trust and love without the fear of being used and abandoned.
Danger and unpredictability are not sexy to me any more. What's sexy to me is somebody who cares as much about me and my needs as he does for himself, both in and out of bed. Sexy is someone who will take care of me when I'm sick, who will be home when he says he will be, and who will remember my birthday. I deserve that and I won't settle for anything less. | |
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| Why do we find the bad boys irresistable??
Posted: 8/21/2006 4:33:21 PM | I think we have one of those bad boys we find irresistable right here girls PartnerInCrime72
I tried the nice guys and they just aren't as much fun or exciting..... | |
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