| IS LOVE A REAL THING?
Posted: 1/20/2005 2:51:44 AM | | lol me too, too bad it never works. i always end up unsatisfied while the guy sleeps. then they wonder why i'm so cranky the next morning. | |
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| IS LOVE A REAL THING?
Posted: 1/20/2005 3:02:32 AM | lmao...promises promises....these days it's easier for me to do it myself
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| IS LOVE A REAL THING?
Posted: 1/20/2005 3:02:33 AM | | Ok???? So I was thinking????? You guys can swap E-mails now ..Go ahead | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 3:04:51 AM | thank you daddy for your permission.
jesus can't even kill some time on the boards. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 6:53:58 AM | | It's time you picked a real man Princess. A real man ensures that his lady is fully satisfied. A real man knows she's capable of multiple orgasms and it should be his quest to bring his lady there as often as possible. There is nothing sadder than an unfulfilled lady in the morning. | |
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| IS LOVE A REAL THING?
Posted: 1/20/2005 7:39:10 AM | | Love is not how you feel during the good times but how you feel and react during the badtimes. Most fail during the bad times | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 11:08:27 AM | | what happen to the message board! wow ppl talk about off track! ne ways i agree w/ a lot of what some people have said although here is the thing... I have been so scard it like what one of u said it one thing to say ur over it its another to actaully be over it... ne ways guys u all are a big help and i am pretty sure something will happenin i will be sure to keep u all updated.. as matter of fact right now i am having 2nd thoughts about the relationship b/c i don't wanna be hurt again but i am hoping it will pass otherwise i am gonna lose the best thing i ever had in my life! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 3:48:46 PM | | Love is elusive but real... at least the pain it can cause sure is. It can be at first sight as well as a gradually growing realization. The harder you seek it- the more invisible it remains, until it hits you right between the eyes and you wonder how you ever lived it without it. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 6:39:56 PM | GOD IS LOVE - Have to put my vote in for faithfulfulness and fidelity and 'honoring ones choices as it has been said. Feelings come and go but true love sticks with it. Love is a committment heart to heart.  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 9:04:00 PM | | When both partners live the Love virtual reality they feel it real, otherwise one of them will suffer of its fictionalization. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2005 3:36:45 AM | I just broke up with my boyfriend 3days ago, it was a long term & sounded alot like the one you went through...i was scared reading that 'took 2yrs to move on' i didnt even consider that it would take me that long.
I dont hate him, in fact we still talk, but every day is a battle that I just want to get over...so im hoping for my life to get better each day...and definitely not looking for love because im still in love with him...maybe thats what you mean....still in love but doing whateve it takes to get over him? | |
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| IS LOVE A REAL THING?
Posted: 1/21/2005 12:14:34 PM | There sure are a lot of folks on this thread who are skeptical about Love.
(I posted this on another thread, however since the topic has come up again:)
What is Love?
“ Five feet of heaven and a pony tail. The cutest pony tail that sways with a wiggle when she walks.” Ok. You know where my socialization process started.
Leo Buscaglia (my favorite author on the subject of Love) asks us to consider the following:
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"I believe that Love is a learned phenomenon.
Each of us lives Love in our limited fashion. We do not seem to relate the resultant confusion and loneliness to our lack of knowledge about Love. Most of us continue to behave as though Love is not learned but lies dormant in each being and simply awaits some mystical age of awareness to emerge in full bloom. Many wait for this age forever.
If you wanted to become an auto mechanic, you would study diligently about automobiles.
If you wanted to become a gourmet cook you would study the art of cooking and perhaps attend a cooking class.
Yet, it never seems as obvious to us that if we want to live in Love, we must spend at least as much time as the mechanic or the cook in studying Love. No mechanic or cook would ever believe that by “willing” the knowledge in the field, they’d ever become experts in it.
There are those who will dismiss Love as a naïve and romantic construct of our culture. Others will wax poetic and say “Love is all,” “Love is the birdcall and the glint in a lover’s eye on a warm summer night.” Some will be dogmatic and say that “God is Love.” And some according to their own unique experience , will say that “Love is a strong, emotional attachment to another…” etc.
You may find that some people have never thought of questioning Love, much less defining it, and object, violently even, to the suggestion that they think about it. To them Love is not to be pondered, it is simply to be experienced.
I believe it is true, to some degree, that all of these statements are correct, but to assume that any one is best or all there is to Love, is rather too simplistic.
Consider the following premises:
“One cannot give what one does not possess.
To give Love you must possess Love.”
“One cannot teach what one does not understand.
To teach Love you must comprehend Love.”
“One cannot know what one does not study.
To study Love you must live in Love.”
“One cannot appreciate what one does not recognize.
To recognize Love you must be receptive to Love.”
“One cannot have doubt about that which one wishes to trust.
To trust Love you must be convinced of Love.”
“One cannot admit what one does not yield to.
To yield to Love you must be vulnerable to Love.”
“One cannot live what one does not dedicate oneself to.
To dedicate yourself to Love you must be forever growing in Love.”
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What is Love? Love is an energy extension of Beauty. It is an almost automatic emotional (emotions are powerful energy transmitters) response to things that we perceive as beautiful. Truly, each of us has our own ideas about what is beautiful, yet the characteristics we ascribe to them are very similar.
It doesn’t really matter about specific characteristics, what does matter is that we focus on those characteristics to the extent that we begin to feel that euphoric attraction to the object of our attention. We began to feel Love for that beautiful rock, or tree, or animal or person.
Expanding on this feeling (and getting very vulnerable here) we begin to give and receive Love Energy through our focus. We connect in a way that is almost orgasmic.
A connection of the Spirit and through this connection a conduit opens to the "Universal Source of Love". “Whenever two or more of you are gathered in my name, there will I be also.” (Sorry, I like to be legitimized! )
We give Love with no thought of receiving even as we realize that others may still be learning and that this, too, is wonderful. We focus on their Beauty and awaken them to their own self worth even if they move away from us. This is Love and Love is REAL. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2005 12:22:40 PM | rheana!!!!! God Girl You have some real pent up anger,Who hurt You so bad for You to feel like that,Bastard should be shot,Who used You as a door mat..Sounds like he ripped Your heart out of Your chest,Threw it in a blender and hit frape......Someone so Pretty so angry,"Redbreasted Robin in a cage puts Heaven in a Rage" Love is to Far and deep and Profound to try to expalain,If the person Your with in a realationship does not make You feel,something or if Your asking the question to begin with ,Somthing is wrong.
There is nothing like that very first Love in life,It's the one we never forget,and when it is over it hurts like Hell,After that we never love the same again..Each new person that comes into our Life we Love differently....hope this helps.. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2005 12:23:21 PM | i got to line 3 and couldn't go on. I hate long threads when I don't have my Aderrall. Blah....i need someone to summarize stuff for me  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2005 12:37:03 PM | here is my thoughts on love (sorry about my spelling im dislexic)
love is a deep look in to my eyes a gental touch of his hand on my face a soft kiss that makes all time stand still his sweet words that make my heart leap the feeling i get when i see his smile the lump in my througt when he says "I miss you babe" and on the other hand love is also the pain of not knowing his he realy there and does he care a much as i for him love is wonderful and love at the sametime is horrable it ties you up in notts sets you free makes you happy and makes you cry but that is just my opinion | |
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Posted: 1/22/2005 12:11:16 PM | | Wow i am really glad everyone who has posted a reply you all have such different defintition and its quite over love is real? How many ppl have fall in love and gotten hurt? | |
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Posted: 1/22/2005 12:22:35 PM | Of course is real, last time I was in love when the relationship was over I lost 10 kilogramns, all the paint that you feel went you are dump is real.
Another question would be if love is good or bad??
What is better to be in love and be happy for a while infatuated, and after be dumped with a lot of paint, or just never had experimentated this sensation.
The true is that when u are joung you have the tendence to have a lot of confidence in people and as older as you get you believe less people and to take the risk into a new relationship is more difficult.
But to get experience is always good. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2005 12:26:10 PM | | Fell in love at 16 and the guy broke my heart....followed him to the same college and he treated me like so badly and I let him..again...and again and again. Four years later I had figured out what he was like...but it didn't stop it hurting. Since then I have never really let anyone that close to me again - close but always been in control - not let anyone - my soon-to-be-ex-husband included - in close enough to break my heart like that again. I totally believe in love, want it, but at the same time am terrified of it - terrified of being out of control and unable to imagine my life without that person..... | |
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Posted: 1/22/2005 3:37:21 PM | | To answer funfemale's question...I think anyone that has ever fallen in love has felt it's pain. Even those fortunate enough to still be with their first love has most likely been hurt at some point in the relationship. We are much more succeptable to someone hurting us when all our defenses are down. I'm not going to lie...In the past I have really hurt a couple women that did nothing wrong except love me. Poetic justice did occur because the same thing eventually happened to me. I truly wish I could at least have an opportunity to apologize to those I've wronged in my wild past. I think my inability to find that special someone is cosmic restitution for past crimes. Love can definitely be a bitter pill... | |
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Posted: 1/23/2005 5:32:45 AM | | Well, lets see here......try approaching your romantic relationships the way you would if you were hiring a partner to help run a business....that way if they dont do the job well enough, you wont feel bad, you just fire them and hire a newer more attractive (i mean more qualified) person...ahem. | |
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| IS LOVE A REAL THING?
Posted: 8/10/2008 3:53:01 AM | Yes.
Anybody whom has taken an intro to psychology course knows about how a group of new born ducks will follow whomever or whatever they first saw upon their birth. This phenomena is called imprinting.
Sadly, these manner of IMPRINTING instincts are exploited and diluted of meaning by everyone as a method of manipulation in our current low brow rapping culture, from the advertising executives in the big New York Marketing firms to the so called third wave lipstick feminists whom offer pole dancing lessons at the local YMCA for suburban soccer moms whom want professionals to teach them how to SIMULATE lust. | |
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