Hezron
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/30/2006 3:09:00 PM | | Pure physical chemistry is all about the pheremones. we have little say in which mixture will drive us absolutely insane. It is one of the real mysteries and treasures in life. men are very visual to be sure...but I know I have been with visually amazing women and they sometimes have really not ended up turning me on all that much...and yet someone else for reasons you can't describe...one kiss and your entie brain turns to goo. One of the problems with pheremone attraction is that, like all drugs, your receptors do build up a tolerance level...so the same pheremones that once drove you mad...well after a while they don't work the same anymore. Then somebody else comes along and we feel that chemistry again and we think oh..this is what is missing and we leap...then the same thing happens...new pheremones...old pheremones...it can be a truly frustrating battle. This is why long term relationships need to be based on other things...and your sexual chemistry can become much greater even when the rush of a new lover is over, through learning and an increasing sense of intimacy...but there is nothing like those first mad cap rip your clothes off and scream like a freak pheremone tidal waves.....:) | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/30/2006 5:42:03 PM | I agree...its overrated and possibly the most questioned facet of men-women interaction.
Face it ....before I started fishing here, I rarely heard of the "C" word and what it has to do with how guys and gals get along.
Just the word "chemistry" reminds me of experiments.
Far too many ladies here expect a chemical reaction at that first meeting...an immediate
reaction much like a chemistry experiment.
Thing is ...not all chemical reactions are immediate and complete.
The "C" word makes the first meeting seem like a lab experiment! | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/30/2006 7:30:44 PM | I think chemistry between 2 people lies in the commoness of their thoughts, behaviours and beliefs. That feeling of being "comfortable" around your partner.
This can happen instantly if both people are knowledgeable of non-verbal expressiveness...hence the "comfortable" feeling commences and grows from there.
It can also happen after a period of time, this is usually for people who are less trusting and/or who have been hurt by previous experiences. Once the initial investigation (does your potential partner succeed/fail according to your standards....i.e) smoker,animal lover,kids, etc....) is finished, the doors begin to open and the thoughts, behaviours and beliefs go back and forth between partners. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/30/2006 10:33:34 PM | I don't think is only pheremones, or something chemical, its more like an intense vibe that passes between you. How else could you look across a room full of people and feel the zap on first eye contact?
One thing about it, I think its impossible to have on the net. It requires the physical presence to kick in. I'm curious, anybody ever had it happen on webcam, and what was that like if so? | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 9/28/2006 9:08:38 PM | Chemistry between a man and a woman would be that electrical charge you get going up and down your spine that results in that weak in the knees feeling when you are within 35 ft of that person you have "chemistry for". Chemistry is not absolutely essential in a relationship, but in a romatic relationship is highly desired. There can really be no true romance with someone you have no chemistry for. I believe chemistry is absolutely essential for a romantic relationship that will progress to sexual relations. Sure, there are many couples that marry who have no "chemistry". These are the couples that were probably "friends" for many months before becoming romantically involved. These non-chemical romances usually end up with very little excitement in the bedroom. These non-chemical couples as I call them, often make wonderful friends, good partners and may work very well together. BUT....they don't have much of a sex life together. Which is sad. Very sad. Good sex is an essential part of a relationship, and without it, the full potential of the relationship can not be reached. ( Often fertility problems arise.)
So of course, chemistry is paramount! Couples should be turned on by one another. And at an equal level of chemistry between both of them.
But the other question would be, WHAT is it exactly that provokes that "chemical" attraction? I can only speak for myself. I would say physical appearance accounts for about 25% of the whole total chemical package. Another 20% or so would be the way a guy a moves. Another 20% the tone, depth, pitch of his voice. The remaining 35% is his behaviour, attitude, demeanor, what he says, when he says it, how he says things, the things he doesn't say, etc. Then there are many other things I probably don't even consciously recognize as provoking that "weak in the knees" feeling. Maybe pheromones, who knows? Alot of it is very hard to understand. But i'm sure mother nature knows what she is doing. If you want to be romatically involved with someone there must be chemical attraction from both sides. Well at least I think so. If you want to get married and have biological children you better be hot for him and he better be hot for you! And besides what good is a romantic relationship without really great sex???
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 9/29/2006 6:21:55 AM | | IMO, if you think "chemistry" is over rated, then you've never experienced it. Yes, it is possible to be attracted to someone without "chemistry", but it is just not the same. I really even hate calling it "chemistry", because this type of attraction really can't be explained with mere nomenclature. You could call it simpatico, "going ga-ga", kindred spirits, being on the same wave length, etc., but, again, mere words are inadequate. Once you experience it, you will definitely understand. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 2/25/2008 2:30:43 PM | When lover's gaze at one another, you can 'see their CHEMISTRY.
When they interact, you can 'feel' their CHEMISTRY.
After they make love, you can 'smell' their CHEMISTRY.
When they profess love for each other, you can 'hear' their
CHEMISTRY.
YET...no one can DEFINE ..CHEMISTRY! | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 2/25/2008 4:41:08 PM | | What is chemistry? Honestly, it's just another hip term used by the single masses to describe what happens so rarely that it's almost like describing a unicorn. 99% of the time, chemistry is a description of unfulfilled wishes, emotions gleaned from movies, TV, and books, and other fantasias. Apparently chemistry is the prerequisite for any romantic attachment, serious or not, and chemistry can be determined within seconds, if not minutes of meeting someone. The hilarious mysticism of chemistry makes me honestly wonder why we should bother dating! Let two prospective partners meet each other at the mall, stand 30 feet apart for 30 seconds and then decide if they want to meet again. After all, that's all it takes to determine chemistry. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/10/2008 2:52:54 PM | | Chemistry seems to start at the physical level. Often women are looking for this chemistry off a digital picture to determine if their is a connection which to me is rediculous. Let call it what it really is " PHYSICAL ATTRACTION". You maythink you have chemistry with a person but then they have a conversation with you and you realize that it takes more than just chemistry to start and survive a relationship. Chemistry is overly used by women and is used as crutch to say no instead of just saying I am not attracted to you. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/10/2008 2:53:04 PM | | Chemistry seems to start at the physical level. Often women are looking for this chemistry off a digital picture to determine if their is a connection which to me is rediculous. Let call it what it really is " PHYSICAL ATTRACTION". You maythink you have chemistry with a person but then they have a conversation with you and you realize that it takes more than just chemistry to start and survive a relationship. Chemistry is overly used by women and is used as crutch to say no instead of just saying I am not attracted to you. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/12/2008 4:04:19 PM | Chemistry between and man & a woman is when she agrees to put out if you pay for it... and when he is willing to pay for it and you both go ahead with it and the transaction is even. No one rips off anyone. You shake hands after it's done and never see each other again and neither of you care.
... that's chemistry in the Y2K
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/13/2008 10:02:24 AM | I haven't had chemistry with too many people. There has never been that much in common with the other person. They have a different personality then me and different interests. They smoke, drink, or do drugs. I am not interested in either.
Or they are mean people and can't be trusted. Frankly, I'd rather stay single then be miserable with the wrong person. | |
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