| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:01:45 AM | this may be off topic, all I see is a woman who has a jerky boyfriend, and the nice guy always get the line( you will find the right one). but everything in the world is under the law of attraction, that is how it is and how it will always be. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:44:15 PM |
true chemistry is rare!
I've only had it a twice in my life.
both times had nothing to do with sex! Not even a thought about it, just being beside them.
it's a "glow " you feel inside
you smile thinking about them
it can turn the most confident person into a stuttering fool
you light up when they walk in a room
minutes seem like forever, and forever seems like minutes
I totally agree! mental chemistry is the cats meow~_* | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 3/16/2008 7:09:55 PM | | When I was a teenager I was standing with a group of people talking in a Mall. I felt this strange sensation that someone was looking at me. I turned around and saw the most amazing girl I have ever seen. There was pure electricity running between us. I felt hypnotised. I went over and met her. We dated for a while. I was a stupid kid but I thought I had indeed found my soulmate. I don't know what her thoughts were about it but she ended up breaking up with me. I have never had that happen again, and I have never married, though I have dated some great women. It has just never worked out. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 4/6/2008 9:38:51 AM | I asked my sister if there was chemistry between her and her husband - she said, "Nawh, we just have fun together." They have been married 14 years, 3 kids. I'm guessing not a passionate relationship, but it has worked.
Chemistry is an element - nice to have, but is it something we want, or more importantly, something we NEED... | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:35:46 PM | O.P.
yes. but thats only physical attraction which is great for sex but not relationships.
for a relationship, i still ned some sort of a spark, at least a little bit of physical attraction, but also need chemistry in personalities. and by that i dont mean hobbies or activities. i cant quite explain it either, but my favorite is when my partner "completes" me.
also, as much as peopel on here shy away and look for perfection without baggage, i dont mind emotional baggage because when i help someone get over theirs it creates a deeper emotional connection, which in longterm is far more beneficial then not having one because you two were already perfect. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 4/7/2008 4:17:52 PM | I find sometimes Chemistry can happen over time..not in most cases but in some cases. The last 2 women I had long term relationships with insisted that they just wanted to be friends with me...that changed over time.
In most cases it seems to happen quicky but when it fades quickly what happens? Maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high...aas asociety we do ont work on our current relationships but instread look for someone that we have "better chemistry with." | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:26:12 AM | Here`s the scientific explanation but I agree viagara helps when chemistry wears off
Its biochemistry
The idea that an angel is behind love at first sight makes meeting someone new seem like magic or something out of a fairy tale. However, that is not the case and it actually has everything to do with hormones. When you’re ready and willing to fall in love, many chemical reactions take effect in your body: your sense of smell captures the pheromones emitted by the man, phenethylamine takes over your brain and dopamine kicks into action!
The 3 hormones
Let’s break down the technical jargon into what, exactly, the following hormones do:
Pheromones are chemicals that are produced by glands located in the underarms, around the nipples, and in the groin area. They are invisible and have no odor, and are captured by the vomeronasal organ, also part of the olfactory system. Two of the main sexual pheromones are androstenol, found in fresh male sweat, and copulin, found in vaginal secretions. They play a huge role on whether or not two individuals are attracted to one another.
Phenylethylamine (PEA) is a hormone responsible for the state of euphoria you get the moment you fall in love. At that moment, you produce a large amount and its effects are on par with the feeling of a drug high or partaking in extreme sports. It has been shown that when two people fall in love, their PEA levels are the same. This explains partly why you can spend all night talking or making love. These hormones also activate hyperactivity and reduce your appetite.
Dopamine is triggered by the PEA and reinforces behaviour that gives you pleasure and satisfaction. When a happy event occurs, dopamine sends a signal to your brain which makes you feel as if you’re in a state of euphoria, in turn making you want to relive the experience. It is then that a feeling of “love” occurs. You can never get enough of seeing the other person!
Its dangers
Be careful: love at first sight is only temporary. This feeling of joy lasts only a brief period, as your body slowly gets used to the PEA. For some, this means the end of the couple and the search for another flame. Others can count on hormones like oxytocin and endorphins for the couple to have staying power and to find happiness without the euphoric sensation. These have the same effects as morphine, bringing calm, soothing pain and reducing anxiety. They are what help you live with another person, all the while retaining your own identity.
Of course, a loving relationship isn’t just a hormone-filled mathematical equation and, while its scientific background isn’t very sexy, it’s ultimately up to you whether you want the romantic explanation to supersede the logical one! | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 4/12/2008 1:38:51 PM | | I totally agree with Zen, I just recently got out of 17 year relationship , and being off and on for years, we could never leave each other alone, over and over, because of that chemistry, that physical attraction that brought us together in the first place, which only intensified over the years, when he walks in a room, i melt, when i walk in a room, bam, lol, we've even many times been broke up, and still never stray far, because of the deep passion that forms with that chemistry, i knew the minute i met him, he knew the minute he met me, chemistry is something that forms in the first few seconds or minutes of an encounter between two people, if there's no chemistry between two people, then they most likely don't click, and will not be attracted to each other..........but we didn't give each other a chance to form the rest of what makes a healthy relationship, the friendship, the communication, so that chemistry was all we had, makes for a great sexual relationship between two people, but it takes more than that to last a lifetime, no one has ever compared to what we shared, on either parts, if we would've had the rest of the package, we would have made a great team for eternity........................ | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/15/2008 11:40:44 AM | Chemistry is when you can actually feel your heart smile.
I've read that a persons scent/pheromones have a lot to do with whom we choose to mate with. I totally agree with 'the scent of a man' and 'the scent of a woman'.
I catch myself inhaling the essence of my man and it gives me somewhat of a high feeling, and a sense of calmness. I always joke about sex being like a giant Valium....but its true.....maybe its the closeness. A feeling of security, I guess.
Personally, I think its the Old Spice.
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:44:24 PM | Chemistry is that spark, the butterflies in stomache. It is a tingle from just the thought of the other person.
A relationship can develop from a friendship where there is not really chemistry and a true fondness grows out of the friendship.
However, a relationship that also has chemistry, well it certainly keeps things interesting and provoking. Once you experience it, it's is hard to settle for less.
Mary | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/15/2008 5:28:57 PM | | I had an experience very similar to nina2469's. Sadly, it didn't last 17 years. I hope and pray every day that we can find our way back to each other. I have to assume we won't and move forward, but that sense of loss is really terrible. I know how rare that electricity and incredible compatability is, I really wonder if it is possible to find it twice. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/15/2008 7:20:40 PM | Good chemistry is a damned REQUIREMENT!
It's also dangerous as all heck because a lot of women confuse it for love...when it's just a major hormonal Surge...many other things need to be right for it all to work out just right :)
But if the lovin' ain't good...expect to be Clintonized. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/16/2008 8:41:12 AM |
I think Chemistry is over RATED....overestimated.
As humans...is it possible to be attracted to someone without 'chemistry'????
'chemistry' is a wholly made up concept among 20th century western women. Look in your history books and you will find it did not exist until now, and this is even counting the Romantic period when people gushed on about loving each other.
There are people who I love and care for in my life and would do anything for. However I did not suddenly feel drawn to these people the moment I met them. The few strong lasting relationships I have known developed along similar lines. They did not jump each other the moment they met and expect the hormone storm to last forever. This is why women who swear on about chemistry are incapable of any real lasting commitment, the moment the glow of their initial attraction wears off they no longer feel any need or reason to stay. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:23:11 AM |
They did not jump each other the moment they met and expect the hormone storm to last forever. This is why women who swear on about chemistry are incapable of any real lasting commitment, the moment the glow of their initial attraction wears off they no longer feel any need or reason to stay.
This may be true if your definition of "chemistry" is rudimentary physical lust. For me, chemistry runs much deeper than mere physicality; it is a deep mutual compatibility of many, many different characteristics, elements and traits, (i.e., an extreme compatibility of psyche). Not everyone views “chemistry” as limerence or carnal in nature. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:57:27 PM | | Sorry my definition is in watching how women behave when they talk about their 'chemistry'. I'm sorry it's not vague and irrational enough to meet the nomenclature needs of a woman. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/16/2008 8:07:41 PM | | There can be an attraction. I once met someone on line who I was attracted to, or at least thought I was. He has a great personality, sexy voice, infectious laugh, just a great guy overall. Thing is, I finally met him and.........nothing, no spark whatsoever. Guess I should have just left things as they were, oh well. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 8/16/2008 11:21:58 PM | | When you meet someone and there is an instant energy before you know their name. That is chemistry. When you can close your eyes and feel that person walk around a room - that is chemistry. | |
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