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Posted: 1/29/2006 6:00:17 AM | Yes, you ARE a magnet for women that get hurt and the losers that surround them
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER
edit: By the way, I'm a born & raised Calgarian, lived here all my life (most of my adult life single) and I've never been assaulted in any way and neither has any of the women I know) | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 6:49:43 AM | Perhaps the reason all you see and hear is negative - is because that's all you want to see and hear. Get over the generalizations and crap and move on. If you dwell on bad things that's what you draw to yourself. It sounds like you're getting something out of the sob stories you're hearing. You can't always be the shoulder to cry on. It becomes too draining.
Everybody's got a story about something bad that happened to thema t some point and time in their life. They either play the victim or they deal with it, move on, accept it as part of their past and become stronger for it. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 7:06:44 AM | I do hear what you're saying, and I felt exactly the same way when I was in my 20's in Saskatoon, listening to some of the stories the girls had.
I know now that I was an angry guy to begin with, and that bad feelings are like magnets, they attract eachother.
If you really want to help, I found it's better to just 'be there,' as they say. Compassion and simple attention will go a long way to rebuilding self worth.
And there's nothing stupid about it, just human... | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 8:31:43 AM | [Does not matter where you come from. There are abusive people whereever you live]
Exactly! It's highly dependent on socio-economic background and upbringing - did they see their mother/father being abused as a child? Is that what they now see as a norm for treatment of people in their lives? You get help, giver or receiver of the abuse, and break the cycle. You don't put yourself into situations where abuse will follow.
To say that any one province breeds abusive a$$holes is to say that the borders are closed, and you can't move across the country. People move! And they bring their backgrounds with them... | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 9:39:00 AM | Know what? I have to agree with trvlingman. There are a lot of a$$holes out there but it's just not guys nor is it only Alberta. I travel a lot myself and I've met a lot of people, there are differences between everyone maybe a guy from Alberta may seem deceitful to you. But maybe that’s because their not like the guys your used to where your from, turd tapping queer flogger land.
I will say this, I get a lot of emails from the west coast and the girls there seem much sweeter and genuine there. Their straight up about their feelings and won't play games with you.
If you ask me it's the game that killed everything in the dating world that was good and decent and there’s no respect for the non game players. Probably the girls that you have come to know are so scared of their feelings or what ever it is that makes them start the game that it wasn’t the guy who hurt them or maybe it was you giving them sh!tty advice. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 11:14:33 PM | | Wow - I think the title of this thread sums the entire thing up, though I have NO clue what the OP was talking about - he lost me about mid way through. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2006 12:32:55 AM | I'm just stupid...
but, good guys come from the east coast... and most of them live here in Alberta...
heheh.. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 7:44:04 PM | | Its all a matter of perspective and each person's interpretation of being a "good guy" JMO | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 8:37:54 PM | Funny.......I always thought all the guys were GAY and all the women were LESBIANS..... .......WOWSERS.....you should see the people I hang with...uh huh........lets me see....I 've been going out for lattes, playing pool, darts, bowling.. oh what else....oh yea sushi, movies.........YEP!!! .....THEY WERE ALLLLLLLL GAY OR LESBIAN!!! 
EDIT: whoops before I get into trouble.....just want to state....not that there is anything worng with that !!! .....LOL | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 8:50:27 PM | uuuuuuuhhhhhhh... didn't you go out for lattes, playing pool, darts, bowling?
Not that there is anything wrong with that.
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Posted: 1/31/2006 9:11:06 PM | hmm......YES I did! oh ....my gosh........no wonder muddy bottoms turn me ON.....am I in ALBERTA???
and my voice is getting lower and lower....and I think I am growing an outtie  .....omg.....its all those lies I tell people....ya know, the sad stories of abusive muddy bottoms......where is Seymourbush these days?...... ......getting back on track with the thread  ........umm errr.....does that sound stupid or what? | |
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