| Finding out what you do for a living ceases conversation......
Posted: 1/27/2005 12:39:18 PM | | As long as someone is living their dream and has GOALS in life. I have a great job and I make good money. Is it my dream? No, but I'm HAPPY where I work and my dream to have my own company one day will most likely come true. One guy I started talking to was living with his parents (at 37 yrs old) and working on and off because he said he had been sick last year (pneumonia I think) for like 3 weeks or something. How long is he going to milk that one? I'm a driven person and I work hard. All I'm looking for is the same. I've found that when I date someone that's NOT like me, they get all insecure and say that my job is more important than them. When in all honesty, I think they're jealous because I'm happy and I'm successful. I'm tired of having to DEFEND the fact that I'm independent and driven. And by the way, the ONE ex that constantly told me that I loved my job more than him, never ONCE offered to come take me to lunch (but would go out with his friends for 2-hour lunches and movies during the week) but then would moan and complain when I had an evening meeting last until 7pm EVEN THOUGH I would go straight to his house to see him after, no matter how tired I was. He always complained. That's why he's my ex. I told him when HE paid MY BILLS then he could moan and complain, but until then he needed to shut his mouth. What's so sad is I REALLY loved him, but he was SO insecure all the time (and lazy too actually) that it ruined whatever we could have had. Oh well... I tried. | |
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| Finding out what you do for a living ceases conversation......
Posted: 1/27/2005 7:15:23 PM | | That should never be asked at the beginning but for a second date maybe. I dont need anyones money. Hell I would even be their sugar.....thing. LOL, but the person I am with should have goals and be attaining atleast some of them. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2005 1:38:50 PM | constantly told me that I loved my job more
ive come across that a couple of times. one was my ex wife another was an ex g/f. for the last 3 years i have been working 2 jobs and when the bosses call saying its time to go to work i go. but the exes just couldn't understand that i'm not going to work some part time job and let my bills pile up without me giveing it my d*mnedest effort to get ahead. they say the money didn't matter but it did i was working 7days aweek and just barely stayed above the water line. alls i wanted was to be able to take the time off so that i could be with them. but they couldn't wait so here i am. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 9:50:06 PM | | Pooper scooper is a good one! Sometimes it is a good idea to downplay what you do, and where you live. I have found that there are certainly some who are out for $$$. It's best to take time and find out who you're with and what theyre like before showing financials. | |
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| Finding out what you do for a living ceases conversation......
Posted: 3/7/2005 12:29:08 AM | what if someone's goals in life aren't career related?
see, for me, a job is just there to pay the bills. there's no such thing as a "career i enjoy". the things i enjoy doing are having fun, not something someone's going to pay me for, and even if it was, if i was under pressure to do them 40 hours a week, i quickly would come to the point where i didn't enjoy it anymore.
does this mean i'm not passionate about anything? not at all. i'm passionate about having fun. jobs and careers are so you can make money with which to have fun. the trick is still having enough time to have fun after spending so much of it trying to make the money one needs to survive and the money one needs to have fun.
the best career i can hope for is one that doesn't totally suck, pays enough that i can live reasonably comfortably (not asking much, a cheap apartment, the bills a little to save for emergencies, and some for entertainment), and doesn't consume too much of my life. but honestly, there's no way i could ever be passionate about a career.
am i the only person who feels this way? how come it seems girls all want some "career guy" whose life is defined by their work? | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 5:09:30 AM | | When I tell people about my job right now and that I am looking for something better, they run. Hey I could not help it that I was let go due to the economy or that my franchise fell through thanks to the owners of the company disbanded it. I mean when you need $$$ you get a job and try to find something better, right? | |
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Citan
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Joined: 12/19/2004
Msg: 87 | |
| Finding out what you do for a living ceases conversation......
Posted: 3/7/2005 5:56:43 AM | ^^^ Yea Thats right!
I was wondering, so my job is a "student" but I met someone and she askes me,"So what are your goals in life?"
I said," Well, I'm going to go study for a Major in International Studies with a BA in International Business, and a Masters degree in Mandarin Chinese (Modern Standerd Chinese)."
Never heard from her again...
Is there something conversation halting about that goal? I mean I always thought that was pretty d*mned impressive myself....
Also, I don't really think the job should be an issue, I mean... sure I bet it's wierd to find out your new man is an OBGYN or your new lady is a Telecom Psychic, but hey.. you gotta try new things and be open to new experiences right?
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Posted: 3/7/2005 7:03:10 AM | | The thing is that if you can take care of yourself, then what's the problem? If someone is underlooking your job, then that is most unfortunate, you can't smear it to them in the face, just leave and save yourself all the need to explain yourself and how you ended up there, coz she or he doesn't deserve the explanations. You might be working yourself to death and someone underlooks your job, that wouldn't be fair to you, just leave because chances are that this person will underllok you all the time and try to boss you around. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 7:51:10 AM | | yes, if i find out he is dealing drugs, or a pimp/gigalo, is a cop, a model, a chippendale dancer, works at a fast food joint, or a taxi driver,....forget it! call me shallow if you want but that's just my own preference. | |
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mudbug
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Joined: 2/15/2005
Msg: 91 | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:29:05 AM | ok, i understand about drug dealer, pimp, chippendale dancer...
and i think i understand about cop (in danger all the time)
but why would you look down on a guy who works at a fast food joint or taxi driver? are you a golddigging ****? | |
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mudbug
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Joined: 2/15/2005
Msg: 93 | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:32:12 AM | i retract that i wouldn't date a cop. i would.
as for the above statement.
are you seriously insinuating that because a girl is not interested in someone who works at a fast food joint that makes her a GOLDIGGER?
would you date a girl who worked at a fast food resturant and had no goals in life?
if you would that just means your as lazy as she is and you deserve each other.
*note~its a different story if they are working themselves through school.... | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:50:44 AM | I don't really care what a guy does for a living (provided its not illegal.. LOL!)
as long as what he does pays for his bills.
In fact, guys with "high profile" jobs do nothing for me, I like a little blue collar.
But what I don't want is to get serious with someone that can't handle things on their own.... I'm not paying for somebody's credit card bills they racked up on their last
girlfriend, or the car payment on that massive SUV he just had to have that has
payments that are above the persons means.
And that could very well result in excluding someone who works at McDonalds
or as a bartender, etc. but also could be a doctor or lawyer. Its not the job,
its the lack of responsibility. I don't want to inherit somebody elses money issues.
I've seen way to many girlfriends of mine take care of men's money problems,
only for the loser to leave after hes been bailed out.  | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:51:30 AM | P.S. Mudbug.... I dated a cop for 2 years. I will never do it again.
But it wasn't his money or the danger factor... it was his crappy attitude
and his tendency to stray. And hearing about all his buddies doing the
exact same sh!t.... no thanks. *groan* | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:57:55 AM | | no gamedork...if i was a gold digger, i would be with a rich man right now as we speak...and believe me, there have been many opportunities that i have turned down (if that's what you want to refer it as). I am a very independent woman, and i have many goals in life...and i would like the man i am with to be on that same level ...As far as i'm concerned, any man at my age working for a cab company or a fast food joint, has to have something wrong that he couldn't make anything better of himself. As far as not wanting to date a cop...i have my own personal reasons for that. | |
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mudbug
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Joined: 2/15/2005
Msg: 97 | |
| Finding out what you do for a living ceases conversation......
Posted: 3/7/2005 12:00:38 PM | i'll drink to taht, very well said.
ps shannagin....i see where you are coming from...but i dated a marine once who was an awful awful person, just like all his marine buddies...and i swore off of them..but here lately i've met the nicest guy ever..and yup~he's a marine. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 12:04:21 PM | Hey you never know.... but I dated 2 other Cops (casually)
after him... and they almost as bad which is why they never became anything.
(Don't ask me why for 3 years nobody but cops were interested in me. I'm still
mind boggled on that one!).
I think I'll try for a fireman next instead. LOL! | |
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mudbug
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Joined: 2/15/2005
Msg: 99 | |
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| Finding out what you do for a living ceases conversation......
Posted: 3/7/2005 2:16:21 PM | and what is so horrible about being a cab driver or working at a fast food joint, IF it pays the bills?
I completely understand about not wanting a guy who's going to expect you to pay his bills. but if he can pay his own bills, sure he may live in a tiny apartment and drive a crappy car, but what's so wrong with someone being okay with that? to me, anyone who's not okay with someone's financial status, providing he can pay his own bills, is a gold digger. | |
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