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Posted: 3/8/2005 8:25:28 AM | All u ladys who think your man needs 2 have this great job 2 get all the finer things in life.....HMMM Maybe you need a job!!!
I buy everything I want or need in life, and I'll be d*mned if I am gonna go gold diggin for some man 2 do it for me....thats SO LAME! | |
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Joined: 11/13/2003
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Posted: 3/8/2005 11:30:13 AM | I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I believe that I kinda understand what "mudbug" is trying to relate to us. Basically I think that she is saying that she is appreciative of a man, a mate, a friend, that will share her enthusiasm to grow, evolve, and improve in all aspects of being a human being. Be it a job, a career, a relationship, a parent, a lover, or a friend, whatever. She would like to surround herself with people who by nature, contiune to set the bar higher. People that continue to challenge not only themselves, but those around them by their actions and zeal. I get the impression that she is a person that thrives on the process of learning and sharing. That's cool, and if you don't get it, peace, eventually you may, just keep listening and read past the words, hear what's being said. I think that we all are suseptable to being reacionary sometimes, especially if someone finds the right button to push. But one measure of a reasonable person, in my opinion of course, is the ability to recognize when they have stepped over the line with someone, and their willingness to acknowledge it and make amends without compromising their position. In other words to respect everyone's right to their personal perspectives.
Too many words?????
Yeah, I guess so...sorry about that POF people...guess I'm just naturally blabby!!! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2005 12:06:07 PM | it's funny, but girls go through that stuff too.
i bartend. i started out part time, but realized i was taking in more money than i did as a teacher or marketing director, so i went full time for a while.
guys run away when they hear that it's my full time job. which is fine with me.
then there are others who automatically think i'm a dumb bimbo, and try the condescending route with me, until i start talking about topics i can tell they're not capable of conversing about. (i also throw in big words on purpose) shuts them right up...but, unfortunately, it narrows my choices of intelligent men I'D date. and, the pickings are slim to begin with (in the bar scene, that is...not trying to male bash here!) | |
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Posted: 3/10/2005 12:46:40 PM | here's a question for those who "value hard work" and wouldn't date "lazy" cab drivers:
would you date someone who was financially secure but didn't work? like a sweepstakes winner or trust fund kid or someone who inherited a decent amount of money?
assume this person is responsible with their money and doesn't squander it like a lot of people who get windfalls do. | |
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mudbug
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Joined: 2/15/2005
Msg: 165 | |
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Posted: 3/10/2005 1:01:45 PM | I haven't had any trouble with this kind of thing with people from the forums, however, most of the girls I've emailed with a bit have immdiately terminated contact when they've found out I was actually a 27 year old guy who's getting ready to go back to school.
At first it bugged me to no end~ I'm a quality dude just giving the online thing a shot.. then it dawned on me that there's practically a billion homeboys on here just like me who are making 40K a year more than I am..
it makes sense I get looked over on here by the locals... Colorado is an expensive place to live and why take on somebody who's no better off than they are?
Sooooooooo... now that I'm pedaling cocaine, all the ladies are flocking to me. | |
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mudbug
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Joined: 2/15/2005
Msg: 167 | |
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Posted: 3/25/2005 11:35:51 PM | | blue_sky83 I agree with you completely! It's not so much how much they make, it's if they are passionate about what they do and drive to reach for those goals to make their dreams come true.....it's all about being passionate about life!!! | |
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Joined: 4/24/2004
Msg: 170 | |
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a_vamp
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Joined: 4/24/2004
Msg: 171 | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 9:41:28 AM | Wow... just finished reading the firework...
OK.. I live alone, buy/cook my own food, clean my own home, do my own laundry, buy my own solitaire or whatever I want myself. No man here to support me to date, but do I want my guy (if I ever get one) to have a sober job? Yes.
I wouldn't care about a guy's job if I'm seeing him just for hanging out. I once went out with this German guy from POF. I paid for his beer at an upmarket bar because he couldn't afford it. Alcohol is expensive in Singapore, I know he doesn't earn a lot and I suggested that bar. Its OK because we're friends and I am already thankful that he flew down from Germany.
However, for a "potential husband material", a guy needs to prove that he's able and willing to pay for the family's expense, eventhough I'll definitely be chipping in. He need not be earning a lot, but he's gotta have a respectable job. I am Chinese. My family will meet the guy if I'm serious about him. Even if I'm financially independant, I want my family to see that he's someone who's able to take care of me (and our future kids if any) and they can trust him. I don't want my dear parents to worry about their daughter getting a "hard life".
I also believe a man with a respectable job is serious about his life and not just looking for "fun". I hate the word "fun" in dating. It has been grossly mis-used nowadays.
I also need someone with the same interest. And will a guy from a different income group who doesn't share the same kind of life-style as I do has anything in common with me? Unlikely. So why waste people's time since I know it'll be stressful for him to live up with me?
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Posted: 3/26/2005 10:11:24 AM |
They must not like the idea of moving every 4 years
More's the pity. Moving is an education, the process itself sucks, but i love getting to know new people and make new friends.
We have a naval nuclear training program 25 mins away from me, and many of the guys I go out with are currently in Navy. (saying goodbye sucks though. I have a few friends leaving within the next 6-10 weeks) | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 10:59:18 PM |
Tell em your a trashman and see what happens!!!
I heard the one's in New York are like wayyy overpaid. Plus you get to dig through people's trash for hidden treasure. I know when I've asked my son to clean out the garage, he throws out alot of the stuff I wanted to keep. I'm down to a half empty craftsman tool chest now... Hopefully the trashman can benefit from my loss. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 11:06:19 PM | They must not like the idea of moving every 4 years
I'm in the Air Force and I love the fact that I've had many chances to pick up and go somewhere different. It makes life interesting and you meet friends no matter where you go. I've especially enjoyed living overseas.
I'm trying to get an assignment back to Europe. Living on the German/Italian economy, being taken in by landlords, and neighbors. The places you can travel to!!! It's one thing to take a week off work to head over there, but it's another thing to do it every weekend. Plus, being an American makes you somewhat more interesting over there. Everyone wants to talk to you. They're curious about your thoughts, and opinions. Makes ya feel special :-) | |
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Posted: 3/27/2005 7:50:58 AM | | I skimmed through the other postings here..but didnt read them thoroughly, so forgive me if this has already been said. If I ever pulled away from some one because of their profession, it would not be a financial decision. It may not fit my lifestyle, ie, moving every 4 years, but to rule someone out because of money is wrong. As long as you go to work and live up to your obligations, give it your best shot, and make an honest living, you are alright in my book.. | |
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