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Posted: 2/1/2006 5:32:40 PM | Maybe she has some kind of spell on you. This seems like a very pushy woman who thinks she can get whatever she wants. Not a very good trait to have. At least you know what kind of a person she is, do not expect much change from that type of person. So she wanted some space but she wants you to be there for her at any moment? Doesn't seem fair to me.
Don't worry you did not let me down by any means...can you recall me stating this?
It is NOT productive to keep thinking about the past and what you could of done. The best frame of mind is to think about your current situation and to set some goals that are attainable.
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Posted: 2/1/2006 8:01:44 PM | givin up....ur goin places with that attitude...good luck ...lol
if you love someone.. ..LET THEM GO....if they come back then its meant to be. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 9:21:10 PM | If they come back means they have finally realized your good traits. To me that is not true love, when someone really loves you they put up with some of the bad and always try to find the good. Of course it is up to the guy to keep on dating/living together as much as the womans choice. Meant to be is a state of mind, knowing who to trust and to respect is what is at stake here. IF she can't stop acting like she is the only one who can raise a voice then you picked the wrong woman to be with. I could never live with a woman that wants to get her way every time.
My thoughts on what to do? Place up some boundaries and set yourself back to friend status, and if she can't respect that then you know she hasn't learned how to be the woman of the house. Be a man and not a mouse. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 9:56:56 PM | | Well zgirlbeautiful i feel is right ,this women has bipolar.It may be a disease but they are quite simply evil people.She does not care about you it is all about her.Would you treat anybody the way she treats you? My advice is she has used you and you will not see your money again.So if you have any means of proving that you lent the money to her,bank transfer or something ring the police and have her charged with theft.As she will have done this before and she will do it again.The latest ploy by mostly australian women is to date men, get them emotionaly involved,ask for money then play games similar to what she is doing to you,then they apply for DVO which are free and you have to go to court to prove your innocense.Do not contact her at all, if you can prove you have (lent ) her the money ring the police,otherwise stay away from her cut your loses and learn from the experience.Not all people are nice people! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 8:24:32 AM | Pluka Duck, what are you on about?...Most Aussie women? ....no wonder you're still single :).
Basically if you live with someone for 6 months or more ( defacto ) you can ask for half of what you have as a couple ( procedures usually takes a while and a lawyer is required).
DVO ( Domestics violence order / in Oz Land ) only gives you the basic conditions like - be of good behaviour towards the complainant .And other conditions are ( when you wish not to live with them) is not to go near him/her or call them on the phone or use someone else to do the contact for you .These conditions usually stands for 2 years .
Of course when the two years are up you can ask the court to extend the time or add more conditions if you feel your life is in danger ).
Now with the money that Lover Boy has 'lend' her the Police won't be able to help him . However if he has sufficient evidence to prove that he has actually lend it to her ( not give ) ...then by all means call a solicitor due to the fact that this is a Civil matter.
Police can only help him if she is a total wacko that stalks him or has cause him bodily harm
or threats.
My question to Lover boy is ....Do you really want to get your 2k back? A holiday as I have suggested would be nice. But in reality it will cost you more to get it back...just imagine the cost of paper work...taking a day off work to go to court , phone calls to the solicitor . solicitor's fee, gas money ...etc ...all that headache and the heartache of seeing her again.
I say forget about it. Change your phone number...and stop being such a girlie girl.
Be strong....weak men are so unattractive .
Pull your head in and start having fun...you're free now .
Pluka Duck is right - '"stay way from her cut your loses and learn from the experience.Not all people are nice people".
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Posted: 2/2/2006 8:28:29 AM | | Does this guy sound a little obsessive or did I read all his posts wrong.. The women was a using unstable women. Do you want someone to treat you badly . Is there something I am missing here. I think you should be throwing a party that she is out of your life instead your thinking of her????? Think of yourself. If you continue to have compulsive thoughts about her I would talk to a dr. I have been burned before and lost even more then you have and been burned worse most of us have been.. But I cannot recall feeling like you did . I got over things very quick and your having a problem with it .. So you got to keep busy and sooner then you think a new women will be in your life trust me.... what your going through happens to us all.... you will be fine,,, and for god sakes why the hell would y ou want to talk to her or call her. If she called me and I was you I would hang up on her and tell her you met someone new or something.. Let her think your hot stuff and she lost you. Just my thoughts | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 9:07:20 AM | | ahhhhhhhhh the wonderful world of head games.....the funny thing about people is they all have these little expectations of others. In your case...You expect that this young lady to pay you back. maybe come back. treat you better perhaps or at least civil. unfortunately these expectations only exist in your head. however she expects you to play these "call and hang up" games and she expects you to do it with as little pride as you can muster all the while enjoying the great thrill and tingle she gets when she hangs up with your pride and heart shattered. Now i have to ask you what are your expections for yourself? Often times i find doing the right thing and doing the most difficult thing are ussually the same thing. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 9:23:46 AM | Hey Lover boy ....
Re: Granuie message
You have had so many people voted for you and have offered their great advice....
This is the 92nd entry...
I have one last question for you....
Only you can decide.
DO YOU WANT HER BACK?
You have til the 100th entry to give us an answer . | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 9:48:03 AM | Hey Troublesome Lover boy.
Your answer should be a direct YES or N0.
No teary 'ifs' or 'buts'.
Your Dr Phil Committee is keen to hear of your decision.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 9:53:35 AM | just as long as i don't have to dress like phil!
tlc: yer mail's set to receive only women... did you know that? (not to mention i find your "age" restriction discriminatory lol!) | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 9:59:22 AM | Ciao bello...
What the hell man!... you are suppose to be italian...you should know when or when not to.
There are shit load of girls seeking for real romantic. get over her. You think she's the one for you?...you guys are not even married yet and you are already having issues man! Take this from a sexually confused guy..."get over her!"...why?...because people who are married for numbers of years ended up getting divrose and they got married because they love each other...now that you are having issues with her now, you might need an affordable attorney in the future. Be italian! Be you..! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 10:05:18 AM | Men are not to be so overly-emotionally-attentive. Girls will lose grip on you. If you are more emotional than her...this is America...
women here are way off different than that of our culture. Our (Italian)women seek so much emotional attention that even our mothers get involve.
Again, bedu.....American women are different. Alot of them seek an average guy attitude and not too emotional about stuff. Because if you are...they tend to overact like what she is doing with you right now. She knows you are emotionally fragile and what she needed is someone to baby sit her!....Come on...i'm a freaking faggot and i don't even act this way! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 10:17:51 AM | lawyer up my friend and get some counseling ....get over her
The lawyer will do he/she are great on doing ...geting whats coming to you | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 10:17:55 AM | Re: Holliness msg
Have you heard of SNAG ?
Getting in touch with your emotional side - in moderation - is good.
But if you start crying like a sorbbing idioit while watching " Desparate Housewife " ...then wooooow...too much!
Anyway it takes a real man to show his tears ....
But don't waste it on someone that does not deserve it.
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Ps : Thanks Mike .... no wonder I've been getting mails from women and thought ..."What the?".....
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pss: Troublesome lover boy.
What is your verdict?
Your 100th entry is up. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 10:40:49 AM | ADHD???? Yeah right. More like permanant PMS or MPD (multiple-personality disorder). She is moving on but letting you dangle, just in case she finds the grass isn't greener on the other side.
I feel so bad for you...I'm sure anyone reading this can relate. Whatever you do...don't call her. Keep your dignity. I know the weakness and the knots in your gut...it's horrible! The only thing to do is just get through one day at a time. Call your buddies when you need to rant, IM someone...someone is ALWAYS arounf on pof to chat with...just don't dial her #.
Might I also suggest:
Take her to small claims court...get your money back...drink tequilla...flirt with hotties at the closest bar and hold out for someone who deserves you!!!
ADHD...**** that | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 10:52:46 AM | Yep, stomach is knots, your world is falling apart, and all you can do is think of her every minute of the day.
It's not she has gotten the best of you. You are being tested. The ultimate test of your manlihood, everything you ever said to her about yourself as a man and every promise you made to her, is literally on the line. So what does she really want?
She wants to know if you can live without her. She NEEDS to know you have a backbone and you are who you said you were. Yes, she is being rude! You have lost your sense of humor. Your serious about everything now, and if you stop and take a look at yourself now, as opposed to who you were when you two first met, you will find that you ARE NOT acting the way you did when you first met each other. Right? Right!
You are nagging her and driving her farther and farther away. If she is a sweet girl, she will have even told you this by now. Do you really want this woman? Do you? Do you really think you have what it takes to be her man? Well, there is a way. But you can't screw this one up.
OK, remember when you first met, what your attitude was like? Was it like, well maybe this one is the one, and maybe it's not? If it's not, I'll just dump this one and move on. And while you two were first getting to know each other, how you probably joked about this, that and the other thing all of the time? So what changed? YOU! So what do you do? Dump her! Dump her for thirty days. Betcha you can't do it. Seriously! But if you can make it past that first week, you might have a shot. Disappear from her life. Show her you have a life. Think about why I just wrote what I did as deeply as you can. This is critical mass, not for her but for yourself. All the answers you are seeking are in these thirty days. And they will surface, they will. You pick up the phone and call her one time in those first thirty days and you will have immediately killed the relationship.
Yes, it's OK to take her call. And trust me my friend, keep it light and humorous and you will evetually win her heart back as in she will discover SHE made a big mistake about you. If you return to pressuring her again, I can say you will have just about did yourself in, and you will be banging your head against a brick wall yelling, "I'm a stupid self-centered jerk!" And guess what? You will be one, just like I was once. I lost the girl of my dreams. One I had searched for for over twenty years.
You now have now been given a certain knowledge and wisdom you have actually not earned. Be wise with what has been afforded to you. It's not a whole lot of fun to have a broken heart and it it certainly is not very funny when you out think your own self into one blundering mistake with her after another, is it? Self-destruction is, well quite frankly, very stupid.
Let her go, she'll come back. If she doesn't you had her all wrong and picked the wrong girl. We have all done that before. A life partner is special but not as miraculous as the love that will potentially develop from such a relationship over the years to come. So be special!!! Become that miracle in her life. Only a special person will have what it takes to pull this off. You can do it if you really meant everything you once said to her and that might just be the miracle she has been looking for all of this time.
Becareful, both men and women seem to have an "out" these days. Marriage is not the commitment is once use to command. Read the weding vows you may say one day and see if you really even understand them. And ask yourself, can I really do what these vows are asking me to do? You may just look at your relatioship with a totally different perspective!
Take care my man. | |
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