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Posted: 2/2/2006 11:27:04 AM | Ok now. First things first. Take a deep breath, hold it, hold it.....ok now let go. I know what you're going through. The pain you feel right now can be temporary or it can last you a long time. So you ask what I can do...well, it aint much but, I hope this helps you. First of all you have to realize something. Did you love her or where in love with the idea of being in love?? Next, how good did you treat her?? Good or bad? If you did anything wrong in the relationship to have her act the way you did then, thats a start where things went wrong in the relationship. If you were always good to her. Then friend, she didnt deserve you. Its ok to feel that pain. Even though it feels bad, remeber that its good pain at the same time. The reason for it being good pain is that this is a learning experience for you as love is for everybody. There is no perfect love out there. Thats something we read in books , see in movies, or just wish were true. Perfect love is like peace around the world....never going to happen. All we can do is hope for the best and try are hardest to be the best for our loved ones.You need to learn to let go. You dont have to hate your ex, just realize what you didnt like about her. What she did to you. The yelling at you, her putting you down making you feel low, her constant attemps and successes of instigatting arguements, and most importantly, HER MIND GAMES!!!! By letting her making you feel the way you do, you allow her to control you both mentally and physically. No man or woman should feel that way and feel like sh*t at the same time. Show her that you are strong and not weak!!! Take the fight to her and reverse the situation. Show her that you dont need her. You will see one of two things. She'll either leave you alone and you will over come your pain of her or, she will see you for the man that you really are and realize her mistake of leaving you and want you back. If that happens then, its up to you if you want her back. I know the pain hurts and thats why you must do this. If not, then she has already won.....and all is lost. I hope I have been helpfull to you and hope things look up for you. PeAcE LoVe N rOcK n RoLl | |
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| need some help..please..i am begging
Posted: 2/2/2006 12:59:43 PM | | Your feelings are wrong you should be mad as hell that this women did this to you sounds like you miss her. I have no idea what you are missing... being used and treated bad... think about it | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 1:06:37 PM |
what do i do when i feel week.
Realize it is your decision to be strong or not ?
You are driving, not her. Don't be a passenger.
I have been there ( as we all probably have in our lives, or at least most of us ), and I can speak from experience. Love requires two people that respect and honour one another. If there is only one, it isn't love.
With all the great women out there in the world, why worry about one that isn't ?
Forget she ever even existed, and move on with your life. That sounds tough, but it really isn't. The person you loved doesn't exist anymore, for whatever reason. Realize that, and start living in the present.
Ciao brother, stay strong.
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Posted: 2/2/2006 1:58:56 PM | Va bene!!!!!!
Good job my man!...good job about that big fat "no"...you are missing out and come to think of it getting old...you do'nt have time for that!!!
Time is ticking....can you hear it!...you're a good looking guy, go get you some!
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Posted: 2/2/2006 6:53:08 PM | Ok Italianorvero, go and have a look at yourself in the mirror, you are an incredible looking man. Go get drunk, have sex, get drunk again and then have sex again. The woman is not for you, got out, get dating. There are thousands of sweet wonderful woman out there who would love to be with you. Do not let her and what she is about cloud your judgement of other woman. We ARE NOT all alike. We are not all ****es, we dont all care about money. Treat us the way you want to be treated and they will be beating a path to your door.
She is holding you in her control by telling you she loves you one minute and hates you the next.....she is A PLAYER, run as fast as you can. Believe me when I say life is to short. You may be 30 now but in a blink of an eye you are in your 40's. Get out there and get dating. like I said who coulod say no to you you are incredibly attractive. Be strong, dont be a wuss! | |
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| need some help..please..i am begging
Posted: 2/2/2006 6:59:45 PM | The Dr Phil Commitee is very glad to hear of your decision " A BIG FAT NOOOOOOOOOO" 
Please Keep up the good work ...( and we will send you the bill soon !) 
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Posted: 2/2/2006 7:08:16 PM | Thank you for your compliment your Holiness .....
There will be a cheque in the post for you :) .
Have a great day everyone.
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Posted: 2/2/2006 7:47:51 PM | an empty bottle
a broken heart
an'you'r still on my mind
No body's worth that to you
But you're "on the rebound"
it shows
to ladies
don't beg her
forgive the debt
if she pays you anyhow
find out why
good luck
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| need some help..please..i am begging
Posted: 2/2/2006 8:00:31 PM | | Dude, Take this opportunity to turn and run as fast as you can away! Your getting worked and one way or another it will only get worse for you, not better. Sometimes my friend you just have to move on. Best of luck. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 8:03:14 PM | | ....to begging.....I was given up by the love of my life (also wife and mother to our 5 year old) almost one year ago today....Lust and infatuation lasts only 12 to 15 months according to the experts and I have been waiting it out!! It has been hell...But, hey...I'm 51 years old and I have a bit of time under my belt. Let her do what she has to do.....If it doesn't turn around after nearly a year.........HELLO!!!! It's time to move on....... | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 8:09:23 PM | uh... excuse me, do u even know what you are talking about? I am bipolar and a depressant and never ever in my life would I use that as an excuse.
You just can't diagnose something like that on the net. Wow, amazing how many so -called Dr's there are in this world | |
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Posted: 2/3/2006 7:08:46 PM | | LOSTSOUL can you put your picture on POF so we can see what a bipolar looks like,or is your other voice telling you not to. How many peoples heads did you f**k with before you where diagnosed. Sorry but i have been in a relationship with a bipolar and believe me when they are not medicated they will suck the life out of you. They f**k with there own heads every day so they are proffesionals at screwing with yours. So keep up the medication and show your face. By the way i sincerly hope you apoligised to those people you screwed with once you were diagnosed. Try it it will actually make you feel better. | |
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| LOSTSOUL
Posted: 2/4/2006 10:58:05 AM | @lostsoul:
Try to follow my post 37 and you will feel better about yourself. You were born into this world a beautiful person but the world is filled with hardships. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 11:47:10 AM | you know what im bi-polar hahah and from what im reading she might just has unresolved issues in her life cause being bi-polar doesnt make you make decisions it switches your moods around
and if she was bi-polar its very easy to tell. and most bi-polars when they dont take medications become violent and say harsh "crazy"[i use that term as light as i can] things that would make you notice something was mentally wrong with her.
my 2 cents.
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Posted: 2/4/2006 12:04:00 PM | dosent sound like shes got adhd but shes bi polar, it sounds like she dosent want you but she
also dosent want you to be with anyone else, she wants you to beg for her, women like that make me sick, All these nice guys just wanna love someone and women take advantage of that, gives us all a bad name..
so my advice is tell her to go kick rocks , cause hun you could do better,, Remember theres a million fish in the sea and shes just one, so stop calling her and i bet she will call you and tell her umm sorry i am busy can i call ya back , and when it come to money sometimes its better just to let it go.. i kno i have exs that still owe my money but i just took it as a loss,, | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 3:09:01 PM | Look i think you had better up your medication. You say that you are bi-polar and that it doent make you make decisions ,it switches your moods around...........Seriously, did you make a decision to post a reply? ...or was it a mood change. You cant fool me puppet!
thanks SASSYSARRA22 ! your guttsy . | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 3:55:08 PM | | Do your research Pluky Duck. Medications do not work all the time, most times it is hit and miss. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 6:27:41 PM | | So what point are you trying to make pooooey ? She made the statement . And if more medication doesnt help maybe you can give up work and your family to help her.... | |
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Posted: 2/5/2006 5:06:11 AM | If you don't want her to get the best of you.....hold your head up high, forget about the 2k, and act as if your as happier than happy and that will get her to think. If you let her control your emotions and feeling.....she is winning. If you don't, then you win. Not to make this out to be a game, but you shuold never let someone take your emotions aways from you for they are yours to own and nobody elses'.
When you are able start to let go and find other things to fill yout time, when you start to smile for no apparent reason, laugh, and find joy inside yourself....that will be the time when she wants to work things out. It's then, you must remember the pain she caused you and hard as this may sound, tell her your doing better then ever with out her.
Idea: make a list of the pros and cons of your relationship and see which list is longer. Go with that list. Don't forget to add all the times she has hurt you, individually.
If her moods are changing so drastically from one moment to another, I would entertain the idea of maybe she might be suffering from what is called rapid cycling bi-polar disorder....i am by no means a MD or even a mental health counselor, but have work in Social Service and studied mental illnesses. The pre-resiquites you mentioned don't seem to fit ADHD criteria. This is just my observation. Do some research on bi-polar on the net and possibly you might see a connection regaring her actions. Again, this is just my personal opinion.
Chin up, smile, think positive, and in time you will be a better person having gone through such a rough time. There is a saying: 'In order for a person to grow, one must first experience pain". ~author unknown~ I just love that because it is so very true.
best of luck italianovero~~
you CAN get through this....
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